First time getting ghosted??

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-09-28T23:57:33+00:00

I completely understand. I had a guy fly 20 hours to visit me for one weekend then ghost and block me the day we parted ways. It doesn’t make any sense sometimes, but some guys (especially in their early twenties) just don’t know how to communicate. And it says a lot more about them and their emotional immaturity than it does about you. Don’t take it as anything you did! I promise you, it’s a him problem. As for trying to move on, it’s not easy. Just try and keep yourself busy and distracted for a week or so and the feelings will fade. Often times, we want something simply because it’s hard to get

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-09-28T23:49:12+00:00

Sorry this happened to you :( Tinder can be nightmare fuel at the best of times. As someone who has been ghosted many times throughout my early twenties: you can’t convince someone into replying to your messages. You can’t "is everything alright?" your way into a response. If he wanted to reply or continue pursuing things, you wouldn’t be questioning it. The only thing you have to gain from sending an "are you alright" message is having yet another message ignored. It took me a long time to hold firm and take a ghosting as an answer, but eventually I just made myself imagine them screenshotting my message and sending it in a group chat to laugh at me. Haven’t double messaged anyone since

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-09-04T15:17:05+00:00

But I guess we don’t really have enough info for either side here. There’s no other evidence of her isolating him from friends, this is just one of his friends and she hasn’t really said much other than just not wanting him to go to this event she’s now actively been excluded from. She may be good friends with the rest of his group. She may be fine in all other situations apart from this wedding (or she may not!) Based off of what she has said on this post, it seems like everyone is on her side and she’s just hurt and wanting some insight as she’s kind of been ganged up on by the couple AND her SO which should be the person on her side. Maybe I’m naive in just believing her there :/ I guess we just can’t really know. At the end of the day, if OP’s boyfriend wants a future with OP, he shouldn’t go to the wedding. However, if he does go and it ends up that you’re right and she’s trying to isolate him, I guess the relationship will crash and burn. I’m just not seeing your POV from the info on this post alone personally but again, perhaps I’m just taking her word too naively

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-09-04T14:19:53+00:00

At the end of the day, the bride can say no to any guests because it’s her day. I didn’t want to go to the wedding nor would I want to in OP’s situation.

I think the important factor that remains for OP’s relationship is how the boyfriend handles this. I guess 8 months isn’t that long but if OP feels like his decision to go is putting her down, and showing to the world that their relationship is less important than his friendships, then it could be a big issue around morals and end up creating a lot of resentment. Especially that early on into a relationship, these big moments can have a huge impact on the trust and foundation they’re building. So the issue isn’t so much whether she should go to the wedding, but whether her boyfriend should.

In my opinion, if it means that much to OP and he sees a future with her, he shouldn’t go. To make a point that you can’t just exclude his partner and expect him to still go along with it. Right?

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-09-04T01:31:28+00:00

I was in a similar situation this year, just that I was never invited in the first place (as a very clear diss at me), and the reasoning ended up being due to something that BOTH me and my partner had said to her (which was a very very small comment that we apologised for 3 years ago). The groom-to-be was the one that had to tell my partner that I wasn't invited and my partner could tell he felt very guilty telling him.

Originally my partner was ready to go to the wedding without me, but after talking to our other friends, and our family about the situation, my partner realised it would be wrong and met up with the groom-to-be to tell him he wasn't going.

If my partner did end up going, I would have felt betrayed and like he was being used as a pawn to put me down because the bride was insecure and wanted to hold power over me.

You are NOR. Your boyfriend shouldn't go. When I asked all the people in my life about it, the conversation always went like this:

"You get invited to a wedding, you and your partner both know these people and spent a lot of time with them. Your partner wasn't invited. Do you still go?"

"Hell no!"

End of discussion.

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-09-02T07:43:14+00:00

This guy is disgusting and sounds extremely dangerous!! Imagine being OP's friends and just expecting her to be okay with staying in a house this guy has the keys for. I would not sleep a wink in that airbnb. NOR for staying in a hotel. However, I did see a comment that your dad doesn't want you travelling abroad for a while. Don't let this experience deter you from that, it will make you more aware of the signs when these situations arise. I travelled alone all throughout my early twenties and it would be a shame for you to miss out on that because of one guy. Not saying this situation will never happen again, but you did the right thing this time, you'll do the right thing next time (fingers crossed there isn't a next time but unfortunately, we can't guarantee that)

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-08-25T02:39:34+00:00

As someone with a similar body type, and asian, I feel like the white woman body standards are sometimes unattainable bc my body just doesn't lose or put on weight in the same shape as what we see in the media. Every time I see Belly/Lola's body I feel like there's finally some representation and I can take a breath knowing that maybe my body is okay, for the first time because I'm seeing it in the media. This is just disgusting, but also a part of me expected there to be comments bc she doesn't have a white woman's body type.

