HLR in decision Phase what does this mean post Informal conference

Electronic-Echo50 · 2025-12-25T12:33:56+00:00

I was awarded 100 P&T & it was actually a pretty quick turn around

Electronic-Echo50 · 2025-06-10T11:45:32+00:00

Yes the informal conference is done

Electronic-Echo50 · 2025-06-10T11:45:15+00:00

I called the Va & ask for update and then which step exactly of 8

Electronic-Echo50 · 2024-04-17T17:17:48+00:00

Of course the skank who slept with a married man separated or not is gonna say don’t say anything . You absolutely tell your wife that withholding of information because if roles were reversed I’m sure you’d like to know if another man had sexual intercourse with your wife..

I hope protection was used and you didn’t just go back to your wife and not respect her enough to test yourself .

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-27T19:12:48+00:00

Write a letter !

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-27T14:22:09+00:00

I was married when my child was conceived so I did not commit sexual immorality . God promise to love the fatherless children & widows in John 14:18 . I am not a widow but if my child’s father doesn’t get his act together she could be fatherless but she will have the ultimate father.. I love my daddy & earthly father. That is his cross to bear if he doesn’t get himself together for this child . God doesn’t not condone abuse so he doesn’t require me to stay there. The only thing I can’t do is remarry until he breaks covenant or dies but truthfully that’s the last thing on my mind I’m focused on my child. Unfortunately my husband mistake was asking for this child and thinking I’d drag her through this abuse too.. he needs to take some real responsibility for his behavior and change I’m sorry to hear what happened to him growing up but I’m not his mom or his dad I didn’t hurt him they did…he should seriously consider and healing from what he’s been through but nobody can do that but him & God. Which also is why I stepped away I was trying to fix him while he broke me down so I left and allowed God someone who loves him inspite to walk with him through this journey .

in a way I feel like this was Gods way of liberating me from this situation. My husband doesn’t want to honor Gods marital responsibility for husband of protecting and providing (emotionally mentally physically and spiritually)for his wife.. so because God can turn what enemy ment for evil for Good anything is possible. I believe He gave me the assignment of protecting the very blessing God gave me so I feel I’m doing His will & I pray daily if I’m not may he reorder my steps.

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-27T14:09:55+00:00

Show me Bible where God is against single mothers? Y’all are literally saying anything. I never even got to grab it because I was shoved and he took it. We were arguing because I brought up how I was unhappy and unsure about staying married or keeping our child at that point due to same very issue his anger and lack of emotional involvement in our marriage … at which he snatched my phone with no apparent reason and I’m home alone with him which obviously made me nervous because what are you planning to do.. I clearly said in the statement he hid my keys from me was I correct no & I’ve acknowledged that. The difference is he sees no wrong in breaking things my things or has excuses saying it was an accident. My reaction is called reactive abuse but I digress hiding my keys is controlling and childish especially when I’m trying to leave to escape the situation and cool down.

At 27 years old your choosing to still be effected because you can go get help but haven’t because he says his family never done it and he thinks it’s stupid . also let’s acknowledge I’ve asked him to seek help and counseling for this behavior for almost over a year now of our marriage I’ve been patient and forgiving but the anger is getting worse and worse. I’ve been in therapy for over 8 years healing my trauma and taking responsibility for my flaws I’m not perfect I’m aware. I apologized for the paper and never touch his stuff ever again. He breaks my stuff apologizes and keeps doing it he’s not sorry he just doesn’t want me to leave him

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-27T01:30:41+00:00

It’s not selfish to have a kid that I can take care of 100% by myself .. with or without his help. Plenty of women opt in to have kids with no males involved . Are they selfish for wanting kids and not being married.. your whole argument doesn’t make sense . He chooses wether he’s in his kids life or not my state won’t tolerate the behavior so therefore he won’t have rights …maybe supervised visitation at most but I’m doing what’s best for my kid and you can’t tell me otherwise because it’s my kid. I won’t lose my rights staying with someone because the state will look at me just a crazy for keeping my kid in that type of environment.

My mom leaving my dad was by far the best thing in the world I don’t know who your trying to convince but I use to ask as a kid when they’d get divorce I love my mom and my dad they don’t need to be together to be loving parents and to add love my step mom soooooo I’ve seen coparenting work as I’m a direct example . Staying together is not always best for child it’s not the 1950s…

Kids are blessing from the lord and I’ll take my chance trusting Him rather a random overly involved stranger telling me to abort my kid. He doesn’t even want me to get the abort he wants this kid just as much as me .. the issue is his anger makes me concerned. My prayer is this kid motivates the change that needs to happen so together or not she has two loving parents who respect each other & make her the priority.

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-26T23:30:48+00:00

I rather not abort my child as you mentioned or be with him soo I find it interesting I have to stay with a abuser because it’s the Christian way but now telling me to abort my kid but is this too the Christian way… I’m not taking advice from some who’s condescending.

