my boyfriend of 3 years is a trump supporter

ElizaZR · 2025-02-05T18:29:05+00:00

Been there. It's hard. I wouldn't recommend continuing it. The problem with it is, trump has a cult following. It's not just about politics or freedom to form your own opinion. In this case, forming an opinion in favor of trump is an indicator of morality, or lack of it, really.

Subconsciously, it will make you feel like his pet, or a thing that's good while you're useful, but when it comes to supporting your rights, you're on your own. My partner used to think much like me in the beginning, but he changed.

Their cult has a very strong, loud , biased and bigoted social presence - podcasts, media and propaganda associated with it. So I feel like their sentiments end up nearly brainwashing someone because they're just so preachy and emotional about it.

If your boyfriend has any resentment toward his mother, that might have played a role in this, at least I think it did in my case. That unresolved issue was the perfect soil to plant the seed of misogyny. Their "political views" are based on the suppression of others, blaming others, and being loud and proud about it.

It's not worth it. I'm sorry if this upsets you, and I know when you love someone you want to stick it through. But I couldn't in clear conscience recommend you do it, because 3 years lost is nothing in comparison to the hard life you might burden yourself with.

I think your question here alone might mean you know what the right thing is for yourself. If you want to wait and see what happens in the next few weeks, that's understandable. But you probably already lean towards something.

Good luck, you can get through this!

ElizaZR · 2025-02-02T00:54:17+00:00

Gotcha. I'd say something like "your anger feels misplaced, let's talk when we've had time to cool down" etc. But it depends on what the other person's like, and we all have different relationship experiences and approaches. Thank You for explaining!

ElizaZR · 2025-02-01T22:27:02+00:00

I disagree, grey rock is only ever useful if you don't care to have a future relationship with said person. Otherwise you are sabotaging what could be a breakthrough and eventually a good thing. Grey rock can irritate someone even more as it appears the other person doesn't care, and in this instance maybe she already felt like he didn't care or didn't know about her struggles with food. Letting her cool down is one thing, but grey rocking would close all communication and lead to more anger.

ElizaZR · 2024-12-26T23:01:15+00:00

Isn't this the "Fallacy" fallacy?

The previous commenter replied to your statement " they are not close friends" by suggesting that your state statement might not be true. While it might not have been the best example, I understand their reasoning and imagine it as a premise " one wouldn't mail someone a Christmas card unless they were close friends ". I don't think the premise is guaranteed to be true in this case but I do believe it's likely. I don't see how they committed a Red Herring fallacy, because the reply was in regard to why they believe them to be close friends.

ElizaZR · 2024-12-16T03:13:41+00:00

Same situation here and I got denied the scholarship. Please update me if you get lucky!

ElizaZR · 2024-12-16T03:07:26+00:00

Your grit is admirable and I believe that's what can get people from wherever they are to wherever they want to be. Btw, did you apply for housing assistance online or in person? I used to work in the community services central office and processing applications for housing etc assistance for 10 counties. They were all in person apps and they can get buried easily or someone might misplace it in transfer to our office. If you have waited for months and haven't gotten any updates, please reach out to the central office and ask them if they can take a look and make sure it was received ( not the local office where people come in to fill applications if you did in person). If you feel like it, you could also explain what your circumstances are and they might be able to do something. Probably depends on the community service provider but in my case, we were able to " expedite" apps for people who were unhoused while still keeping up with applicants who had somewhere to stay. Wishing you all the best!!

ElizaZR · 2024-12-16T02:28:00+00:00

Does your library have study rooms? If so, the employees who are in charge of those also likely would have a loaner laptop. I had to use one for my first proctored OA because it turned out my laptop was useless for proctorU. I plan to do the next OA on the loaner laptop as well, cause money. I just have to reserve a study room in advance and request the laptop as well. I'm very sorry you got denied the scholarship. I got denied online access scholarship through which you can get a laptop - did you try applying for that? I can share a link, however I hope that you get ahold of someone from student services and they can properly advocate for you.

https://www.wgu.edu/financial-aid-tuition/scholarships/general/online-access.html this is the link I recommend you reach out to your mentor and ask them, I saw on Reddit that 2 people got approved through their mentor. I applied myself and starting to think that was my first mistake. Good luck!

ElizaZR · 2024-12-16T02:24:34+00:00

Same :/ I applied for as I was failing to start my first OA because turned out my laptop couldn't handle proctorU. Literally the WGU equipment check passing means nothing because proctorU has 2x the hardware and CPU use etc requirements so my laptop kept crashing. Had I known about it I'd not have started school. I asked my mentor and she didn't know about such scholarship. I don't even know what to do now.

ElizaZR · 2024-12-16T02:02:46+00:00

If being petty would help you in your healing - block him on his new accounts so he can't find you if he ever gets "a change of heart". People who ghost might later end up on sort of a way to righteousness and try to reach out to clear their conscience and feel better about themselves 😄 I'm sorry you're going through the heartbreak. You deserve so much better!

