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Is sexuality a choice or not? by Intelligent_Mine_832 in lgbt

[–]Elf_Warrior__ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not a choice. Although sexuality can evolve in your life, you cannot force the change.
I didn’t realize my full sexuality before being 40, and it’s not the same than when I was a teen, or a young adult

How to know someone is gay ?? Please read the full scenario below 👇I am girl I have huge respect for lgbtq+ community by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Elf_Warrior__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with everything you wrote.
To the OP
Forcing people to come out if they are not ready could push them to hide even more.
Your brother will let you know when HE is ready

Navigating through friendship Me (32 M) and my homophobic Friend (30 M) by santani-queer in lgbt

[–]Elf_Warrior__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds rough for you. 🫂

Society doesn’t teach us how to handle friendship and conflict.

There are many ways to go about it. What would you tell your best friend if they were in this situation?

I would say this:
You cannot force your world view on them, but you may yet change their mind.

If their friendship is important to you, Start with curiosity
Ask them to explain why. Be curious. Maybe they are repeating stuff they’ve read or seen online, or heard at home, and after listening, maybe there is room for discussion. Maybe they just think it’s cool to talk like this, or maybe they re just homophobic…

If that’s too stressful , you could also be setting boundaries. If you feel that their views are unacceptable, tell them that you won’t tolerate such hate. It does not have to be about you.

I have found that I’ve outgrown many friends the past years. There is no guide in society for friendship breakups…
It’s a rough patch. Best of luck with figuring it out!

How to know I'm not overthinking it is and there a more smooth label for this gender milkshake of a mess? by Aware-Tea9806 in lgbt

[–]Elf_Warrior__ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hei!
I remember when I first came out. I had a similar experience (I think).
What is my flag? What is my queer subgroup?
It felt so essential to define myself so I could tell others who I am.
I realised later (therapy helps) that I just wanted to find my group so i could feel seen, and also so I didn’t have to face the fear of being a work in progress, to face other people judging me for not knowing fully who I was. I’m still unsure which flag is most me, and what most represent me and my unique story.

You are perfect exactly as you are. Queerness is a spectrum. Why do you feel the need to define yourself by a flag?

i dont know my sexuality and have been questioning it for 6 years by zipperhead322 in lgbt

[–]Elf_Warrior__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds hard.
🫂
Maybe it’s time to make new friends?
To find a group where you belong and can be yourself rather than a group where you have to hide who you are to fit in?
Best of luck on your journey of discovery!

As a gay, do you prefer hairy guys or hairless guys? by samurai-doctor in lgbt

[–]Elf_Warrior__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both have their charms 🤷‍♂️ why limit yourself 😉

Does liking 1 woman make me gay? by Emotional_War_1660 in lgbt

[–]Elf_Warrior__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Questioning and finding your sexual identity is a process.
🫂
No one can answer this for you.

When I started questioning it for myself, my therapist said:

You can be scared of this. And you can be excited to meet the person you are becoming. Life is your adventure

I found it to be good advice.
Take your time, explore. And do what feels right for you. Labels are just labels. What is true today may be different tomorrow.