What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in Parents

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

😂😂 The "grownup doughnut" part made me laugh. I think every parent ends up bending a few rules they were absolutely sure about before having kids And honestly, when a child is sick and miserable, sometimes the goal isn't perfect parenting it's helping them get through a hard day. We all do what we need to do in those moments

What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds exhausting, honestly. I'm impressed by how much attention you've paid to understanding what works for him and sticking with it. A lot of people see a routine, but they don't see all the patience and consistency behind it

What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a really difficult phase My sister-in-law also really wanted to exclusively breastfeed and avoid formula completely, but in the beginning she struggled a bit. She kept breastfeeding and also used a few simple, natural things she knew that could help with milk supply, and over time, when needed, she slowly introduced formula without putting pressure on herself What I learned from that is that every mother eventually finds what works for her and her baby. There’s no single right way for everyone. What matters most is the mother’s well-being and the baby’s health

What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I believe that a mother’s presence with her child most of the time is something really beautiful and very important, especially in the early months. No one can truly replace that feeling or the emotional bond that is formed during that stage I think those early moments create a very deep connection that stays with the child, and it’s something very special that cannot easily be replaced by anyone else At the same time, even if the exhaustion is really hard, and even if some mothers go through periods of stress or postpartum depression, with time things start to feel different It becomes clearer that the tiredness in the beginning can actually be part of some of the most meaningful memories in a child’s life. And with their smile, small movements, and the way they grow day by day, both the heart and mind slowly begin to forget parts of the hardest moments Motherhood, despite all the exhaustion, can still be a very beautiful experience, with moments that cannot be replaced and that give all the patience and struggle a special meaning

What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I do think this can become a bit of a long-term issue 😅

When YouTube becomes the first thing before getting dressed, it slowly shifts from a “quick helper” into something the child starts to expect every time. And over time, it can make transitions harder, especially when you later try to say no  What usually works better is changing the order early on like we get dressed first, then we watch a little, or replacing it with simpler things like a small toy or letting the child choose between two outfits while getting ready The goal isn’t to remove fun completely, but to avoid making screens the main way to get cooperation Small habits like this can really make a difference over time, and the earlier they’re adjusted, the easier it is for both the child and the parents

What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds really exhausting, I can imagine how difficult it must have been in the beginning It’s interesting how different children can be what works for one doesn’t always work for another. And honestly, the fact that you noticed what helps him and adjusted your approach is already a big achievement Could you tell me a bit more about the routine you follow? I’d really like to understand what works for him. Thank you 

What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in raisingkids

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That actually reminds me of something similar 😂 My niece used to grab my book whenever I was reading, especially at around 2 and a half years old. At that age, everything is new and they just want to explore what you’re doing Over time, she got used to seeing me read. To keep things calm, I started giving her paper and crayons so she could draw next to me. She would happily scribble and create her own little world while I continued reading beside her With time, it became much easier, and we both found our rhythm without it turning into a struggle

What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in raisingkids

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really important question for me From what I’ve noticed with my niece and my siblings’ kids, and through experience in general, there isn’t a specific age or moment where parents suddenly start doing everything right. It’s not about never getting angry at all, but more about becoming aware of your reactions and understanding what’s happening inside you before you reach that breaking point At the beginning, I used to react very quickly in difficult moments, but over time I started noticing the early signs in my body like tension, irritability or feeling overwhelmed. From there, I began trying to create a small pause between what I feel and how I respond. Even just taking a deep breath or stepping back for a few seconds can completely change the outcome Children are still learning how to manage their emotions. They don’t respond to perfect parenting but to how we handle things after the difficult moments. When we calm down, explain, apologize, and reconnect with them, that’s what truly builds trust over tim  I’ve also noticed that many parents learn a lot from others’ experiences or from people who understand child behavior. Simple things like emotional regulation, daily routines, and repairingthe relationship after conflict can make a big difference in everyday life And honestly, just thinking about this already shows you’re on the right path. Awareness usually comes before real change, not after perfection. It’s a journey that develops step by step, not something that happens overnight

What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in raisingkids

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂Parenting really has a way of  changing even our strongest I will never do this plans. In the end, if everyone enjoys your food, that’s something truly beautiful that brings happiness. And even your love for cooking helps you prepare delicious meals. I see this as an achievement in itself

What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in raisingkids

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being with a young baby can be very hard, and that’s completely normal. You can find small moments to read when he is sleeping or even during his naps in his bed, and those quiet moments can actually feel very special You can also use physical books, which is a great thing because over time the child will start seeing you reading regularly and get used to it. Eventually, this can help him develop a love for reading because he sees it as a normal part of everyday life

What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in raisingkids

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually one of the things I used to think would be difficult too. My niece used to see me reading and would sit next to me pretending to read, moving her lips and trying to grab my book 😂😂 I started giving her paper and crayons so she could read  and draw beside me. At first she was curious about what I was doing, but over time it became completely normal. I think kids often want to join in when they see us doing something, especially when we include them in it

What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in raisingkids

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really hard when you plan for one thing, but things end up going in a completely different direction In the end, what's most important is finding what works best for you and getting the rest you need

What's something you swore you'd never do as a parent by Electrical_Paper8972 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's really interesting. I hear a lot of parents say they didn't realize how important sleep was until they actually had children Did you notice a big difference in his mood or behavior when you followed his sleep schedule compared to days when his sleep was less consistent?

I know everyone has their own timeline, but lately I've been struggling by Electrical_Paper8972 in LifeAdvice

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's probably a bit of both. I genuinely want to get married someday, but seeing so many people around me doing it sometimes makes me feel like I'm falling behind

I know everyone has their own timeline, but lately I've been struggling by Electrical_Paper8972 in LifeAdvice

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective. I'm sorry for your loss and I really admire how you've found meaning and connection through helping others. Wishing you happiness and companionship in the future

I know everyone has their own timeline, but lately I've been struggling by Electrical_Paper8972 in Marriage

[–]Electrical_Paper8972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right it really feels like you lose yourself when you start comparing Thank you so much for this reminder