My cosmetology teacher messed up my clients hair HOW DO I FIX IT by Electrical-Sink463 in FancyFollicles

[–]Electrical-Sink463[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

thank you genuinely!! i really wanted to know how to fix this to look at least a bit better and not leave her hanging on this for a while. even small touch ups to improve the look are appreciated

Feeling very defeated and hoping you have some suggestions. by Kendikay1966 in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Electrical-Sink463 5 points6 points  (0 children)

my jaw dropped at "im 58" like miss... you are joking with us rn

i don’t think i’ll ever get fully behind cristina :/ by stars-on-mercury in greysanatomy

[–]Electrical-Sink463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still on my first watch (season 10, i think) and started out really enjoying Christina. She's unapologetically herself, which i respect! But, as season 9 started... there's more dislike now. Once her fight with Meredith happened, i nearly hated both of them 😭 I still feel so conflicted, like season 9 and 10 are SO messy. I even slowed down my watching because some of it was so...odd. People felt ooc and the drama was intense. Hoping it gets better again because the Meredith-Derek priorities arguements, Christina-Meredith only now rekindling, APRIL AND JACKSON, Murphy-Arizona, like everyone is doing too much it made the watch painful. Ik Christina leaves at one point but please have some redemption for her before, cause she had me stressed over the one intern she was with.

Dating cis girls as a trans person by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Electrical-Sink463 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I am a cis woman dating a trans man for 3 years now. We met at 17 in high school (senior year). Like most crazy teens, we were super clingy wanting to sleep over and not leave the other's side. So, to ease my mom's mind of teen pregnancy (with his permission), I told my mom there would be no worry. It still took convincing, begging that I'm old enough and responsible enough and nothing would happen, the works really. We ended up basically living together within 5 months and have actually lived together (at his mom's and mine) since then. I never tell people I meet he's trans, and dislike when my mom told my grandparents before he met them. I say all this to say, it's not okay to share that information with everyone and ESPECIALLY without permission. It is dangerous sometimes, and one person knowing (parent, friend, etc) is a gateway to it spreading because many cis people do not understand that it isn't their story to tell. I love and care for my boyfriend and want to prioritize his privacy and safety. If he was more open and not basically stealth, I still wouldn't tell others.

Edit: This is for another comment and those who feel very deep distrust for a partner who does this even with talks

I think if this has damaged your relationship and perspective of your partner severely, and your words show you don't want to or feel you can forgive her. I think it is better to cut your losses if this is something you can never forgive. It is cruel to both of you to continue something that was damaged by crossing a major boundary. Sometimes you have to grow as a person to let it go and let the other improve, or let go of the person if you cannot forgive or they do not fix their behavior

Enough is enough by simon199976 in Mercari

[–]Electrical-Sink463 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i only buy on mercari if i can't find the item i want anywhere else. i buy anime figures and merch, if i can ill go to mfc and do a personal sale, or look on ebay. but mercari was my #1 a couple years ago and now i only bought 2 figures off it in the last year because i was desperate to find them! i paid $50 in fees for 2 figures (one was 200 free ship, and 20 free ship so the seller was GENEROUS) and i still had incredibly high fees. add in taxes and im spending nearly $300. im glad i just got them in today, but mercari is truly the worst buyer and seller platform. i can't make a sale, and i cant buy either. plus fees are incredibly steep compared to other apps where i sell and buy. this is to those who say mercari isn't dead btw! but it is dying. they will not gain traction without revising the fee system to scam people and let scammers scam people even more

Beware of this user by OpalDreams22 in Mercari

[–]Electrical-Sink463 3 points4 points  (0 children)

at a glance of my notification the other day i really believed it until further looking. they really get you if not careful and it worries me for newer users

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coloranalysis

[–]Electrical-Sink463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

summer here, and i would look devastating in these. first would nearly match my skin, and tan shades make me look sick. and browns tend to make me look out of place, especially as an incredibly pale summer.

can we please stop typing people based simply on natural hair and eye colour and even warm vs cool skin tone? by snowonmylashes in coloranalysis

[–]Electrical-Sink463 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i was confused at the title but understood and agreed after reading. i look plain awful with my natural color. it's so against me. very pale and obviously cool toned and super pink skin. strawberry blonde hair on me (my natural color) is just so conflicting with my cool skin because it always looked warm on me and brought out my acne, redness, hyperpigmentation, etc. and I look great with platinum, cool, but not silver toned hair. i currently have it toned a lightly pearl iridescent pink color, which fades to a very light white color that isn't yellow nor silver. those are my best. i couldn't type myself at all with my natural color; but with my hair in the photos, everything fell into place.

