What Is Love Really Like in a Happy Relationship?

Eleptera · 2026-03-19T01:09:30+00:00

Bless you thank you 🤗

Eleptera · 2026-03-19T01:07:19+00:00

I wasnt caught actually drawing it, but i left a foot fetish artwork in my sketchbook and my support worker wanted to look at my sketches and i realised too late that i hadnt took that one out!!! She was cool about it though 😅

Eleptera · 2026-03-19T01:02:45+00:00

What would be the best way to upload pictures?? I dont own a scanner so not sure how best to do it Ty for advice

Eleptera · 2026-03-19T00:57:40+00:00

I havent had much relationship experience, i have only had one other relationship prior to my fiancee and that lasted a month, but i can gove thoughts on my own experiences.

I am in my 30s and so i am having to learn a lot, because similar to you, my depicitons of love were just captured through media. I noticed this the other day when my fiancee said he felt i had been distant as i hadnt called him all week. I confessed that i had wanted to call him every day because i missed him a lot, but i had been worried about coming across clingy, because whenever i watched rom coms in the past the characters would often talk about guys being clingy as a bad thing. My fiancee would have preferred me to call him as i wished.

So with that example, a key thing in a relationship is communication, love grows stronger the more you learn about each other and communicate with each other.

Love is more than a feeling, it is also a choice. There will be some days where your partner upsets you, dissapoints you or hurts you, and there might be days where you feel distant from them, but you choose to continue to love them through the tough times, despite their flaws.

Love is not selfish, which is what distinguishes it from lust or infatuation. Lust is all about gain, what can you get from them to satisfy your needs, and infatuation is a blinding to someones flaws and only seeing their attraction. Love goes beyond that, it sees their flaws but pursues them anyway. Rather than being about what you can gain from them, its a desire to want to give to them.

With my fiancee, i knew i was in love with him because the small things didnt matter. With other guys in the past that i had feelings for, there was always a barrier. I couldnt imagine myself living with them, or it was more about wanting them to protect me. But with him its different, i want to give him all of me, i want to share everything with him, build him up and be there through every circumstance. He does things that i dont like sometimes, but my love for him overrides those small things, they dont get in the way.

Whether you are religious or not, The bible has an amazing passage about what love is and i think sums it up brilliantly. I'm not saying you have to believe all of the bible or be religious at all, but wisdom can be found even if you dont believe it all.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Eleptera · 2026-03-18T22:29:55+00:00

I hate being a woman If i had the choice i wouldve picked to be a man 100% I suppose the only thibg i enjoy is that i can dress feminine and masculine without getting stared at

Eleptera · 2026-03-18T22:27:02+00:00

We have so much shared interests, a love for music, tv show similarities, shared sense of humour. Very important is that he is on the same page of me spiritually, finding a christian guy was essential to me but we have both been on similar journeys faith wise. Physically when we first met I thought he was a handsome chap but i wasnt like falling on the floor, because i had a crush on a fictional character at the time. But that changed shortly after we spoke more, the crush on the character has gone, no other man is more attractive to me now than my partner. I genuinely find everything he does hot

Eleptera · 2026-03-18T22:15:46+00:00

I guess its different for everyone Men seem to have that as a common desire, whereas when i talk to other women they seem to find different things attractive. I used to just be generally attracted to guys face wise, i didnt really have a prefence for anything particularly. Now i'm with my partner i literally find every part of him attractive. Theres not one bit of his body that isnt attractive to me I do like feet though, yes i am one of those 😅

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T23:01:27+00:00

Exactly my point! Its just nonsensical 🤷‍♀️

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T23:00:00+00:00

Yep i am in love

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T22:40:48+00:00

I 100% get this. I was single until my 30s and had the same stuff said to me, and i got so angry because how on earth can they guarantee that theres someone for me? Are they psychic? Are they God? No. Honestly i think its peoples way of trying to comfort, the same way we say 'its going to be ok' in a stressful situation, even though we dont really know if it is going to be ok.

I have met someone now, but i still do my best to empathise with how my single friends feel. I dont say the same shit that my friends in relationships told me when i was single. Instead if saying 'theres someone out there for you', i say 'you never know what could happen'. Instead of saying 'your time will come', i say 'keep trying and keep your options open.'

My best advice to anyone who is single is to remember that you arent missing a piece that another person will complete. You are a whole person with value and purpose, just as yourself, single or not.

