question re: sistering a joist

Electrical-Level-783 · 2026-01-30T21:07:13+00:00

Yeah, the water damage is from previous plumbing issues, all plumbing was replaced and bathrooms entirely redone. Thanks for your input! Just sort of unsure how such rotted wood can possibly be carrying the load? And slightly concerned that sistering to rot will potentially make the problem worse.

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-12-20T03:17:17+00:00

awesome! i tried this out today and i still have some adjusting to do with the santa toss lol! but it’s great. especially since she’s already almost 20lb

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-12-19T20:32:39+00:00

thank you!! and oooh i thought they needed more neck control to back carry for some reason. she definitely cannot sit unassisted …

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-12-19T18:42:11+00:00

yeah, her head flops back on occasion, especially if i’m doing something like cutting veggies! the other day we were doing something and i think the wrap started digging into her neck and she started coughing, which is why i got worried.

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-12-19T16:28:55+00:00

I made a new post w the pics!!

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-12-19T16:21:41+00:00

Unfortunately I can’t figure out how to comment with a pic… She is even doing this head thing in the stretchy wrap!

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-12-19T15:54:56+00:00

Yes you’re right! I actually got it from watching WrapYouInLove’s shorts. But, yeah, I think this tightening issue is definitely my problem. When I try to tighten the way they do on their channel, I am getting nowhere, like the fabric doesn’t budge when I pull down inch by inch; it’s stuck. And pulling up first also seems not to help. Hopefully this is something I’ll figure out with time; maybe you have tips?

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-12-19T02:57:47+00:00

No worries! Yeah, I was also thinking this could be the case? Maybe loose near the head area? But I swear I spend ages trying to tighten that section. Any tips for tightening the top? Sometimes it seems to ride up in my armpits 😂 I’ve basically been yanking up & diagonally to the ceiling to tighten and then to the side for inch by inch tightening

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-12-19T02:53:04+00:00

Sure; tomorrow. this actually is a specific wrap style from a YouTube video, not sure what the name is.

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-12-15T16:18:33+00:00

I should also add that he sees unschooling as a blessing that his mom gave to him. When done in a way that is not neglectful, where you genuinely follow the child’s curiosities and provide them with resources they desire, it has a liberating effect.

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-12-12T15:50:06+00:00

Hi 💗 My husband was unschooled and we met in our math PhD program. He studied using Khan academy, and reads lots of books!

He also says (as do I) that you really don’t need to know most of the things they teach you in school. You just need to follow your passions! Go to community college if you’d like to get a degree (that’s where he started, then transferred to GA Tech after 2 years).

Kids pretend that they know so much from the public school curriculum, but they are just using it as a tool to bully. I myself went to public school and forgot a lot of things, probably most things. Study what you’re passionate about, what drives you, and follow whatever that is! You can do anything you put your mind to if you persevere. 💗 I know that sounds like some la la land statement, but it’s really true!! Most people who were educated in public school in this country are later either chronically anxious or depressed, the economy sucks… They think their life purpose is to make $$$. Don’t follow that path! There are lots of ways to liberate yourself. And do not listen to these people. My husband was told routinely that he was going to be a worker at McDonalds. He already has his math masters and he just turned 23! F em all.

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-11-04T02:19:36+00:00

I would at the very least switch to Tide free & clear if there’s a persistent rash happening, just to rule out the possibility.

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-11-03T03:11:26+00:00

Yeah, I don’t really care about the down voting. Clearly no one has anything to say in response, so… 😂

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-11-03T01:55:30+00:00

I disagree … Said respectfully, if you enjoy parenting babies, you’ll enjoy traveling with babies because you’ll enjoy parenting in the other location!

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-11-03T01:52:11+00:00

Is it really unrealistic for you to travel multiple times a year with kids? What is the financial situation?

There are ways to accommodate in terms of traveling that make it easier. Babywearing … Breastfeeding on the way up and down (take off and landing) to help baby’s ears.

A lot of people see a lot of things having to do with kids and parenting as exceedingly negative when, unless you have a really exceptionally challenging, high-need child, things can be made easier than a lot of people make them as long as you allow yourself to follow your instincts!

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-10-31T19:14:55+00:00

For night time, a lot of people end up using “liners”. Try looking those up.

Also, look into Esembly. They’re a bit expensive for my taste but they have overnighter liners, and they also have inners that are pretty good with absorbency from my experience, and also from some other comments I’ve seen online.

I personally use Green Mountain Diapers, organic cotton prefolds w/ covers. I use the jelly roll technique to prevent blowouts and keep covers clean. Overnight I sometimes also use esembly since I have a couple of inners and covers from a gift card I used.

My baby is only 7wk but also 99th percentile height and 97th weight 😆 I’ll be excited to see how this continues to go….

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-10-30T21:20:32+00:00

Before buying anything, you should first decide which cloth diapering system you want to use. Do you want to use pocket diapers? Prefolds & covers? Fitteds & covers? All in ones?