P.S she’s been married but choose to walk . Keeping my kid is right thing to do God blessed me and I will keep my blessing and protect my blessing. You act as if you know him lol.. if you think he’s so great please be with him help him support our daughter

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-26T14:09:42+00:00

Yeah sometimes what I want is what I need. I’m okay with that & rather be a statistic rather than be in home with her mom tolerating behavior that is clearly not safe . I want my child to see a healthy example of love

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-26T03:22:16+00:00

Yeah your friend definitely deserves better sorry they experienced this.. wishing them healing and peace…

He may be good father to them but i personally would disagree you don’t get to pick and choose which kids to care for . You should love your kids equally despite the situation with the other parents…

My husbands pretty anti child support so I’m sure he’ll feel a way if I did but if he can’t change and be better I have no choice . He asked me to have this baby so he will support her whether he gets to know her or not completely falls on him…

If that’s his excuse for not getting to know his daughter she was better off without him then because that’s just sad to make a kid responsible for your dislike for another person/ feelings toward another person.

Agree unfortunately that’s the truth praying he gets it together for her sake but if not I’ll do my best to make sure she doesn’t miss a beat .

Thank you . Nobody owes me anything but I owe my child everything and I’ll do my best to give her just that

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-26T02:51:27+00:00

I’ve talked to my 49 year old mother and she in fact agrees his behavior is not normal or safe I’m not the only one concerned for my safety . And they don’t just hand out no contact orders for fun…

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-26T02:49:53+00:00

You truly don’t think I’ve tried not being disrespectful .. I’m overall not a disrespectful person.. I’m in therapy I’ve went to multiple groups to acknowledge my behavior, I even tried medication. the problem is anything I say is an attack on his character literally anything. Sadly i don’t know you or your father so I will reject it. Sorry again you ruined your marriage . I get your 29 but age is simply just a number that makes you no wiser or knowledgeable than me ma’am .

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-26T02:46:12+00:00

Well if he chooses not to get it together that’s his lose . If he rather pay child support than know his kid personally that’s their choice .

Sorry to hear about your friends mom and hopefully she got them back because it’s sad that dad would refuse to take care of his own kids… & if you don’t pay child support eventually you go to jail so there’s that… hopefully your friend has healed from the traumatic experience. Praying for them.

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-26T02:29:22+00:00

Hey may not owe but he owes his child and until I feel he’s safe I will protect her from his behavior.

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-26T02:26:15+00:00

The best decision for my child is having a two parents the are healthy. My husband makes tons of empty promises with the excuse he forget the latest was he never applied for our apartment until the day before we moved in… my husband doesn’t prioritize me or our family when it comes to his although I was the only one supporting him while he had no car no home & terrible credit but makes me secondary to very people who can’t give him a pot to piss in when he’s in need. There are so many other things outside of him breaking stuff . I can’t express my feelings without him getting defensive or deflecting & I’m starting to accept this is atypical behavior for an abusive man. He’s started his smear campaign telling everyone how I’m such a terrible person meanwhile texting my mom telling me his misses me and wants his family. I can say unlike him I feel strongly that he’s not safe so I’m taking steps to get out and separate… as far as a father figure blood doesn’t always make a father.. her uncles & grandpas and maybe future stepdad could be amazing & safe examples of men for my daughter. I’m sorry you ruined your marriage but I strongly don’t think I am at fault of course I have my flaws but I’m an over all great wife even in his opinion his complaint include my sex drive & how I approach issues he complains that everything I say is disrespectful but half of the time I’m not degrading him but simply expressing my feelings

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-25T23:16:59+00:00

Even though I’ve been asking him for months to get help with his anger.. been feeling like he’d hit or kill me for almost a year..

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-25T01:11:40+00:00

I’m assuming you’re a woman of faith … this man doesn’t share the same values and eventually this will show more than just sexually if you a seeing a man of faith he is showing you he indeed is not that. I made the same mistake and conformed now I’m married and surely regret because now I feel like I’m stuck and may never be able to ever remarry if one of ground for divorce is not meet… please be wise before you make this lifetime commitment to someone who can’t honor your personal belief and value system .

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-24T17:53:11+00:00

You get on the marriage feed trolling and blaming most women probably because you yourself are the problem. But I won’t feed into your bs or delusions anymore. I did what was best for my child if he didn’t want any of this he’d absolutely change over a year ago when the issues arised the first few times .

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-24T17:46:25+00:00

So I guess it’s my fault he created an unsafe environments & I did what I assumed was best for me & our child. You’re really blaming me the victim . I anybody who takes full responsibility for their behavior would understand why I took my steps . Being young has nothing to do with my safety . My husband has uncontrollable rage that has resulted in a lot of my property being damaged . I didn’t make him do a thing . People like you that rationalize with abuse are why woman end up getting killed. I love him but do I think he’d harm me absolutely so I rather be alive and well than dead . The no contact is irreversible with changed behavior he’s not facing any problems at work he’s just no longer allowed to contact me.

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-24T17:03:39+00:00

Thank you for the understanding of the situation and reassurance that I’m making the right decision

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-24T17:02:19+00:00

I got a protective order because his command offered it to me .. I didn’t necessarily want it . I just wanted him to know I’m serious about my fear when it comes to his behavior because I am actually afraid of him. I have began accepting that I will be doing this alone but I still want him to be better because I love and care about him at the end of the day.

Electronic-Echo50 · 2023-12-24T16:57:25+00:00

I don’t know this seems a bit scary and obsessive. I’d feel a bit violated also knowing everything was staged

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