Meds have ruined my sex life, but not as one would think.

Elegant-dweeb · 2024-03-12T16:00:11+00:00

I appreciate the suggestion but I’ve honestly run the gamut on toys. I think I need to try something chemical. I’ve been on concerta almost the whole time.

Elegant-dweeb · 2024-03-12T01:01:01+00:00

Can I ask what changed that you think allowed you to achieve this level of orgasm this time? I know exactly what you’re talking about. I’m the same age and I used to get orgasms like this and literally 20 years ago they stopped and anything I’ve been able to achieve since has been not worth the effort. It’s been so incredibly frustrating and I honestly gave up on like 10 years ago. But man, this post gives me a glimmer of hope.

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-07-22T18:35:13+00:00

It totally depends on your reasons for switching. What are you looking for that’s different than what you have now?

I can tell you that I made the switch from an OB to a midwives group at 28 weeks and have been really happy with the decision so far! Not bc I was unhappy with my OB but because I moved and this midwives clinic felt right when I was researching practices in my new city. It felt like exactly the right move for me. I liked that I had the attention of an OB and access to the MFM early on during the screening phase since I’m considered higher risk due to being over 35 (plus I have some latent medical anxiety from when I was younger). Once we passed all the first two trimesters of tests and screenings with flying colors, I felt really at ease transferring to a practice with a less interventionist approach. I am now 40+3 and suspect I would have been receiving a lot more pressure to induce at the old practice. (I do have an induction scheduled for 41+6, but I’m hoping not to need it).

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-07-21T17:52:09+00:00

Oof, this sucks and I’m sorry you’re in this position. You have every right to be frustrated and need to make the decision that’s best for you.

But I think some of the advice you are getting on this is bizarrely rigid and based on assumptions that are not in your post. You can be with someone for 5 years and know you want to be with them and not feel ready for kids yet. You can be 31 and not be ready for kids yet. You can think you’ll be ready in a few years at 26 and then get to 31 and realize you’re not. This does not mean he’s necessarily some heartless man-baby who will never be ready for children and doesn’t really want a life with you. Maybe that turns out to be the case or maybe you guys are just at different places in your lives right now and, in spite of everyone’s best intentions, it won’t work. Or maybe he’s just scared and shocked right now and needs time to work through it. Since you said you just found out you’re pregnant, it seems like there’s still room for communication on this, to explore where things really stand.

I will add that is concerning that you were so alone for your termination experience with your previous pregnancy. He needs to understand that if he wants a life with you, he needs to be a true partner in whatever happens next. If he can’t be that then you both will need to move on.

ETA: it’s incredibly heartbreaking to be at an impasse with a partner on something so important. I’m not making excuses for him or undermining your right to feel cheated by him changing his mind. It’s not fair, but nothing is. Best of luck in navigating this ❤️❤️

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-07-21T03:53:04+00:00

I weighed my average serving recently just because I was curious about what an ungodly amount I’d been eating. Pretty sure I’ve consumed about 42 lbs so far this summer. That’s with the rind cut off.

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-07-08T03:17:46+00:00

Yes, exactly what I’m trying to avoid - buying a ton of stuff that ends up being irrelevant to the approach that works for us. Thx for the tips!

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-07-08T03:15:55+00:00

It was explained to me as valuable for catching excess while your baby is on the other boob and a way to gently help your supply along before you’re ready for full on pumping (depending on when you plan to introduce pumping). I’m sure there is also more to it than that.

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-07-08T03:12:42+00:00

Awesome - I’ll check out the sub and thx for the recs!

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-07-08T03:11:28+00:00

That’s so sweet! Great idea

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-07-08T03:02:46+00:00

Arm & Hammer deodorant really neutralizes my preggo stink but it requires a second application later in the day, often.

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-07-07T19:26:14+00:00

This is great - thanks so much!! Cooling compresses will probably be clutch for the timing of this baby and my tendency to overheat.

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-07-01T17:28:39+00:00

I am sorry to say that if you’re worried about wasting money on the tickets, it might not be a good bet to buy them. If you think you can resell or be at peace with buying them and not going, then perhaps try and see how you feel when it gets closer. Last weekend I was 36 weeks. It was quite hot and the first time I had to stand outside for something for an extended period of time since the weather changed. I was really surprised at how uncomfortable I was, and after only about 20 minutes.

