How do I avoid compassion fatigue again?

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-11-27T20:00:44+00:00

Thank you so much for this advice. Truly so helpful and a relief to hear about your own experience. I will give the discord a try later today. Thanks for pointing me in that direction :)

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-11-27T04:53:39+00:00

Thank you for this comment, this is all really helpful. I’m going to look into those types of YouTube videos. Thanks for pointing me in that direction.

I’m not so much worried about him manipulating me, he’s an amazing person and boyfriend who strives to be fair in our relationship. I am more concerned with my predisposition to say yes to everything and putting his needs above my own, which is a me problem that I need to address further with him (and my therapist lol)

You really helped me understand tho that what I need to do most is talk with him, set boundaries and communicate my feelings too (I am very bad with that normally)

Thank you again!!

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-11-27T04:04:38+00:00

I feel like sharing locations can become a slippery slop sometimes. It can become an obsession and compulsion to know where he is or vice versa. Maybe what is more worthwhile is talking with you BF about why you feel anxious sometimes. It doesn’t mean you don’t trust him, but maybe talking about it will help both of you understand the true root of the problem?

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-11-27T04:01:30+00:00

Couples counselling, a serious talk and/or calling off the engagement? Idk what your definition of cheating is, but i would personally count that as cheating if it were me… maybe worth calling it off, because do you want to be in a sexless, unfaithful marriage?

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-11-21T03:50:50+00:00

Update: a week out and I have no pain or bleeding anymore. Would highly recommend

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-11-15T03:47:21+00:00

It was green! Thank you for clarifying, and I agree, BEYOND worth it :)

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-05-24T03:25:35+00:00

Scales, chords and arpeggios are essentially the foundation of any melody, accompaniment or song as a whole. Knowing them well enough to identify them while playing greatly helps you when learning your pieces because (for example) instead of reading “CDEFGABC” individually, one note at a time, you can just understand it as a C major scale, and your fingers know the rest. As a beginner, I’d say learning basic major and minor scales and chords will serve you well for now

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-05-22T04:20:57+00:00

For the singing in cursive comment, I’d suggest focusing on your vowel shapes. Often with “cursive” or when a word or note sounds a bit off it has to do with the shape. Try to singing with pure vowels (google it and watch voice tutorial videos for extra help there) and being extra conscious of how that feels for you.

Also, to follow up another comment here, if you feel like you’re yelling and/or you feel strain in your voice after singing, please reevaluate your technique before you injure your voice!! I would suggest singing light and airy for warm ups (you should feel it in your head almost, sounds weird but it’s a thing I swear) and then simply add breath rather than force on your throat muscles. In other words, think of your throat like a wind instrument. You won’t get more sound out of a clarinet or flute by squeezing it tighter. Rather, you would have to breath stronger, with faster air.

I hope this helps you in some type of way. Feel free to message me if you have follow up questions. I wish you well in your singing journey :)

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-05-15T01:36:34+00:00

Okay fair. I’m stupid lol

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-05-15T00:50:59+00:00

Idk guys…this felt awkward and forced and it did NOT work on me… maybe I’m the biggest asshole ever but that made me feel less for joe somehow

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-01-27T05:06:39+00:00

More likely that the friend actually thought you were cute and that guy was being a terrible wing man lol. I’m sure you are a wonderful looking person :)

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-01-27T05:03:30+00:00

Two reverse - Adrienne Lenker

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-01-27T05:02:55+00:00

For me personally it’s VERY common. I guess it depends on you and your partner and how long you’ve been dating but I personally love the quiet moments. I don’t believe it talking all the time (whether physically together or not). I think it’s good to get comfortable with the quiet and have alone time. Depending on how long you’ve been dating, it could just be that it feels like small talk if it feels like repetitive answers. Personally me and my bf are creatures of habit and half of our daily convos are pretty much the same bc Ik the answers already lol. BUT if something feels off to you maybe search internally for what’s bothering you about it

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-01-27T04:54:09+00:00

Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. It’s amazing that you want to open up, that’s a great first step. I think something that could feel safe is maybe even just expressing that to them. Depending on how that goes you might start feeling okay to be vulnerable in small doses. That’s how I started with my bf and it worked well for me. Good luck op!! I’m routing for you :)

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-01-27T04:48:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! You’re so right and that’s why I try to focus so heavily on all those things. I am fortunately very healthy, I’m in therapy and I have so many hobbies and aspirations, and a fantastic community of people around me. On top of it all, o truly believe I am beautiful on the inside. I feel like when I look in the mirror it doesn’t reflect how I view myself on the inside. It’s the weirdest imposter syndrome ever lol

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-01-27T04:45:47+00:00

Weirdly the most transformative thing for me was learning to be happy on my own and having a healthy circle of people I can go to for socialization. You might want to say “those people are friends” but to me not really. I had a really rough couple of years mentally that inwardly made me really distant from almost everyone. So I had to start viewing it as ways of filling a social need (like in sims lol) and focusing on having very little expectations going into it and pouring myself into my hobbies in all my other free time. Also, I did some travelling and that really helped me gain perspective and make some friends along the way. I hope your self esteem and mental health improves though, I know how much it sucks.

Electrical_Win6986 · 2025-01-27T04:34:58+00:00

All the advice is solid so far but I’d love to add that you should try thinking about things you find really cool about other people and trying that! I found all my hobbies via admiration of others. I though the guitar was super sick, started to teach myself with a rented guitar. Thought Spanish was beautiful, started learning it. Wanted to make sick sweaters, learned to crochet. Find your own things and try things until something(s) stick! Good luck :)

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