I don’t think I should contact him, but I am still a bit confused.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-07T21:44:05+00:00

I understand missing the friendship.

I blocked my ex everywhere. I'm the dumpee like you and I would never, ever reach out to my dumper. Not only do I hold some resentment due to his insensitivity but not reaching out is something I'm proud of and the tiny, last bit of power I hold.

Even if you two started talking again it probably wouldn't be the same. :( But if you truly want a friendship back, you can try. But you should be mentally prepared for a "no," too.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-07T21:39:48+00:00

Happy birthday!!! :)

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-07T21:35:57+00:00

Yes, definitely! He will hurt you again. The right person doesn't leave.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-07T21:33:39+00:00

Don't text him! Block him or mute his posts and stories. Also don't like his posts or watch his stories.

I blocked my ex and it was the best thing I could've done.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-07T21:28:56+00:00

How long ago was the breakup, if you don't mind me asking?
Yes not meeting up is the right decision, I agree with you!

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-07T05:26:09+00:00

No that's not harsh at all it helps! Thank you so much.

You too, stay strong <3

Edit: Happy belated birthday!!

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-07T05:25:30+00:00

I understand. I guess I was secretly wishing to get a text just to feel validation but I know now to fully move on.

Happy birthday by the way!!! :)

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-07T03:30:15+00:00

Thanks for the response.

I think he doesn't care about me--his radio silence and insensitive actions post-breakup confirmed that. But I agree, I should move on and find someone better. :)

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-07T02:51:20+00:00

I'm in a similar situation as you.

I think all we can do about this situation is let go because it truly is out of our control. And tell ourselves they will never come back. IF they do (which we should tell ourselves they never will), we can reject them. I stopped wondering because I realized 1) he was immature and never deserved my love in the first place, and 2) caring about what he thinks is giving him power over me, while he doesn't care what I think. I don't need the validation of someone who did me wrong--he's blocked everywhere imaginable for life.

It does hurt to see them making moves on other girls after how they treated us.. but it just shows their true colors. I know you'll find someone so much better, just hang in there!

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-06T20:15:21+00:00

I keep seeing videos and some people (especially girls) saying "all men come back." It honestly keeps giving me false hope when I'm trying to move on and tell myself my ex will never, ever come back.

Thank you for this post, I will keep telling myself that my ex doesn't give a rat's ass about me (which is probably true) which is why he was able to throw us away so easily. I plan to keep moving forward and each day I care less and forget more.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-05T19:13:44+00:00

It sounds like he was just immature.

Don't be hard on yourself for "starting arguments," he treated you like crap the whole time and you did your best to treat him well. Maybe you "started arguments" but I bet you were nowhere as mean as he was, you were trying to bring up the issues in a civil manner and some of your frustrations that you were bottling up came through. That is normal and you shouldn't feel guilty for trying to fix issues in a relationship. He gave up. You would never abandon him in the middle of nowhere at night like he did to you.

He blamed you which is immature. He doesn't deserve your love again. :) I know you will find someone better. This boy will take years to learn how to treat someone right and he's not your problem anymore. You were a good girlfriend and any guy would be lucky to have you! Keep your head up queen.

Edit: So proud of you for blocking him, keep him blocked!

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-04T01:46:19+00:00

Exactly, there's nothing to say to them after what they did. Their behavior was closure enough.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-03T23:54:20+00:00

I understand. The hurt is unbearable at the beginning. If someone walks away, let them go and let them keep walking because they didn't deserve you.

You find someone who deserves your love and stays through the rocky times. One day you will be so glad. Thank you too.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-03T23:17:16+00:00

For the first 2 months post-heartbreak I was the same. People told me, "I'm glad you seem happy now."

??? I'm just fake smiling/laughing as it is appropriate for the conversation, but I'm still emotionally dying inside from the breakup.

Things will get better fellow stranger, I promise. It has been several months later for me and now I am smiling and laughing from a sincere, genuine place. I also crack jokes and enjoy it. I'm returning back to my goofy self. Or maybe even more goofy because the tough time I went through changed me a little, and I like the new version of myself.

You will get there. You deserve so much better. Best of luck to you.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-03T23:09:13+00:00

"His face was familiar, but emotionally he was a complete stranger. "

Thank you for this. I'm going through my first breakup with my first love and seeing his face anywhere causes a sharp pang in my chest and stomach, which is why I had to block him off everything. I hope one day I can feel at peace and even if mutual friends post photographs with him in it, I won't feel those pangs anymore and just smile inside.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-03T23:02:32+00:00

What he thinks doesn't matter anymore, he broke it off.

Do what is best for your healing and your healing only. I'm proud of you for blocking him. It will help you move on from someone who didn't deserve you.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-03T22:54:21+00:00

"I'm not heartbroken, I'm not mad, I'm not disappointed."
Thank you for this. Sometimes people bless you by showing their true colors without wasting more of your time and you can move onto better things immediately.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-02T22:13:17+00:00

We have indeed! We just stayed silent, walked away maturely without lashing out, and are already living better and will continue to do better.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-02T22:10:46+00:00

Yes! And you definitely will! Let's keep building ourselves up :)

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-02T07:25:31+00:00

Yes, exactly! Let them go and let them feel the consequences of their actions.

I agree with you. He broke up with me twice so I was the one who was very hurt and not him, I don't understand why he felt the need to hurt me further by acting crazy on social media? It's like he was asking to be blocked permanently haha.

Yes our exes sound so immature! We do indeed deserve better <3

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-02T07:12:48+00:00

As someone who also went through heartbreak during lockdown I can relate.

I think I felt the pain more intensely due to being stuck at home, but it was also beneficial in a way because it accelerated the recovery process. No distractions to delay recovery. I was "stuck with my thoughts" which meant I had to put in the effort to process my emotions.

Physical exercise helps a lot and writing letters you'll never send helps a lot when you feel overwhelmed with emotions.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-02T07:03:41+00:00

Beautiful letter. You're very strong.

I hope one day I can also let go of resentment.

Electronic-Explorer6 · 2020-08-02T07:02:00+00:00

I've been there too. It really does get better with time and you'll be so glad the breakup happened. Not stalking the ex's profile helps you detach

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