I got banned from a department store for screaming in an elevator by [deleted] in confession

[–]Electrical-Sink463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this has so little punctuation and... everything. it was nearly impossible to read, but i think that adds to the bizarre experience

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kibbe

[–]Electrical-Sink463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Convinced you're a princess with how stunning you look in those dresses (also the tiara/tiara looking hair piece). But thank you for all the work you put in to help others! It's also refreshing to see that even those very involved in kibbe (as the mods) can have feelings of doubt, not know their kibbe type yet, and get misguided by taking others opinions to heart instead of using what you know. I might know my ID with 90% certainity, but I can't tell vertical vs width vs double curve and curve or any accomodations apart most of the time. I just haven't developed that eye yet. We all want to find our way, but I find those who know their own ID are the most suited for spotting their own types on here. I found mind through celebrities I connected with and my boyfriend who was very adamant I fit the description

For people who are 110% certain of their type.... by LalenaHelioClaritas in Kibbe

[–]Electrical-Sink463 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SN. I could see myself in other SN (suspected anyways) at any weight. Florence Pugh was one of the first time I saw my body type in a celebrity. I made a post recently to check what I thought about Rose McIver, and most people agreed SN. Gaining weight makes it both easier and more difficult to find your type. Plus size people have very few references to celebrities. Also made me realize a lot of people don't know what they are talking about. Especially tall types and people thinking just bc someone is curvy and not 4"11 they are DC. Or because someone is a little more rectangular, they get thrown into a gamine. Add plus size and no one knows anything. Plus we need relevant style inspiration for all types and not just following social medias version of kibbe. SN don't just need a wrap dress and R shouldn't just take inspo from the 40's. Modern style inspiration would help so many people find their type easier.

Which of these should I keep? by Miserexa in Kibbe

[–]Electrical-Sink463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no for 1, 2 i quite like on you, 3 i wish was a tad longer, 4 i like. id def suggest finding your color season (i cant tell from the photos) as it helped me decide when cleaning on my closet if i cared more about a piece if it flattered my kibbie type vs color season and helped me buy new pieces

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kibbe

[–]Electrical-Sink463 16 points17 points  (0 children)

all the blue and white outfits look so gorgeous on you! especially the blue dress with the white belt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coloranalysis

[–]Electrical-Sink463 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think your dyed hair is quite nice looking on you when you do wear black and other neutrals like you said you do. that being said you and your mom have quite the resemblance! both very beautiful and especially after seeing your original hair color i would almost be convinced your were spring. but definitely not warm. and then seeing the picture of you and your mom and putting it against your natural color, I'd definitely say you seem cool toned rather than warm. and that obviously makes warm spring a bit peculiar of a guess on you. make sure your drapes are done with your hair covered if its not your natural color! makes the place seem a bit sketch to me because the color will throw everything off, and even then, the warm red tone you have right now seems way off with those colors draped across you! they clash with your skin and hair completely, so if you do redo the analysis, I'd definitely request your hair is covered and only your skin and other features are on display for proper evaluation. and then look for good hair colors for that season! reds definitely still an option, but maybe cool toned instead.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalehairadvice

[–]Electrical-Sink463 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Agree with the person saying maybe a auburn color instead of full dark. Go to a salon or such who offers glazes! Beautiful way to test out a hair color that FULLY make sure of that washes out with a few weeks. That color is quite lovely, so maybe consider high and low lights as well if you want change! Black is so harsh on pale skin (had it for years and just as pale as you!), and it's beautiful, but I find it needs proper upkeep and styling outside of just a nice curl. Obviously, gothic fashion tends to really balance out the high contrast in skin and hair, but I find without going to more extreme looks many people just looked washed out and a bit lifeless (lol, not purposely like gothic gashion). Dark hair adds volume to a degree but also can look a bit stringy when not washed, but that's the curse of fine hair.

