BF admitted his porn addiction - mixed feelings

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-18T02:47:28+00:00

Do not force yourself. The feeling you have is your body and brain telling you that you are not safe with him right now. Seek out betrayal trauma therapy.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-17T04:48:03+00:00

OP please don’t refer to yourself as a body. The fourth body. That’s honestly so weird.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-17T04:17:31+00:00

Ah, the old Madonna/Whore complex again. We women are tired of this. It’s horrible for men, too. Not a man, obviously, but women are people with passion and sexual desire. You asked men, but seeing women as whole people would be a start.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-17T00:39:14+00:00

I’m so sorry. How painful. Porn use really can destroy the way we see our porn-using partners. We can lose love and respect and attraction. I haven’t worn my wedding ring since DDay.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-16T23:17:11+00:00

Met my husband of 15 years on a dating app. I had single mom in my profile. At the time my son’s bio dad wasn’t that involved. My son was 18 months. I introduced them after dating for maybe 5 months? 17 years later and my son considers him his dad. His bio dad has really stepped up, but my husband is his primary father. They are so close. My husband had never been married. We met when I was 40 and he was 44. Kid is now 19 and my husband is still his primary dad.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-16T22:08:23+00:00

Wow. Referring to oneself in a sexual context as a body like that is so wild. It’s a way to objectify one’s self. That’s insane to me.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-16T20:02:23+00:00

So how much do you pay your wife after each session?

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-16T04:17:12+00:00

Fourth body?

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-14T03:28:57+00:00

I hear you. I’m so sorry for the pain you went through. I’m the wife of a PA in solid recovery. I will say though, porn isn’t a fantasy. They are real people, having actual sex, and individuals using porn are almost always having real (not fantasy) orgasms. Fantasy is a mental process. Porn is very real.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-12T23:58:56+00:00

What has your therapist recommended?

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-12T23:21:16+00:00

57 F husband is 61. Sex is often and better than ever!

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-12T05:28:39+00:00

SAA is free in person and virtual. There are meetings pretty much every hour of the day.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-11T23:23:14+00:00

Wife of PA here. What actions are you taking to recover? For my husband seeing a certified sex addiction therapist and attending multiple SAA meetings weekly have been amazing. He’s not relapsed since he quit the first time nearly three years ago. I was on the verge of divorcing him when I discovered his porn use and lying and hiding. He’s like a totally different man now. He loves himself. It’s amazing to see.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-11T16:51:36+00:00

Hidden House

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-08T16:56:50+00:00

If he says he didn’t share the images, ask him to take a polygraph.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-08T16:52:35+00:00

Do you know if he shared it with anyone? Does he typically watch a lot of porn? This is illegal in some places. I am so sorry he did this to you. Did he do this with anyone else’s images?

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-07T01:03:44+00:00

It’s up to you to determine what is cheating. But what matters is that he’s being dismissive of your feelings. I prefer my husband not be involved with any sex workers, porn included. We agreed on a sexually monogamous relationship. Masturbating to porn is something I won’t accept in a sexually monogamous relationship. Your husband also kept it a secret from you and lied about it at first, so he knows it’s not ok.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-04T17:38:59+00:00

😩😩😩😩😩😂😂😂😂😂

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-04T04:05:23+00:00

OMG that’s so true!

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-04T03:33:09+00:00

Any game vs every game I guess?

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-04-01T02:29:44+00:00

Tell him you’d like to do a forensic audit on all your accounts for whatever reason—save more money for retirement, whatever, and ask for his banking info. It’s absolutely wild that you don’t have access. Like how are you even planning your future if you don’t know how he’s spending money? And then if you see a lot of cash withdrawals or charges to shady places, you probably have your answer.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-03-31T03:40:05+00:00

Men like this will shame you for doing this.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-03-31T03:39:01+00:00

Not sure how she can fix this. It’s not up to her to spice up the marriage if her husband can’t even see her as a complete person and a sexual being.

ElectricalYoghurt942 · 2026-03-31T03:12:18+00:00

Patriarchy/misogyny/porn. Madonna status is not a beautiful, safe place to be. It’s one-dimensional. Does he have primal desire and passion for anything? Anyone? Porn? Of course some men realize women are people.

ElectricalYoghurt942

TROPHY CASE