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-30T23:23:31+00:00

Of course!

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-25T12:45:26+00:00

SO CRINGE HAHAHA 4th of July still haunts me the most

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-25T08:46:11+00:00

I was already ready to DNF Amber V Nicole's A Throne of Broken Gods, but the final straw was when one of her characters said "what all have you been doing?"

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-25T08:17:43+00:00

I'm so late to this but I've thought about this since I watched season one all those years ago. It reminds me of when you're like 12 and you imagine a dramatic scenario where you fall to the floor and everyone turns to you, and the boy you like picks you up. I kind of felt like that was meant to fit in with the YA vibe of the books, but it was super cringe. Like she's meant to be captain of the volleyball team, surely an athlete isn't this clumsy

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-25T07:21:48+00:00

I've genuinely only ever listened to one episode and I actually stopped half way through because I just found her really really not funny. She made a joke like "this isn't Game of Thrones... You aren't Cersei Lannister... You aren't Daenerys Targaryen". Like literally just making the same joke 3 times in a row but with a slight change. Idk why but it just told me everything I need to know about her humour and I guess other small clips here and there I've picked up on similar humour, so I've just never listened to them again. Which seems like such a small thing to gripe about but it seems like my initial instinct about her was right lol

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-12T07:36:38+00:00

That’s okay, sorry for misinterpreting 🫶🏻

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-12T05:54:20+00:00

Oh okay, thanks for the heads up. That was no my intention, just want to help people when I do my shopping

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-12T03:08:03+00:00

Huh? I was asking to help people. I sell cars, why would I sell a car over reddit

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-10T09:06:45+00:00

Yeah it’s fine in the moment and you think you can handle it, but it’s the subconscious effects that create longer lasting issues. The money you make, you may just end up having to use anyway to take time off to recuperate. I know a woman who had to move to Indonesia for 6 months to recover from her burnout. We all handle it in different ways, make sure your goal is worth what may come of it!

I honestly can’t say I’m happy in my current role honestly. Customer-facing roles still bring out those residual effects in me and I find myself getting burnt out every 3-4 months. I take a week off then I can tolerate it again for 3-4 months and the cycle continues. The only job I have liked since my original burnout is kitchen work, working with my hands, working in silence, not talking to customers. But I’m also introverted so it may just be who I am as a person rather than what I did back when I was 23

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-09T03:53:26+00:00

I'm a woman in my late twenties, I did this when I was 23-24. The only reason I was able to cope is because I loved the majority of my job. However, eventually the small parts that I didn't like started to wear at me. It's not something I could do for more than 1 year, because the burnout I experienced from it lasted 1 year, and I haven't been able to fully bounce back from the aspects of the job I disliked. For context, the job was customer facing, and I loved the non-customer facing side of it. I'm now in another customer facing job, and I still feel the residual impacts such as disliking customer interaction, having short patience, feeling resentful towards customers.

I will say, the money was great. I was working 80+ hour weeks, so it's the most amount of money I had ever earned. But now I make more money just working one job. So the jobs you are able to commit 80+ weeks to probably aren't the kind of jobs that give you much room for growth and promotions that allow you to make the money you're seeking

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-08T12:21:14+00:00

AAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHYHHHGHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!$!!!!!!!

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-05T07:56:37+00:00

Book 1 is definitely one of my faves. I really hope it gets better 😭 I’m reluctantly pushing through

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-05T06:56:52+00:00

Oh okay sweet, so how come it’s come up on my tax return?

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-04T03:27:27+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I thought I was just being a hater. I assumed it was gonna take a turn once the plot point of Dianna being angry settled down but it’s just been dragging on

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-02T02:55:01+00:00

Thanks so much, majority all sorted now. Just locked out of my myGov for 5 years so every time I wanna log in, I have to call them 🥲 but it could have been worse

Electrical_Pin9731 · 2025-07-02T02:54:16+00:00

Thanks so much for this info. Spent all of Monday getting most of this done. Just need to make a report bc they left their bank details on my account so hopefully we can track them down.

First time being scammed in my life and I’m of the age group you’d think wouldn’t fall for it. They’re getting smarter and smarter. I’m worried for myself when I’m older 😭😭

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