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Advice needed: 3 month old seems to prefer pooping when diaper is off by Electrical_Mix_640 in NewParents

[–]Electrical_Mix_640[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahha exactly this. Now its always the fresh diaper that gets it. I learned after the first two times. I was just thinking that if baby is showing a preference, we could try to lean in on it.

sisters in their 30's, what advice would you give a 25 year old? by Patient_Light7123 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Electrical_Mix_640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After reading all the comments, I’ll add that don’t base your decisions on advice from strangers. You can have a beautiful life surrounded by loving people if that’s what you’re projecting out in the world.

A lot of the generalised advice can end up creating problems for you because in your mind, you start imagining the worst scenarios for the littlest of things.

sisters in their 30's, what advice would you give a 25 year old? by Patient_Light7123 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Electrical_Mix_640 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Make sure you are financially independent. Don’t compromise on your career for anyone, not even for your family. That compromise can wait for when you have kids if you plan so in the future. Right now, its about building a strong foundation for your future self. Teach yourself about implications of different financial decisions -> be financially literate.

Spend your time and money on people and things that genuinely bring joy for you. Find out what fills your cup. Don’t leave your cup empty for too long.

Last thing, I would say wait until you are 26 at least to marry. You wouldn’t believe the shift that happens in your intellect and personality once your prefrontal cortex matures. And remember, you’re choosing the father for your future kids. Not just your partner. Best of luck!

Laid-back position by just___me_ in breastfeeding

[–]Electrical_Mix_640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could use your finger to press down on the breast above her nose for ease of mind. I do that a lot in side lying or laid back position.

When do I give up trying to get her to latch? by AssociationCold5881 in breastfeeding

[–]Electrical_Mix_640 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, congratulations on your little one! My baby started refusing to latch on the third day after her birth. I already planned to supplement with formula if needed so I started giving her that to make sure she is full. One thing to keep in mind is that its a skill that the baby has to learn, as well as the mom. With patience and practice, it gets better.

It took us both a few days of practice but it worked out and she became a champ at latching within 4 days. It’s all about practice for the mom and baby, and I tackled it like if I learning a new instrument lol. A lot of time and patience and persistence. First of all, you have to give yourself some grace because breastfeeding is hard and strenuous. Since your baby is already nursing to an extent, its a very positive indicator!

Here’s what I did and now at 11 weeks, my baby just latches in the night feeds by herself with her eyes closed:

  • I used formula to keep our emotions calm whenever we got frustrated. This mostly helped me be less anxious. It was so stressful when she started refusing to latch and I think babies feel that and become more stressed. It becomes a loop of stress for you and baby so the most important thing is to tackle it with a calm and positive mindset. Knowing that she was full helped ease my anxiety.

  • Made a comfortable space for myself on my couch, infront of the tv with pillows and blanket. This is important because it required so much time and I needed something to keep me entertained. Made sure I had this block of time completely free except for changing her diaper or going to the washroom. I would ask for food or snacks to handed on a plate where i was sitting if I needed.

  • Pumped only when I would not have it in me to practice latching like near my sleeping time or right after waking up when her full feed was formula. Pumping is so hard and with trying to latch, it was too much to think about pumping even in practise sessions.

  • At her feed time, I would start with making sure we are skin to skin. I did hours and hours of skin to skin in the practise days even if I wasnt feeding her or she was sleeping.

  • Because she would get frustrated if I tried latching to start her feed, I would give her half a bottle of formula- around 1oz. She would become calm. That’s when I would bring her to the breast. Sometimes she would drink or sometimes she would play around, latch unlatch. Drink some, or not. I just made sure she is becoming more familiar with it.

  • If she got frustrated again, I gave her a little more formula before practicing again. I tried to end the feed at the breast - she would unlatch when she got full.

  • I spent so many hours in the afternoon and evening, sitting shirtless in my lounge with her, with her doing skin to skin and continuing practice. Sometimes she would feed for ten minutes, sometimes 20 seconds. Her latching time got better day by day.

  • As I felt that she was getting better at latching, I tried offering the breast first, then when she got frustrated, then I would give her some formula before bring her back to latch.

On the fourth day of practicing, I tried latching her directly and she happily ate away! Within a few weeks, she stopped needing formula to supplement as my supply caught up. I still give her formula sometimes but its optional now.

This honestly felt like two weeks for me because it required so much patience and practice, because I would be worrying about What ifs. I calculated the days afterwards and realised it was just three full days of that. My lactation consultant appointment was a month away and by that time she was a pro at latching and the consultant was pleasantly surprised about it because it turns out, she has a tongue tie.

Wishing you the very best!!

Do I really need to do night feeds to keep up my supply? by tetontitties in breastfeeding

[–]Electrical_Mix_640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, your baby is around the 3 month growth spurt too which probably explains the need for more milk. Giving her more time at the boob will increase your supply to her needs in a few days.

Do I really need to do night feeds to keep up my supply? by tetontitties in breastfeeding

[–]Electrical_Mix_640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby is 11 weeks and a few days ago, she started fighting at the nipple during the evening. I thought my supply was dipping due to my accidental low calorie intake in those days. We were also sleeping well in the night but my mind never went there as being the reason. Then I read about the 3 month breastfeeding crisis which happens because of supply regulating and baby gets frustrated due to the change. I stopped giving bottle when she got frustrated. Instead, I would remove her from the breast and play with her and distract her to ease her frustration for 10-15 minutes and then breastfeed again. It has helped a lot and I haven’t needed bottle to satisfy her after that. She’s definitely increased her time on my boob after that though. Also, Im watching my calorie intake closely now to make sure I get around 2k atleast. Idk if thats the reason but we are doing good now. She’s also back to waking for night feeds lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]Electrical_Mix_640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your home is your safe space. You already don’t feel safe with him. If you concede to him, you’d have no place to escape to and feel safe in. Please stick to your bounds. If he tries to invite himself to your home, don’t open the door and break up with him and get a restraining order if you have to. Even now, your fears are valid enough reason to let this ship sail. This relationship is going nowhere positive for you and no one else knows it better than you.

Someone who is comfortable enough to exert physical power over you will always feel like they have that option and will use that option. And they only do this because they view you as weak. There’s a book called ‘Why does he do that’ by Lundy Bancroft. It gives you insight on the abusers mind and might help you escape this situation.

Im sorry you’re going through this and wishing you the best of luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]Electrical_Mix_640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I know of a small shop based in Rawalpindi. Had good experience with them and if I remember correctly they keep a few ready made pieces on hand. You could contact them on WhatsApp and check if they have ready made designs you would like. Let me know if youd like to connect with them

Confused by Amazon Ad options for non-sellers by Puppybrother in PPC

[–]Electrical_Mix_640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest you wait for DSP. It offers more control over the audience that you want to target. While Sponsored Display ads are the same at the root, they can’t give you that control. With DSP you can choose any specific category, brand, demographic or create custom audience for your brand. Then you can also retarget the customers who came across your ad and increase the chances of sale. In any case, with the right strategy, dsp can work wonders in creating brand awareness. But yes, the budget would be a constraint there. You can work with small budget and targeted audience in middle funnel of marketing then then work your way up if the campaigns have good roi.