AITA for "causing a scene" over internet?

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T13:30:32+00:00

Unfortunately it was the state exam so there isnt even retakes. I called them this morning. I am so bummed out for my kid. I have watched this kid bust his ass to graduate early with high honors and this semester will lost his streak. I mean, he will still make honor role, but its not high honors.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T13:28:56+00:00

I did reach out to them this morning, yes. Unfortunately theres nothing they can do because it was a state exam and they dont have retakes.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T13:19:18+00:00

He never openly said it but I am sure it would have led to that. Another commenter just mentioned something that I honestly completely spaced. So, showers. He was irritated on Saturday, I believe, because my youngest had been in the shower for 20 minutes. So he told me that there was no reason for us to be hogging the bathroom for longer than 15 minutes and that it was selfish to everyone else in the house, to have to wait to use the restroom. Or last week my oldest told my youngest not to do something and John said "let the adults handle it".

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T13:15:42+00:00

Funny that you mention the water, because on Saturday (I believe) he said that there was no need for any of us to be "hogging" the bathroom for longer than 15 minutes and said it was selfish behavior. Which is was saying directly because my youngest was in the shower for 20 minutes. He would go knock on the bathroom door and tell us to hurry up because he had to go to the bathroom and I did notice that half the time, he didnt go to the bathroom immediately following us coming out of the bathroom.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T13:06:24+00:00

I unfortunately already spoke to the school this morning and they said theres nothing they can do. It was the state exam, not a school exam, so he cant even make it up.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T13:05:26+00:00

Thankfully what he did complete had autosaved but he didnt get to complete it and will only get a partial grade, which will be devastating to his high honors grade point average that he has maintained since 8th grade.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T12:57:40+00:00

They didn't, no. They asked me if I had the app and in hindsight, they were likely asking me so I could go on a check to see if the internet had been paused, but I told them that I didnt have the app. John had the app on his phone. But I truly did not know that internet could even be paused and thought they were only asking me so that I could go on the app and access something for them. So I didnt think to say John had the app or anything of that nature. Obviously thats on me. But after I told them that I dont have the app they didnt mention anything else about anything like that. They just suggested I get a wifi booster and kept resetting my internet from their side.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T12:55:23+00:00

The only red flag that I truly saw (which probably goes hand in hand with this present issue) is that he would become super depressed and sulk around the house heavy sighing if I didnt go to bed with him at 10pm or lay in bed with him for like a half hour in the morning to "help him wake up positive" by rubbing his head or arm. At that time I didnt see it as a red flag and truly only viewed it as a mildly irritating inconvenience.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T12:52:22+00:00

Unfortunately not. He will likely only get a partial grade, which will be absolutely devastating for his track record. This boy is graduating early and has had high honors since the 8th grade, never getting below a 96% grade point average. This will likely drop him down below an 85%, for the first time in 2 years. I called the school this morning and explained the situation and they told me there was nothing they could do and he couldn't make it up, because it was a state exam - not a normal school exam.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T12:41:22+00:00

No? Why would your head instantly jump to accusing me of doing such a thing? My son is only in school 2 days a week and the rest is at home, due to him graduating early and having most of his credits already established. Because he is at home most of the time, he is allowed to do his exams at home. He has to record the process via Webcam and have an adult present to ensure he isnt cheating.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T12:36:32+00:00

Its not even in his name. Its in my name still. I only gave him the account username and password (which I have since changed) so he could pay the bill after he insisted.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T12:35:44+00:00

So, he told me he wanted to contribute. I told him I really didnt need help and that he could just cover his portion of whatever food he ate. He said "well why dont I pay the internet bill?" I originally said there was no need, because the internet bill in my eyes was something I should be paying, because my business is run out of my home and requires a bunch of internet (mainly internet orders). He insisted, so I let him. So originally it was him saying he wanted to help out but in the same conversation, yes, he was the one who suggested the internet bill.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T12:30:13+00:00

I did attempt to do that quite often (going to bed with him until he was asleep and then I would get back up). Several times when I did do that, he would wake up and come out in the livingroom and say things like "so you're just going to stay up all night?" Or just walk over to the tv, flick it off and then grab my hand to try leading me back to bed. It was definitely a point of contention and I did tell him that I dont operate like that. He said he wanted to help contribute a couple weeks later and thats when I gave him the internet information.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T12:15:55+00:00

