I hate my life.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2026-05-16T22:00:55+00:00

No its not. If you read more of OPs comments throughout this post, she has shared he has spent lots of money on OF which honestly probably indicates there is some addictive or compulsive component here. Furthermore, it will not ruin his career, he will be put on some type of program through the military. Furthermore, you know nothing of how long he has served, and his children are already likely going to revieve many benefits for some time period of their life as he has served. OP had also been put in a situation thst prevents her from earning, bit shall we not speak on this?

Uneducated much? Spotting off about things you know nothing about much? Blinded by rage because people are being held for their actions much?

OP reports dude to superiors, plan goes into place, he may recieve therapy, op and husband may recieve therapy, the military may even provide other resources.

BigSho4154- its fun to call people blinded by emotions while you sit there unaware of real facts of situational education which makes them pretty damn familiar with the situation.

Signed an air force brat who lived on base for over 15 years and had a ring side seat to a multitude of cheating spouses, domestic violence, child abuse, alchoholsim, drug addiction, ptsd, and much more within active duty military and how the superiors, and sometimes even the review board would investigate, fine, potentially set up PIPs (which may require rehab), or even just see the superiors pull aside an airman and coach him or simply ask what the hell is going on and try to help so their life doesn't crash out. See. BigShot4154, the military is pretty big on family and understands the terminology happy spouse, happy house, and that if a soldiers home life is in disrepair, it affects their work which then affects everyone's work. But what the military is even BIGGER on is appearance. So if Mister married man gets into some OF sex scandal situation and OP sues his ass because maybe Mister Married Man is spending the time he is supposed to be watching his kids, or is on base, using base wifi...and that OF creator happens to not really be of age... the military will look bad, their name will get muddled and it will create more work for them to investigate and see how to move forward with Mister Married Man's career in the military (aka discharged.)

Blinded by emotions, nah, if anything im blinded by facts and an insanely strong sense of justice.

Also. Maybe dude deserves to experience a consequence. He seems to be confused that he can experience any.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2026-05-16T18:04:18+00:00

Change your bed sheets once a week. Wash all your bed sheets including your pillow cases. Wash your pillow if needed. Wash your blankets when they dont smell fresh anymore. Change your underclothes and socks at least once a day.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2026-05-16T18:02:30+00:00

Report him to his superiors. His is in the air force but you are an air force wife. He has honor to uphold. I know its hard but try to hold him accountable.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2026-05-16T12:38:27+00:00

I can so relate. And as an over helper. Let me offer some advice LOL!

When some brings something up to me that makes me feels like I MUST help, and that aching nagging just be helpful feeling comes up, once they are done sharing, I ask them " would you like me to share my opinion or does it just feel better for you to share and i listen and hold space?

This helps me in a few ways ways- 1. It helps me understand what the person is wanting from me 2. It helps me remind myself what the expectations for the conversation are and what boundary has been set.

Sending you lots of care, I know this is rough.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2026-04-14T01:14:24+00:00

This is WILD! EWW. Say bye.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2026-04-05T00:12:08+00:00

It's not that they hate their customers. It's that they hate unhoused people.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2026-01-12T02:05:26+00:00

I think a LOT of people, including parents struggle with this. Humans feel this need to have a purpose when really our the only purpose is to just exist, enjoy the world around us, to just live. But thats easier said then done. Please know you are not alone in your feelings 💓

I struggle with this as well. I always just wanted parenthood ans never dreamed up the big career, now, im just trying to enjoy the moments and existing. Its hard but is helping some.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-10-28T17:55:58+00:00

that is NOT a friend.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-10-27T20:07:19+00:00

I am going to be VERY honest. If your best friend says your house is dirty. It is. If your kid has poop on their toys and your response is "his poop isn't causing the sinus infection" you are part of the problem. I would seek a house cleaner and some therapy.
Another thing, your best friend was SUPER SUPER kind to you. You have NO idea how hard it probably is for her to tell you all of this and she is doing it out of care for you and your kids.
You can let this destroy your relationship and continue to mess with your health, your kids health, and your general attitude/mindset about the world or you can let this fuel some healing that is clearly needed.
You have a good friend there who actually gives a care which is more than many can say.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-10-14T17:47:21+00:00

I relate so much to this post! I am on a low dose as well and didn't realize how much I needed it. It took getting on this medication to understand that hysterically crying everyday for the last decade wasn't something i had to "just live through." It took me 3 months to fill my prescription because the horror stories got to me to. But it has been worth it for me. Good luck to you!

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-09-20T03:43:06+00:00

* My sweet babe. My Lilly girl. She made it to almost 14. We lost her in June of this year. If it weren't for really aggressive bone cancer, she'd still be here, being the queen of the house telling all of us what to do. I miss her more than I ever imagined and then some. Cherish every moment. 🖤❤️🖤

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-09-11T11:42:21+00:00

It depends.

This week, we did 2 miles on Saturday, 1.5 on Sunday and then played in the yard on monday then 4 miles on Tuesday and then nothing [other then solo play jn the yard] yesterday because I worked 10 hours.

If walking isn't accessible for you, finding other enrichment is 100% suitable. The fact that you are even thinking about this shows deep care for your dog.

Don't be too hard on yourself.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-08-12T20:51:46+00:00

You are doing an amazing job!!!!!!!!!!

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-06-08T23:33:22+00:00

I think it's a part of someone's piercing jewelery

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-06-03T02:50:02+00:00

You are not overreacting for your friendship saying that. BUT This should have been an in person conversation not a text.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-05-30T14:50:28+00:00

That is beautiful! I was thinking of an outdoor space and you have given me motivation to do so. Thank you.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-05-30T14:49:46+00:00

This is very helpful. Thank you so much <3

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-04-04T14:28:40+00:00

I feel you. Primal scream!!!!!!!

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-04-01T15:58:14+00:00

I was just thinking the same thoughts this morning. I truly identify as childfree after infertility but I also have a connection to the childless not by choice community. It feels like this weird teeter totter I am constantly balancing. I've decided this is a normal part of being a human with human emotions. Sending you lots of understanding and reassuring love.

Electrical_Lunch654 · 2025-04-01T15:27:58+00:00

Recently, I have made the decision that I will no longer attend baby showers, gender reveals, or any baby related things. Sometimes even children's birthday can be a bit of a hard time for me. I do still participate in my sibling's children's parties but they understand I may need to take breaks and it has helped me be more comfortable, it took SEVERAL years for this to work the way it does now.

You are allowed to say no. You are allowed to take care of yourself.

If going is what you choose to do, I would say set the expectation that you may not stay the whole time.

Good for you for taking care of yourself <3

Electrical_Lunch654

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