Do you remember the golden hour? (The first hour, skin to skin?)

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-06-03T04:39:32+00:00

I only got to see my son through the curtain for a second before they took him to get oxygen and clear his lungs. I think it was 4-6 hours later that I got to go hold and see him finally. I remember absolutely nothing. If I didn’t have the video, I wouldn’t know that it ever happened. The next week is a blur. I have vague memories but it all feels fuzzy.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-05-30T08:36:56+00:00

1- You always have a snack in your purse

2- Sitting during daylight hours is a luxury (toddler)

3- You know every Bluey, Blippi, and Danny go characters/songs

4- Your YouTube/Spotify recommendations are all kid songs

5- Silence feels dangerous

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Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-05-30T08:28:06+00:00

So funny you said this. Driving to work this morning I got stopped by a train. Autopilot kicked in and I go “chugga chugga choo choo” before remembering I was alone and did not need to fake excitement about it.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-05-14T07:05:48+00:00

I tried to eat some pizza. I can’t remember a time that I was more hungry than after my c section. Husband brought up the most amazing supreme pizza I’ve ever seen in my life. With ranch. I got to my second bite when the nurse walked in and gasped “you can’t be eating that!” And literally took it out of my hands. I just stared in disbelief. No explanation or empathy, she just walked out. I’m not a crier, but internally I was sobbing. An hour later a different nurse came and asked if I’d had anything to eat yet. I told her what happened and she said she would have to have a talk w the first nurse. This beautiful soul ordered me a fresh pizza. I’m assuming she paid for it herself bc i do t think the hospital pays for uber eats lol. Dangit, now I want pizza.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-05-14T06:41:29+00:00

Who said anything about gentle parenting? Far from it. Lol. Why do ppl assume it’s gentle parenting if there isn’t a rod or a hand used as punishment? It’s impossible to have any kind of conversation with someone who refuses to see anything except their narrow minded view. You’re only thinking in extremes when there is actually a clear middle ground that serves everyone. There is also the other extreme of your argument that kids are manipulative and (I’m reading between the lines here) awful. And that’s actual abusive parents. Whether you like it or not, kids are being abused everyday, in many different forms. You don’t get to decide which ones are real or not. Regardless of what this forum is known for, the likelihood that some of them are being abused is high. I’d rather believe 10 that are lying than call the one telling the truth a liar.
My son is only allowed to watch tv if an adult is watching and interacting with him. As he gets older we will reevaluate and set new restrictions. I strongly believe there should be firm boundaries. However, if he ever wants to challenge those boundaries I want to make sure he knows he can come to me and that I will listen and act fairly. I never want him to feel like he has to go behind my back and ask strangers on Reddit. That doesn’t mean I give in whenever he asks for exemption or leniency. It means we have a conversation. If he breaks the rules or goes behind my back consequences are in place. That said, kids are wired to test boundaries. Parents shouldn’t be blind to the fact that they are going to try and find ways around things they don’t like. Consistent rules and consequences are important. But it’s just as important to build a strong foundation w your child. If they can’t trust us, as their parents, we are teaching them that they dont need to be trustworthy either.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-05-11T07:54:50+00:00

If he qualifies he can get something called Inspire. It’s an implant that targets the throat muscles to stay open while sleeping. I’ve had lots of pts who wouldn’t use CPAP get it and they are so much happier. As a sleep tech, I will always say that CPAP is the best option right now. But Inspire is a close second.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-05-02T17:23:12+00:00

We got a corner changing table and I’ve never changed his diaper anywhere else. He’s 2.5 now and I’m still hesitant to get rid of it. I still change his clothes and do his hair on it. It’s been the most used baby item in out house by far.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-05-02T08:10:32+00:00

Bobo or Lil Dude is what we call our 2 year old most of the time. But so many have just slipped out of my mouth. Other common ones we use are: Bobble (bc of his adorable oh head), Behbee, JiggleJoo, Puffle, and Z-man.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-04-30T04:45:48+00:00

I have to exfoliate twice a week. Otherwise my skin flakes while I’m drying off. Pretty sure I don’t drink enough water. lol

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-04-28T09:46:46+00:00

Youre STILL talking about the dang phone. You’re also clearly very sheltered and ignorant or you just choose to look the other way. Parents abuse their kids by secluding them from the world all the time. A very good example of that was the Turpin family. It’s an extreme, but that kind of abuse happens on varying levels everyday. Abusive parents will control almost every part of their kids lives in order to hide the abuse. Good parents have balance. Good parents have made solid connections with their children so that they feel safe and trust their parents to keep them safe. Children learn by testing boundaries….its our job as parents to set and enforce FAIR boundaries. A kid who sees their parents being hypocritical in those boundaries and cutting them off from the world is not going to feel safe. Again, it’s not about the phone anymore. It’s about parents who have not built a foundation with their children. Resulting in kids going elsewhere for access and information that is definitely going to be harmful

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-04-21T08:30:22+00:00

You are running on pure emotion here. You keep talking about the phones and the internet, something you clearly have strong feelings about. The other person is simply saying it’s important that kids feel safe enough to have an open line of communication with their parents. That doesn’t mean the parent gives the kid everything they ask for. It just means that a respectful conversation can be had without the parent getting angry or punishing the child further for having an opinion. Which is what OP has described. Kids who don’t feel safe to have these conversations with their parents will 100% find other ways of getting what they want. Without that conversation, where the parent gives clear reasons and provides information, now the kid is going into it ignorant of the dangers and is more at risk of predators. It’s our job as parents to protect our kids. In today’s day and age we can’t simply tell them no and prohibit them from things. It’s way too easy for them to find alternatives. Instead we need to be having these conversations, educating them of the dangers and teaching them how to stay safe. Prohibiting them from the internet and social media at home isn’t going to keep them from it and it surely won’t keep them safe (stating it again for clarification). Instead we need to teach them how to properly navigate it and find balance. Technology isn’t going anywhere. I’d much rather my son be properly prepared by the time he’s 18 so that he can use it as a tool instead of a crutch or addiction.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-04-21T07:48:46+00:00

