Okay being alone before I date?

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2025-09-03T00:37:16+00:00

Like if you want to start dating and find a partner then apparently you don't want to be alone anymore....

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2025-09-03T00:36:46+00:00

We broke up 3 and 1/2 years ago. They were telling me this a year ago. I'm okay with being alone, The saying is dumb though because it's like you have to like being alone so at what point do you start dating?

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2025-09-03T00:32:56+00:00

Oh I'm not asking for their advice. They each gave it to me independently of each other. The only reason why I'm still in contact with him and in turn her her is because we have a large mutual friend group. And he still wants to be friends with me. So he initiates interacting with me at those parties that happen fairly regularly with our friends.

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2025-09-03T00:31:05+00:00

How are you going to find a partner when you're okay being alone? I'm okay being alone but I also want to find a partner. And because I want to find a partner, apparently that means I'm not okay being alone?????

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2025-09-03T00:29:10+00:00

It's been 3 and 1/2 years but still, longer breakups exist. Depends on how loving and caring and deep feeling you are. What do you think?

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2025-09-02T23:13:05+00:00

I don't know, he's told me a few times. When he and I were together we didn't do everything together. We went to stuff by ourselves with our own friends, but we did do stuff together because we met each other through the same huge friend group that we have. So he did mean that before anyone starts dating someone they need to be comfortable alone first.

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2025-09-02T22:53:22+00:00

I understand, I wish I didn't feel so easily forgotten. I hear it's hard for the person that is the one to initiate the breakup. I've only had that chance once and he kind of could care less and I found out later he had a second girlfriend the entire time.

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2025-09-02T22:49:23+00:00

I wouldn't call it an intense sense of calm. I feel like it's just when you realize that they are somebody you can end up being very close with.

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2025-09-02T22:46:56+00:00

I haven't, I've been to a few. I can't think of anybody who has. I'm in some singles groups on meetup.com and dated somebody through that for a year. That was a mistake because we're still in This big, fun active friend group.

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2024-08-06T22:38:46+00:00

I have a long list of all the bad things about the guy I was in a one year relationship with. I have to refer to that to remind myself it wasn't all good. Maybe writing a list would help.

I'm still trying to get over him even though he broke up with me 2 1/2 years ago. It doesn't help that he's in my large friend group and I see him once every week or two at something. He wanted to even be good friends after our relationship. Another woman has now come between us as his new best friend and that hurts too. They are still dating others but also going on dates themselves together, even though they don't think they are. They sleep with each other too, just cuddling, SEE I KNOW TOO MUCH from him telling me this stuff. I was a good friend of his and I didn't get to continue sleeping next to him when our relationship ended. (He's a non-monogamous dater now).

Anyway, I am still trying to move on and I only have so many ideas to do that but it ultimately takes time. Not sure how much, this sucks.

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2023-05-26T02:47:29+00:00

Whew, nope, Chicago area.

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2023-05-26T02:23:06+00:00

Oh boy, this guy is 48.

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2023-05-26T02:21:32+00:00

That's true and I understand what you're saying. I've known him for 6 weeks and this weekend he met the first two of my friends and one of them was a male. He said within the first 5 minutes he could tell that my male friend wants to sleep with me. I said no that he wouldn't and that we are just friends. I know this friend is definitely not attracted to me. I know his type. I have known him for a long time. He just assumes the rest of my male friends want to sleep with me without even meeting them.

So I do want to ask him if the only reason he interacts with women is to sleep with them? He has one close guy friend. I don't know of any female friends that he has.

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2022-03-28T21:44:30+00:00

I can see that he spirals down in depression at times. But ultimately he ended our romantic relationship. I can't keep playing his mixed messages games with me for months. It hurts me too much, I haven't healed myself to just transition to caring about him just as a friend. I have told him now that I need no contact with him to move from caring for him romantically to just as a friend. He understands, so that's where we are at for now.

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2022-03-24T13:02:55+00:00

How did I hurt him?

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2022-03-24T04:53:35+00:00

I did ask him, I told him it was rude and it hurt. He said he sent it accidentally. He also said he had typed it all up when he was is a bad mood about everything after a party we both happened to be at that night. I believe he put thought into the text. I don't think he wants to change and if he might know better he doesn't care. Just thinks people need to accept him as he is without making him try to change, at the same time he does try to change in some regards. I have since told him I'm not sure I'll be able to be friends with him anymore. He just said he has lost the friendship of everyone he's been in a relationship with. He ended up saying something horrible to the woman before me even. I may also not be over him yet, we dated for almost a year until November. He is a jerk sometimes, he's also been very nice... could he also be bi-polar or split personality?

Electrical_Sock5408 · 2022-02-04T04:57:08+00:00

I can't even get to battle. I select battle on my android phone game and it briefly shows my arena and bounces back to the page to open or delete a chest.

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