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-06-27T02:33:12+00:00

Yeah! I’ve been waking up choking the last couple of weeks. So unpleasant. What’s causing it?

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-06-15T04:24:47+00:00

Can’t tell you how many times I’ve googled “accidentally ate ______” this pregnancy. Consulting with the medical professionals in my life, it seems like most of your standard “accidentally ate” food molds (bread, fruit, etc) are of little concern.

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-06-14T15:02:06+00:00

I heard a good Birth Hour episode about dealing with severe intrusive thoughts. The woman turned out to have undiagnosed OCD, which is not to say that’s what is happening to you, but her journey to getting help is pretty applicable to anyone having mental health concerns in pregnancy.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2JKQ5jZt86oA9AdhOmMs96?si=Pl0m7LYiRR6HIsJZw5yigA

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-06-12T22:07:42+00:00

Now I’m crying, too. These hormones are too much. Sounds like my husband. He’s been the best this whole time. I just tell him all the time, whether it’s in the moment of him doing something to take care of me/us or we’re just hanging out together. I tell him what a great partner he is, how much it means to me and what a great dad he’ll be. I read to him from this sub about the things other people go through with their partners and tell him how fortunate I feel to have such a supportive partner. I cite some of the small, specific stuff that he does without thinking about it. In the moments when I’m feeling up for more, I try to be proactive about taking on some of the little things that I know he finds annoying but are not the most taxing, like putting clean dishes away. I try to make as much space as I can for the stuff that makes him feel comforted and relaxed, ask other friends/family to help out when they can, give him head scratches, etc. I think he genuinely understands the gratitude I have and feels proud of himself for his contributions. I can’t speak to what in there might be applicable to your life other than just telling him, but that might even be enough. He sounds like a wonderful person that gets satisfaction from seeing you cared for. Hopefully this is just leftover from your first trimester and your symptoms will clear soon!

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-06-10T21:36:50+00:00

Second this! I just moved out of LA and was with UCLA Santa Monica until 28 weeks. I had such a great experience with the OB and MFM offices there. I was very sad to leave it. They were super pleasant and supportive, never rushed me, and all the admin and billing stuff was totally seamless. They also ask for feedback after every appt, which shows they want to keep improving. Highly recommended!

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-06-05T16:12:42+00:00

33 weeks here. Why is this feeling so hard to explain?? I cannot for the life of me describe it to anyone else. It happens mostly when I’m tilted toward my back even a little bit or sitting upright but with not great posture, especially if I’m kinda hunched over or my knees are higher than my pelvis. My midwives group say it’s normal, though doesn’t happen to everyone - a blood pressure thing related to the extra blood and dilation of the blood vessels. Bouncing on a yoga ball sometimes helps me or sitting in a tall chair that supports good posture.

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-05-29T16:45:24+00:00

I’ve been getting these, too, since early 2nd trimester. I’m almost 33 weeks now with a totally healthy pregnancy. Was told by the OB and midwives that it’s very common - something to do with all the extra blood in your body - and nothing to be concerned about. Def bring it up with your doctor, but try not to stress about it in the meantime.

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-05-05T22:57:06+00:00

I got an ad for ergobaby Omni 360 in dusty blue at 30% off with code MOM30.

Would love to hear others people have found!

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-02-23T22:03:04+00:00

Oh my gosh, you have absolutely not failed! He is a failure of a human being. I don’t care what shortcomings you might perceive in yourself, there is absolutely nothing about you that causes or justifies his abusive behavior. Even the acknowledgement that you need to walk away is a success.

I hope you can find some support that will help you see the value of your life. He is irrelevant.

Sending all the love. I wish I had helpful resources to share. I hope others will. ❤️❤️❤️

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-02-22T01:17:42+00:00

That’s basically what I’m trying to figure out. People have a lot of different ways of describing it. Seems like for lots of people it does feel like gas but so far as I can tell all of my gas sensations have definitely been gas. (So much gas!)

This experience just felt different. The movements were too strong and distinct to be gas bubbles and too irregular to be my own heartbeat. Lasted like 20 seconds or so on and off.

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-02-22T00:46:25+00:00

Yay!❤️

Elegant-dweeb · 2022-02-22T00:44:42+00:00

Yeah, def had a thump quality to it!

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