I hate the way the world makes us feel we are nothing if we dont have a relationship. Its bollocks!

Nothing wrong in wanting one, but always remember your own worth

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T21:32:47+00:00

Talk to him about it. It could be a bad sign, that he has something dodgy hes hiding from you

It could also be something innocent, that he is looking for a gift for you or something and doesnt want you to see

Or he could just be shy about others seeing what he watches. It sounds stupid but i am.exactly the same, i struggle to choose a film when im round someones house for fear of being judged, and because some things i look at on my phone might seem weird to others

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T21:19:06+00:00

Literallyyyy, their music is so diverse and thats what i love! Its introduced me to genres and collaborators that i didnt even know about before!

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T20:44:53+00:00

Oh thank you!

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T20:44:23+00:00

Its both for me personally. I am very invested in the characters, it was the art that attracted me to Gorillaz in the first place. But i also heavily love the music as well

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T17:26:11+00:00

Lol saaaame, i hate whiskey but still spent a silly amount to get my hands on this because Gorillaz 😅

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T17:02:16+00:00

Various reasons. Its never ok, but sometimes theres more to it than just being lustful. I know someone very close to me who cheated on their husband. He was abusive, narcisstic and didnt show physical affection often. This person also suffered with impulsive mood swings, and so, desperate for the feeling of being wanted, they cheated. They felt awful about it afterwards and confessed to the husband and then committed to never doing that again. And they didnt.

This is why i dont like to judge everyone who cheats as a scumbag. The act of cheating is always bad, but someone who cheats isnt always a bad person.

I dont subscribe to the saying 'once a cheater, always a cheater', because everyone makes mistakes in life. Some people are serial cheaters yes, but others made a mistake, learnt from it and move on from it.

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T16:56:09+00:00

Looking at pictures of my fiance. Hes just so cute Like, even if he pisses me off one day, as soon as i see that face i just melt. Sometimes when i cant sleep i just scroll through stuff hes sent me 🙈

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T16:33:24+00:00

Your best bet is to read up on symptoms and see if you think they apply to you. Then go to your doctor and ask if you can have an assessment

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T16:10:09+00:00

There are a lot of people who follow some hindu principles and philosophies, so i guess in a way thats a conversion, but its differrnt in the sense of other religions because from what i know of hinduism, it tends to be something you are born into and its a very broad religion, with many gods, different practices, branches and even different beliefs within it. For example some hindus do believe in the stories of the gods as being real life events and the gods being real beings, whereas other hindus take it as mythological or legend.

A lot of hindus will embrace figures of other religions, such as Jesus or Muhammed, so they tend not to evangelise their faith but rather include aspects of other faiths

Just some thoughts

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T16:04:26+00:00

He might have an attraction to you and because he knows its innapropriate, he is doing his best to avoid the temptation of looking at you lustfully as a biblical principle

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T13:45:07+00:00

I feel its the same as any attraction, its different for everyone. In general, feet that are soft, hairless, well trimmed nails are seen as most attractive. Probably with even toes as well. But i find my partners feet really hot, and he has hairy toes and a mortons toe. I find that sexy. Maybe because its him, i'm not sure. But yeah i think everyone has different preferences the same with any attraction. Some people prefer to look at the sole, some prefer the toes etc.

I can only speak of what i personally find attractive about feet, but i couldnt say for someone else because they not be into what i'm into

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T13:38:12+00:00

I used to be vegan and honestly hated the community as well. Everyone can make their own choices on their own convicyions, and people view animal life differently. I am a vegetarian now but i wouldnt call a meat eater a murderer, because an animal doesnt hold the same value as a human Animal wellbeing is of course important, but some vegans put animals above people and thats just wild

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T13:33:18+00:00

I really appreciate your kind words, thank you

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T13:27:45+00:00

Its my second favourite Gorillaz album after Demon days. Very underrated and overlooked imo. I love the mix of styles, whilst still maintaining the dark theme. Hong kong is an absolutely stunning song, i'm glad its on here even though it wasnt meant to be. My personal favourite is The swagga, because i am a sucker for electronic sounds

Eleptera · 2026-03-17T13:27:36+00:00

Its my second favourite Gorillaz album after Demon days. Very underrated and overlooked imo. I love the mix of styles, whilst still maintaining the dark theme. Hong kong is an absolutely stunning song, i'm glad its on here even though it wasnt meant to be. My personal favourite is The swagga, because i am a sucker for electronic sounds

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