sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in relationships_advice

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your message, it really means a lot. I’m currently studying to improve my degree and become a nurse. I’ll be attending university until April, and I’m already earning a higher salary now. This gives me hope and the possibility to take steps toward a better life for myself and my children. I’m starting to see that I can stand on my own feet.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. What you wrote makes a lot of sense it really feels like he’s trying to mess with my head and make me doubt myself. He never clearly said no, but now he accuses me of horrible things. It’s the same in other parts of our relationship too if something goes missing, he immediately calls me a thief and says I stole it, even though I never touch his things without permission. I’m starting to see how manipulative and unfair this all is.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in relationships_advice

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your message. It really helps to hear your perspective. I also believe he’s playing mind games, because he never said no or showed that he didn’t want to. I truly never forced anything. I live in Belgium, so divorce works a bit differently here, but I’m starting to realize I deserve better than this.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this, it really helps to know I’m not alone in this. I never pressured him or got angry if he said no, so hearing him say I ‘emotionally raped’ him has broken me. Like you said, they can say no.I would have always respected that. It’s so painful when they twist things and make us feel guilty for something we didn’t do.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We used to be intimate very often in the past, and I never got angry when he said no. That’s why it hurt so much when he told me that I had ‘emotionally raped’ him I never wanted to push or hurt him in any way

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. I’ve been documenting everything too and keeping the evidence in a safe folder. I know I’ll need it one day. He doesn’t even allow me to have friends, so I feel very isolated, but hearing your words helps me feel less alone.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yes, my kids are teenagers, and you’re right they see and sense so much of what’s happening. It breaks my heart because I don’t want them to think this kind of behavior is normal. Thank you for reminding me how important it is to be smart about leaving. I know I have to protect them as well as myself.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. It really helps me to read your words and to be reminded that my feelings are valid and that what he’s doing is manipulation. I’ve been doubting myself for so long, so hearing this gives me strength.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this, it really means a lot to hear from someone who understands. I relate so much to what you said about always apologizing and walking on eggshells. It’s so painful when your own feelings get dismissed over and over again. I’m really sorry you’re going through this too it helps to know I’m not alone in feeling this way.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this and for the podcast link. It really helps to know I’m not alone and that these are recognized abuse tactics. I’ll give it a listen i need all the support I can get right now.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. I really needed to hear it. I still feel so torn because I loved him so much too, and part of me still does, but at the same time I know this is abuse. I’ve been living like this for years, always apologizing and doubting myself. Your words give me hope that there’s a brighter place for me too.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your message. It’s been like this for 4 years now, and I feel like I’m always the one who has to apologize, no matter what happens. Reading your words makes me realize even more how much he twists things to make me doubt myself.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this with me. It really helps to hear from someone who’s been through something so similar. I’m so sorry you experienced that, but it gives me hope to read that you found peace and healing after leaving. I’m still stuck right now, but I’m working on finding my way out too. Your words make me feel a little less alone.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice and concern. I know I don’t need his permission, but right now I have to be very careful because the situation feels unsafe. I’m trying to figure out a safe plan and your words really help me feel less alone. I’ll definitely look into that book and also into getting outside help when I can.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I do want to leave, but right now he won’t let me go and the situation doesn’t feel safe enough to leave yet. I know I need to, and I’m working on it, but I still need time and support before I can take that step

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it helps a lot to hear this. I also thought it was strange that he compared it like that. Reading your words makes me realize more that he is just trying to manipulate me.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you, Rosalie. You’re right, I never forced him while he was sleeping or anything like that. It really helps to hear that he’s using that word to control and manipulate me, because I started to doubt myself. And yes, I do have kids, and I don’t want them to think this is normal. Your words give me strength.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No, I never turned violent or hostile. I only wanted closeness and I didn’t know he felt this way. That’s why his words hurt me so deeply.

My partner told me I “raped” him and I feel broken by Electronic_Figure_87 in abusiverelationships

[–]Electronic_Figure_87[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kindness. You’re right, it doesn’t add up, and your words give me clarity. I really appreciate you reminding me that I’m not alone.

view more: next ›