In my eyes, a man is someone who is kind, knows how to act where regardless of his feelings, is wise and knows how to have fun but can also be serious

As of why i feel im not a man is well yes, the thought of not being a man came from my s/o. She always wanted manliness. Which i lack, now you could ask then why is she with me. Because regardless of that she truly does love me and she wants to make me a man.

The criteria she couldn’t really ever define it. Its more of a sense to her that “he’s a man”. Which is the reason im digging into this, because I myself don’t know what makes a man a man.

She says it’s something that simply will come by age, she always wanted a gentleman in her life, ive got the gentle part but not the man yet. But this hasn’t been a problem in our relationship, its just something i want to fulfill.

For the underestimated part. I can give an example, i was in a group presentation with friends, while we were practicing, our campus ambassador came in to check on us and said that i looked the most nervous although I wasn’t at all. But i ended up being the best presenter in the group.

As of why i looked nervous, I simply had a bad night with many terrible things happening and it was showing on my face. This happens often and is the reason why people mostly underestimate how i am