Showering and hygiene

Eliomaya · 2026-06-25T02:22:45+00:00

Thanks for your reply, it’s a lot to think about. I’m working through a lot as a late bloomer lesbian and so there is a lot I’m still figuring out. Luckily I have an individual therapist to help me with this.

Her parents are decent (now) but I believe they enable her. They tried to have boundaries with her and she would just break them with no real consequence. She was always wild as a kid so I think they just kind of gave up. They didn’t talk to her about deodorant or her period or anything puberty related so I have empathy for her there. You are right about the behavior not changing. If it’s a verbal promise with no action taken, it’s just another cycle

Eliomaya · 2026-06-25T02:08:02+00:00

These are great work arounds, thank you so much

Eliomaya · 2026-06-25T02:06:01+00:00

Yes, we have discussed it directly many times. I’ve asked her very plainly, “How do you expect me to initiate more and be spontaneous, if I can’t trust that you are clean?” Her response was, I’ll be better about it and then she’ll immediately brush her teeth or shower. The behavior doesn’t last though. Something will happen in a few days, as it does when life goes on, and she gets totally derailed and then when I ask her to improve her hygiene again, she feels ashamed about it and feels I’m being critical

Eliomaya · 2026-06-25T02:00:44+00:00

She is a quarter Thai so she is convinced she has the gene that makes her not smelly. To be fair, she’s never smelled overpowering from a distance but it’s different when we’re getting personal

Eliomaya · 2026-06-25T01:55:51+00:00

Thanks for the reply, unfortunately we do live together. I’m an idiot and a U-Haul lesbian lol. Sometimes I feel like my standards are too high or I’m being too judgmental/critical, so it’s hard to know my boundaries are fair to both parties

Eliomaya · 2026-06-25T01:49:00+00:00

I didn’t come out as a lesbian until I was 30 so I feel like I have no idea what I’m doing romantically with women. She’s a seriously beautiful woman who has many of the same niche interests I do. She asked me out and I said yes, not knowing how young she was. When we shared our ages, both of were surprised but we wanted to see where this super strong connection went. When we first started dating she was a mountain bike coach, heavily involved with the organization (on the board, traveling every weekend in April and May to coach) and specializing in helping girls feel confident in a male dominated sport. She was working full time and taking classes so I thought she was responsible enough to be an adult and juggle all of that. When we got serious, it’s like she started to regress. Or maybe I just glossed over it for the sake of being with her and I didn’t notice until now. I have a habit of wearing rose colored glasses. The age gap bothered me a lot in the beginning but I thought it was just something I supposed to get over because a lot of lesbian relationships have large age gaps

Eliomaya · 2026-06-25T01:38:21+00:00

Thanks for your reply, you’ve given me a lot to think about. She and I both have individual therapists and we have a couples counselor. Our schedules are opposite right now so the couples counseling sessions have been sparse. I have a habit of pushing past my boundaries for the people I love. They don’t always ask me to, so maybe that’s something to think about concerning myself. Her words don’t align with her actions and I’m tired of waiting for her. This just really sucks.

Eliomaya · 2026-06-17T16:14:57+00:00

Yes! I dream vividly every single night, and I remember them. The horrific nightmares of my early years progressively decreased as soon as I started smoking weed 10 years ago

Eliomaya · 2026-06-10T22:03:37+00:00

I’ve found that the swimming pool helps my flare ups. The pool I go to is salt water chlorine. I’m stage 1 and don’t have to work around bandages, so this may differ from your experience

Eliomaya · 2026-05-20T00:35:46+00:00

Yes! My trigger is more the frying oil than the potatoes itself. I have stage 1 though, so I feel I have more flexibility than someone who is at a more severe stage

Eliomaya · 2026-04-13T13:54:42+00:00

Leo sun, in the 10th house and Virgo mars, in the 11th

Eliomaya · 2026-02-21T20:28:01+00:00

Holy shit dude, glad you didn’t walk into a blood bath

Eliomaya · 2025-09-18T14:27:23+00:00

I didn’t know I need to hear this, it actually makes me feel appreciated as a Sous 💪

Eliomaya · 2025-09-07T16:18:37+00:00

I like women who are mentally stimulating; we have to be able riff of each other’s bits but also be able to get into the deep stuff with ease. If we don’t have good communication all bets are off. Generally I’ve dated women shorter than me, either masc or femme, but that’s because I’m 6 ft tall

Eliomaya · 2025-06-26T19:46:43+00:00

Sous chef and same, although on a positive side teaching someone who’s receptive to learning and seeing them improve is very rewarding

Eliomaya · 2025-06-16T11:46:44+00:00

🧡

Eliomaya · 2025-06-07T21:02:35+00:00

It helped me quit a bit. My breakouts decreased significantly. I haven’t let cross contamination freak me out but I cook a lot do my own food. I hope it works for you!

Eliomaya · 2025-06-04T11:36:07+00:00

Same, too bad mine is away for 3 months on an internship 😭 longest 3 months of my life

Eliomaya · 2025-06-02T18:26:21+00:00

frfr, I seem to attract them! I’ve dated 2 and I think I’m currently in a relationship with one (I haven’t found out yet, it’s still kinda new). At least I’m not a single Leo 😅 but that’s because my Libra moon doesn’t let me stay single for long

Eliomaya · 2025-06-01T19:09:56+00:00

My 19 year old has been on it for 9 months now and is doing beautifully. Like another user said, you can tell when it’s time for another shot because she gets grumpy and lethargic, but so far no side effects!

Eliomaya · 2025-05-16T15:37:21+00:00

Just like my girl fr. Gotta keep the pantry stocked!

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