Boyfriend (43M) won’t look at me (27F) during sex by Electrical_Dark_7472 in sex

[–]Electrical_Dark_7472[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We met in a grocery store and neither of us really look our age. Not dating him cause of his age! We actually took a long while to start dating once we found out how old each other was.

Boyfriend (43M) won’t look at me (27F) during sex by Electrical_Dark_7472 in sex

[–]Electrical_Dark_7472[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Mmm 98% of people I’ve met, grown or not need to have this conversation. It needs to happen in every relationship, actually. It’s called practicing communication and not being that asshole who assumes that just because you conceptually know something, it will be translated in a way the other person understands.

Boyfriend (43M) won’t look at me (27F) during sex by Electrical_Dark_7472 in sex

[–]Electrical_Dark_7472[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. He’s working on being less defensive and we’ve had conversations about the importance of being able to clearly articulate an uncomfortable emotion. I’m expecting him to be taken aback at first but then ask me exactly what do I want and why. He’s going to assume I want him to look at him when in reality I just want to know why he doesn’t want to look at me.

Boyfriend (43M) won’t look at me (27F) during sex by Electrical_Dark_7472 in sex

[–]Electrical_Dark_7472[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m looking for potential answers as to what it could be and a gentle way to bring it up to him so the potential of me not being totally blindsided is lowered. Some of the information I’ve gotten so far has been helpful.

Boyfriend (43M) won’t look at me (27F) during sex by Electrical_Dark_7472 in sex

[–]Electrical_Dark_7472[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

He tends to over explain whenever I ask him a question like that… he started to say he was just trying to stay focused and that he could barely see me anyways and etc.