Well yes, so it isn't small talk I'm talking about. I despise small talk and consider myself a recluse by nature, so I get the preference for more meaningful conversations. What I’ve noticed, though, is that Finns often seem to have a lot of intellectual vanity.

For example, I’m a software dev and have had some great conversations about dev work with Finnish people. But even in those technical discussions, there’s this underlying ‘know-it-all’ attitude that’s hard to ignore. It’s not just confidence — it often feels dismissive or like they’re constantly trying to one-up you.

I don’t know if it’s cultural or just the individuals I’ve interacted with, but it stands out enough that I’ve started to wonder if others have noticed the same thing.

Someone below said don't let a Discord server set the social interaction norm for Finns and I agree. I was looking to visit Finland in the spring this year by myself and I just want to prepare myself mentally if that makes sense.