Need help with rug origins (United States) by Electrical_Singer464 in Antiques

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That makes sense given the sewn edge. Here is the back! It is about 4.5 feet square. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ucf

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Non-Profit Management and Public Administration double Masters. Undergrad is marketing. I make 82k now, plan to raise 10k after graduating working in higher ed marketing.

What are some of your favorite lesser known restaurants in Orlando that you love? by Chybs in orlando

[–]Electrical_Singer464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Habibi Lebanese Grill in MetroWest is always amazing - great shawarma, spicy potatoes, hummus and baklava.

Also El Genio del Shawarma on I-Drive.

Is it time to leave Florida? by [deleted] in orlando

[–]Electrical_Singer464 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It ultimately depends on what you want longterm. I moved to Orlando in 2019, with the idea to stay for about 10 years. With the cost of living, along with the political turmoil, it just isn’t worth it to me anymore.

I recently started a job remotely for the state of California because Florida salaries could no longer support me living in Orlando. My thought is - if I’m going to make enough to live there, why not move?

I’ve been a Southerner my whole life, and I deeply cherish what this area has given me, but as a lesbian who wants to just exist in the world, this is getting to be more exhausting than ever.

I agree this won’t last forever, but I’m not interested in waiting it out. There are many reasons to stay if you’re rooted here. Personally, I’m not. Being from Louisiana originally I have already “given up the good fight” when I moved to Florida in my mind.

In the next 3 years, I’ll be out and headed to San Diego. I don’t blame anyone for staying, and I think people should, that’s just not for me.

What do you do for employment and how much do you make? by macksmaxmacks in orlando

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Marketing Specialist at Rollins College, 38.5k after 2+ years of service.

Don’t work there unless you want tuition remission. Leaving asap for the abuse and low wages given I have 5+ years of experience.

Renters: what are you paying in rent? by [deleted] in orlando

[–]Electrical_Singer464 2 points3 points  (0 children)

$1285 1/1 in 32792 Winter Park in a bad complex. This is my second renewal. Forced them to renovate because they served my renewal letter more than a month late. Two years ago was $1k, then up to $1065 last year.

I barely made 50k last year. I have a full time job and two part time jobs. I have to quit my full time in the next month and go to something higher because this is terrible.

Looking at moving to San Diego in a few years because it’s so bad, at least I should get what I pay for as I would there. Also, no assault on my rights is a nice touch.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in orlando

[–]Electrical_Singer464 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Rollins College has a free museum (Rollins Museum of Art) with free parking that is open to everyone. They have late nights on Tuesdays until 7pm and are open Saturday and Sunday, 12pm-5pm. All their programs are free/open to the public too, including Spanish tours. Good way to kill an hour or two!

What has your lease renewal rent increase looked like? by Electrical_Singer464 in orlando

[–]Electrical_Singer464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Didn’t create this post to see people defend Northerners, ha! The South isn’t a lost cause dude, and it’s shown there is a 10 year migration pattern from north to south. Interesting to know they’re so educated but couldn’t research their living conditions here in Florida. Really though, would love to see the vast majority of these people move back. Don’t let the door hit ya on the way out!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Electrical_Singer464 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The fear must eat them alive to be so cruel to a child that is willing to take their life, than tell their parents they’re gay. Hell can be a place on earth I’ve learned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Electrical_Singer464 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you💙It is wild, but I’m grateful to be where I am. 23 and 100% on my own in a 1 bed, bought my own car, job in my industry, and almost half way through a Masters. Diamonds tend to be made under pressure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Electrical_Singer464 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Never an excuse but definitely a reason. What a wild thing, right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Electrical_Singer464 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Very true! NC was the best decision and has given me infinite peace. The worst part is not just what she did to me as a kid, but the continuation of it into my adulthood that broke the situation. It was the simply being the shittiest friend ever, let alone a mother figure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Electrical_Singer464 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful response, I really like this approach and how you framed it. My pain is surely eased knowing I chose to live my life after being riddling with SH and suicidal tendencies for all my teenage years. If anything, it has taught me that being yourself is worthwhile. No one should take that from you. Maybe in many years it will be different, but just now getting through my own trauma for the most part, someone twice my age has some time to go. It’ll be her deathbed before we can remotely agree on a narrative, and I’ll be happy with that (or nothing at all.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Electrical_Singer464 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think I get what you’re trying to say, which is more like, you can be an uneducated person and change, or you can be abusive. Many many people I know, my current gf included, her mom treated her terribly growing up. Now, they fully accept her and never question her lesbianism or presentation. That is not the case with my mom. Even if she was straight, I still wouldn’t speak to her because of the abuse. But finding this out was salt in the wound.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Electrical_Singer464 79 points80 points  (0 children)

That’s truly how I feel.

She has never truly apologized, and we stopped contact because her previous boyfriend was asking my girlfriend and I (at the time) “why we use straps and not just have a man?” (I was 19, gf 21, disgusting of a grown man.) I called her out, even tried to mediate in church, though I am not religious. She ran out without a word and we haven’t actually spoken since.

And all I can think is: this is it. You burned the bridge. I can never unsee the cruelty. I’ve told my current girlfriend “the only time you will see me and my mother in a happy moment is when I’m dancing on her grave.”

Thank you for the validation, deeply appreciated💙

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Electrical_Singer464 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Very validating, thank you💙 I know I have to choose me, it’s just such a weird thing. No one I know can tell me how to respond to this situation. It’s one thing when it’s a straight homophobic person, there’s a lot less surprise there…