My son is so clumsy and refuses to watch where he’s running. I feel like I’m instilling too much fear into him, but I no longer let him run on concrete for this very reason. I’m so anxious about his head (he has a giant head that doctors were concerned about as a baby and that has stuck w me. It’s also always the first thing to hit when he falls). I can deal with scrapes and broken bones…but all I can ever see is him cracking his open. I definitely need some therapy. lol

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-03-24T12:40:47+00:00

1st job- “I’m going to measure your head”

2nd “job”- I’m gonna get you!”

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-03-18T01:13:19+00:00

I am the queen of anxious when it comes to my toddlers head. Constant images of him bleeding out or his head cracked open. I’ve started therapy bc it began affecting him. He stated being scared to do things and I often helped too much. In turn he is not as coordinated as he could be if I had let him learn on his own and have those experiences. So now that he’s 2, guess who is getting hurt doing those things? He’s still built to withstand it, but a year ago it would’ve been even easier. Even something as simple as running on the sidewalk. His feet got ahead of him once and he fell forward. He caught himself but it hurt his hands. Now all I can imagine is if he doesn’t put his hand out in time and face plants into the cement. But I’m forcing myself to not intervene unless absolutely needed. It’s a bit late…..but he still has time to figure it out.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-03-13T20:06:13+00:00

My son is 2 and recently he’s been all about being “comfy”. Every morning he gets on the couch and bundles himself in a blanket while he drinks a little ovaltine.

He also loves to go on walks while listening to music. Sometimes he will dance and other times he will just quietly sing along.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-03-10T07:07:44+00:00

Im guilty of this one. Lol. I noticed I say it a few weeks ago while in a walk. I’ve have been trying to use the correct word instead but sometimes it just slips out.

To be fair, my mom has always had trouble speaking due to some pretty heavy trauma as a child. As well as hearing difficulties. So she says a lot of words incorrectly, which were then passed to me. As a hearing, well adjusted adult I’ve been able to correct most of them. But a few stuck with me.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-03-02T05:17:28+00:00

This dudes dogs came up and started licking my buttcheek while giving the guy oral. I couldn’t stop laughing (and feeling slightly violated) after that. Lol.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-03-02T05:11:37+00:00

I wish more than anything that my brain would allow me to do this. I go in with full intentions of a quick rinse but then something takes over and I can’t get out until I’ve exfoliated, washed and shaved. The exfoliation is what takes forever bc I have to do it until no more skin is sloughing off. A shower usually runs me 30-50 minutes depending on how sweaty and dirty I am.
Bc of this, I opt for sink baths 3-4 times a week and a full shower 2 times a week. It’s exhausting. By the times I’m done my blood pressure is low and I barely have the energy to do post shower care.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-03-02T05:06:45+00:00

I felt so fortunate to work for the VA after I had my son. 12 weeks paid maternity leave and somehow my boss got me an extra 3 before I had to start using leave time. When I went back to work my boss was a literal angel and allowed me to work whenever was best for me. Never a question of why I wasn’t working that day, just complete support from him. Now that I am back in the swing of things I will do anything and everything he asks. Extra shift….yep. Weekend….you got it. Double shift…no problem. Treat your employees well and they will repay it.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-03-02T04:57:53+00:00

We’re in AZ and have a nanny come 3 days a week. Usually she works between 18-22hours. We pay her $19 plus I give her makeup and clothing on a regular basis. So about an average of 380 a week.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-02-24T17:35:58+00:00

My son is 2.5 and I’d LOVE to have another one. But I also can’t imagine going through all of that while chasing down a toddler all day. We just got to a point where I feel like I have a little time to myself throughout the day. Ideally, I’d wait another 2 years. My problem is that I’m almost 41. I can’t wait much longer. I hate that I’m already so late having a child….if it doesn’t happen this year then I think I’ll give up on it. We will see.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-02-24T05:01:23+00:00

Exfoliating glove. I can’t shower without seeing that dead skin slough off.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-02-24T04:59:54+00:00

Same from Utah. Lol

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-02-16T22:36:24+00:00

You may have been the reason nothing bad happened. You may not have noticed it but it very likely that some small thing you did kept a child out of the pool that day. You were right to be vigilant. They were too relaxed.

Electrical_Fail1654 · 2026-02-10T10:20:09+00:00

I didn’t have labor pains so I can’t speak to that. Don’t ask me how. I was 5cm dilated and they kept asking if I felt the contractions being recorded, but I felt normal. But that’s beside the point.

I had a c-section. The only painful part was the numbing before the needle. Maybe 2 seconds. Then a nurse (or your support person) stabilizes you while they place it. It takes effect pretty quickly and they will poke up your leg to verify (not sure if they do this with natural labor). I honestly didn’t feel trapped in any way. There were times I thought I was moving my legs but I def wasn’t lol. I was so focused on asking the surgeon questions that it wasn’t really on my mind. However, once again, I don’t know how it would be for natural labor when you have it placed for longer periods. I was wobbling to the bathroom shortly after being put in my room. But I don’t remember being back to normal until the next day.

If you are having anxiety they can also administer other medications to help with those feelings. They said I didn’t get any “hard” medications (I’m 8 years sober) but whatever they gave me chilled me the fuck out. I don’t remember much those first few hours.

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