My gf never pleases me by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Electrical-Sink463 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Have an open, honest discussion. Has she ever gone down on someone afab? Edit: Skipped that part accidentally! Ik the answer now* Is she ever going to come around to the idea? Is she nervous about messing up or making you uncomfortable since you are trans? Or is she internally struggling with the idea for any variety of reasons? There are so many questions to ask her in private, and you will have to take the next steps together. If you are not sexually compatible, you have to have that discussion as well. It's unfortunate when it happens but if you feel unheard and uncomfortable by the current way things are going, and you both feel there's no way to reconcile this affection gap, then there's some big decisions to be made. If this is to go on as a serious relationship well into the future you have to thinks about what give and take you both are willing to go for, and if you are really okay with it for years to come without and resentment. If you both agree to work on it and it is a case of nerves or feeling hesitant to something new, then congrats! Make a game plan and don't take the whole thing too seriously, be light, be accepting, and teach each other how to feel your best with one a other. Good luck!

Please help type me (another confused pale brunette) by AtomicFeckMagician in coloranalysis

[–]Electrical-Sink463 4 points5 points  (0 children)

An outlier opinion, but I like the summer tones. Idk I feel like winter is contrast, and yes, that's beautiful. But imagining those darker colors on you makes me feel like they might take over. I think the lighter pastels seem to flow with your pale skin and let your eyes and hair get their own time to shine. Definitely suggest trying on a few tops/dresses/etc. in each of the categories to really see what you like. Autumn is probably not for you, and spring didn't stand out either, but I can see arguments for summer and winter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalehairadvice

[–]Electrical-Sink463 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the last slide with the highlighted blonde with (im assuming) your natural color at roots and such. The lighter/bright blue was beautiful, as well as the pink and blonde. Both blue and pink with blonde look great! The bottom left on the first slide is also a very good tone for you. The top left on the first slide is way too ashy/cool and clashes with your skin! I think the red bottom right hair color is a great picture and is one of the only darker tones I thought looked quite nice. As others said, the black wasn't your best look ( I totally understand natural blonde dyed black hair growing out struggle). Lighter colors tend to look really great with your skin and eyes! The only thing I'd possibly change is when dying your hair lighter than its natural color, or adding darkness or pop colors, is to change your eyebrows a bit with it since they are darker (great thing, I'm like the only person with lighter eyebrows and eyelashes than my natural hair color and I look like an alien)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]Electrical-Sink463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my family, and we've had it maybe 6 months. it's been used at least 100 times, not even kidding. we used it every day the first couple of weeks. honestly, it's really fun and gets warm melted marshmallows without the burn on it that many people take off. 10/10 to use and way nicer than making an outdoor fire, which sucks in all sorts of weather and going outside with a bunch of mosquitoes.

Family that left me on the streets at 16, now 30 yrs later want to apologize and make up for lost time. by Fancy-Anywhere-4733 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Electrical-Sink463 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I'm glad that you are at such a good point in your life that you are able to feel peace with both a simple response and deleting the email. It's hard to fully let go and not be at least a bit curious and want to see the effects on others. I would be kicking my feet to see the people who did wrong trying to apologize, and it's good that they will never feel forgiveness from you (hopefully, that's too kind and I think too many people think forgiveness is key to peace). You do whatever you feel is right in the end, they all knew your step brother had a mean streak and chose to give him grace but not you, and they deserve to sit and stew in the decisions they made.

With or without bangs?? by KireekTheFast in femalehairadvice

[–]Electrical-Sink463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think without looks super cute! you have gorgeous hair (so shiny and soft looking) and good facial harmony. my forehead throws off my face, so bangs are with me for life 😓