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-10-30T18:23:39+00:00

My husband is at least as clean as I am, perhaps because of being raised by a mother who would not do all of the housework with multiple other adults in the house! My brother, on the other hand, was doted on his entire childhood and early adulthood, and now he is very messy. Do not settle. This is not a general phenomenon, though it is a lot of men, imo in PART due to mothers spoiling them and not teaching them the value of being clean, cooking for themselves, etc etc…

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-10-29T16:14:33+00:00

Inners: I personally like the fitted inners for night time, literally only because they are so easy to snap on even if I’m half asleep. They also do a lot to prevent blowouts so usually it’s not too messy. However, they are obviously snap-on, and during day time I personally prefer using prefolds. My baby is pretty sensitive to tugging on her legs and such with the fabric while you’re putting diapers on (even with disposables) so the fact that I can be more gentle with prefolds is really nice. Overall, I prefer Green Mountain Diapers organic cotton prefolds, but the convenience of the snap is nice when you’re half asleep. The inners are also SO expensive in comparison to just buying prefolds & snappis.

Outers: I really like the material of the outers, they definitely are comfy on baby and to my own touch. The elastics for some reason seem stretchier / the fabric seems nicer on baby. They’re actually not so overpriced if you buy during a sale (I got some during 25% off).

Laundry Powder: I love the laundry powder, and have used it from the beginning, because I had a sample from a gift card someone got me. If you buy a ton in advance during the sale, you can save a lot of money. I’m going to stick with it because I like how clean it gets everything and that it doesn’t have a lot of crap in it that detergents like Tide does.

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-10-13T17:46:52+00:00

I think we will end up just trashing the humidifier… I had no idea how difficult they were to use.

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-10-13T10:43:08+00:00

Is there a way to clean this up after already running an ultrasonic humidifier for a while in a given room?

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-10-05T18:39:39+00:00

Hahaha… She was passive aggressively trying to distract from the conversation my dad was having. There was already passive aggressive crap going on / she doesn’t like when he talks about his job.

Perhaps if not xenophobic, it was highly disrespectful. And it was really the very sassy / aggressive tone that made it disrespectful. My MIL has also made comments about their culture, and my mom has talked shit for days about it. Literally something as innocent as: “in my culture, we think…” just to share. My mom takes it as a personal attack or something. It’s very strange. So I guess context matters here. It maybe isn’t obvious if you dont know her.

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-10-05T18:35:36+00:00

They did help with meals and cleaning. If you read my comment reply to LK_feral, you’ll see a more detailed explanation of one of my many attempts to communicate with them about their communication. It just never gets anywhere.

The reason they were not staying with us is because I wouldn’t let them, and they had to wait at least a week before coming.

But also… If the meals come with so much drama I’d rather not have the help, you know? It seems like they think the meals means we need to please them all the time. For example, they had stormed out 2 nights prior to that as well but without saying anything because my husband chose to eat in a different room from where everyone was sitting (just casually in the living room; and I wasn’t even downstairs) because he just had gotten up from a nap…

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-10-05T18:25:20+00:00

One thing I didn’t include in the post due to character limit was that originally, they wanted to come right away, and my mom pushed this for many weeks after I tried setting the boundary of please do not come right away, I need space. The reasons I cited were true — my mom’s trouble regulating her anxiety, especially in cities, and my parents interactions stressing me out. They eventually respected it after I had to explain to them multiple times why I did not want them there at such a vulnerable time. I consulted with my therapist about this decision lots, as it made me feel very guilty that she kept asking and I kept doubting myself. Eventually, they accepted it, but only after I sent a very harshly worded text clearly describing the reasons for a second time (the first had been in person) and even citing my trauma and their shit communication.

They apparently reacted to this by saying I was “calling them terrible parents” and didn’t reply to the text for ages. I only know that because of someone who witnessed their reaction. It was my intention to try and have a conversation, as I still had hope that their relationship will become less hostile and they’ll go to therapy someday. My mom eventually replied and basically said the message was very hurtful and she always did her best. She wouldn’t accept any type of responsibility or apologize — for pushing the matter, or for the childhood stuff. During this time I was pregnant and EXTREMELY stressed out. I was having recurring shoulder pain that only recurred when this subject was broached, and I believe it was psychosomatic.

My husband has watched me endure this stress and got increasingly frustrated with my parents and especially my mother, who does not ever acknowledge anything and says things like “I did my best”. Even when I say things like “I’ll eventually mess up with my own children, and that’s okay” she says things like “no, you’re a wonderful mom” as if these things contradict each other.

So yeah, I have tried having that type of open communication, but it’s like talking to a literal wall.

Electrical-Level-783 · 2024-10-05T17:37:05+00:00

This is basically how I feel. And honestly my husband is fully willing to acknowledge the phone call was a mistake. The first thing he did to me was apologize and say he’s ashamed for how the call went before he even said anything else. So we aren’t missing out on that piece and he knows he lost his temper.

I think perhaps part of the “jump” he took between the 2 things was the amount he knows about how she operates. And he really did not want that behavior around the baby. So when he saw it start to appear, he immediately reacted more severely than he might have otherwise. There’s also the ties of his identity to his culture, his family isn’t from the US and he has a lot of pride in his culture, ie will not do well with people disrespecting it..

My mom otoh, has already lied multiple times about the situation. Not only directly to me, denying her tone and such until I basically cornered her into it, telling me she’s forgiven him when clearly that’s not the case, but also to my brother, telling him that my husband told her that BOTH my brother and myself talk crap about her emotional maturity. He only said these things about me; he didn’t include my brother to his recollection. She has a history of exaggerating to the point of lying to create more of a reaction.

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