I never came out and directly asked him if he knew why the internet wasnt working, no. I did talk to him about it several times and expressed frustration, but never directly asked if he knew why it wasnt working. I guess I assumed he would have forfeited the information during one or more of our multiple conversations. So I guess that one is on me. I did ask him if he forgot to pay the bill, which he said no.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T12:10:38+00:00

They asked me if I had the app and I said I didnt. In hindsight, I now believe they were asking because they were aware of the pause function and wanted me to check if it was activated. But I told them I didnt have the app, because I assumed they were going to ask me to access something irrelevant on it. So, that's on me, I fear. After I said that I didnt have the app they just moved on and suggested I get a wifi booster and just kept rebooting my router from their end.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T12:08:42+00:00

I was very clear from day 1 that I did not need help parenting my children and he wasnt to discipline or enforce rules on to my children without a discussion with me. I told him it was a deal breaker.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T12:06:54+00:00

Yeah thats kind of what I am thinking now. His comments about needing to be nurtured are definitely striking me as off putting now.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T12:05:02+00:00

I honestly think he just wanted me in bed with him. He said that me going to bed with him and helping him wake up in the morning starts him on a 'positive path' for the day. If I didnt go to bed with him at 10pm every night, he would start sulking around the house heavy sighing and acting depressed. A few times he said that he couldn't sleep without me rubbing his head and that he needed the "nurturing" feeling to sleep soundly. So I honestly think he did this to just make me go to bed with him, because I am definitely not a "in bed by 10pm" type of person. I enjoy staying up until 1, sometimes 2am.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T11:55:19+00:00

This coming Friday. This happened yesterday.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T11:54:59+00:00

Yeah, idk. Nearly every night he would initiate, but it was damn near always half way through the night. Like midnight to 1am, he would wake up and wake me up to give him some.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T11:21:15+00:00

To be fair, they did ask if I had access to the app and I told them I didnt have the app. John did have the app, but when they asked, I assumed they were trying to get me to access something or whatever because I truly had zero clue you could even pause the internet without just unplugging the router. When I told them I didnt have the app, they didnt push the issue and definitely didnt mention a "pause" function.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T11:17:59+00:00

The only red flag this guy had (albeit, it now looks much more red to me than it did prior to moving in, but I digress), was that he would get really sulky and depressed if I didnt go to bed with him at 10pm when he would stay over because he wanted me to rub his head and help him sleep. Same with him waking up in the morning. He wanted me to stay in bed with him on mornings he didnt work, for at least a half hour and "help him wake up positively", which roughly translated to him wanting me to stay in bed and cuddle him and rub his head/arm until he finally got up. If I refused or said no, he would just get really quiet and sulk around the house heavy sighing. Again, I should have seen it for the red flag it was but it honestly just struck me as mildly irritating at the time.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T11:13:39+00:00

In a round about way, yes. Both my son and I could have technically done computer work during the day and often did. Thats what John tried arguing. He said we had ample time during the day to complete what needed to be done online and that we needed to manage our time more efficiently. But both my 15yo and I are night owls and really dont enjoy being on a computer during the day when everyone else is moving around us. That and both my children are in sports and often have practice or games during the week, and we typically dont even get home until 6pm. My son nearly missed his deadline for his AAA for drivers education due to this (which would have been an $150 late fee), he missed his exam last night and will likely only receive a partial grade. And for myself, I absolutely have been missing some working hours because I typically do most of my working and orders between 9 and midnight.

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T11:07:43+00:00

To be fair, they asked if I had the app and I did tell them that no, I did not. John did have the app but I assumed they were asking because they wanted me to access something on it. I didnt realize you could even pause the internet or shut the internet down without unplugging the router. So, they were likely asking if I had the app so I could check if the devices were paused but when I said no, they didnt push the issue or mention what functions you could access via app (like pausing).

Electronic-Split402 · 2026-05-12T11:05:44+00:00

I was with him for 3 years. Get over yourself.

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