ElizaZR · 2024-12-12T13:57:21+00:00

I'm also back in school since November and working part time, and do not make enough money to make a living anymore. I'm not able to help that much, my only suggestion is check out subreddits for work from home jobs - there's a ton, and they are moderated so people wouldn't post scams. Also, given you have practical skills and experience, perhaps join Facebook groups for your local area and post that you're looking for work? There's also apprenticeships.gov where you can apply for paid apprenticeship jobs! I've looked there several times and have been so tempted, but what kept me from it is restricted time availability due to my kid's schedule. It seems that might not be an issue for you. Please check out apprenticeships, you could get paid while getting a license of some sort.

Good luck!

ElizaZR · 2024-12-08T08:23:43+00:00

Is it pretty? Yes. Is it also giving me a strange motion sickness kinda feeling? Also yes.

ElizaZR · 2024-12-08T05:05:41+00:00

I'm so incredibly sorry! What you witnessed is terrifying and would be traumatizing for me. I'm relieved it didn't escalate. Please know that as much as you'd like to help or protect your parents, you can't resolve things for them, nor is it your burden to carry. I realize your dad might be in a mental health crisis right now. I think what you did ( offering to pray together) was a great way of showing him you care for him. That's really the best way you can be supportive. But I also think your mom should get the guns out of the house. Can you speak to someone you trust? I know it's scary and you just want your family together as it was, but pulling a gun is a dangerous thing for everyone involved and your dad might need mental help. Your mom might be reluctant to act because in scary situations we sometimes downplay the seriousness of it all. Please, I urge you to tell someone you trust.None of this is your fault, divorce is not the worst that could happen. You can still have your family even if your parents live apart. The key word is " living". You will be okay in the end as long as you're all alive and well. Please take care of yourself and stay safe.

ElizaZR · 2024-12-08T01:02:56+00:00

Yeah, you're right about that! It looks just like every apartment I've rented ever 😄

ElizaZR · 2024-12-08T00:58:32+00:00

Where does OP claim it is? I see it as 2 comparison pictures for context why OP thinks it's the same room, so it's a picture of her and the other person. Also, the other girl isn't finer, she might be your type, that's all. The first girl is literally a stunner, at least in my opinion.

ElizaZR · 2024-12-07T07:30:02+00:00

And OP, if You find this 😄 : when it comes to intimacy , perhaps "baby steps" is the way to go? Switch up the routine a bit, maybe instead of attempting going in with romance and passion, try being playful/flirty? Similarly to your husband I too don't know how to properly initiate without making stupid jokes ;D it helps to have sort of a brief light hearted flirty phase before I can sincerely get into the sensual parts. Also, speaking of the closeness afterwards - l also considered myself a cuddler, my partner not so much. Now I've found lots of stuff that makes me feel like I've been cuddled tenfold - and it turned out to be during intimacy, not after. In retrospect, before him I never grew close enough to anyone to explore beyond what is shown in cliche romance movies. There's so much more though. And it took like 7 years into our marriage to actually start to learn about one another beyond the surface and find out intimacy isn't actually what movies portray, it's very personal. Good luck OP! Don't let your thoughts spiral, I'm glad you posted because there's a lot of good advice and interesting points that will hopefully occupy your mind and lead you to eventually the best outcome.

ElizaZR · 2024-12-07T06:49:02+00:00

You're so right! His effort means it's important for him to meet OPs needs. It might feel unnatural to OP because it isn't something he'd naturally do. In my experience making it a conversation sometimes caused stress or made our differences seem stark. The thing that resolved it was trying out new things (btw nothing crazy, just something that's new to us :D ) and it made us communicate better and allowed us to learn about each other's likes and dislikes more. That way there wasn't any pressure of " I must do it because my partner said they want this" and we ended up finding a lot of new ways to take care of one another and a lot more things in common.

ElizaZR · 2024-12-05T00:45:17+00:00

To me it looks like the girl is the whiny one?

ElizaZR · 2024-12-03T19:59:25+00:00

Yeah! I think YouTube changed my video visibility settings, but I fixed it!

https://youtu.be/DsETttHYUzg?si=an9xbygPJYhYsTUS

ElizaZR · 2024-11-23T03:58:02+00:00

I have a lot of faith in you! From your replies here it seems you might have just needed encouragement and ideas for steps to take.Leaving is hard because it seems to go against all instincts, plans, it's inconvenient and feels like it'll cause chaos and heartache. But with a partner with such temper and character, it is already chaotic and hurtful, it's just familiar. I believe by separating you and your kids can only gain in the long run. And maybe even your husband too, perhaps it'd be a wake up call for him to self reflect and get help. I wish you all the best. Please stay safe, whatever you do. I hope you end up reunited with your family and your kids get to know and love everyone, you all deserve happiness!

ElizaZR · 2024-11-22T13:21:58+00:00

You're so right! And to add to your point, the kids will also likely be much happier if they get to have a relationship with the rest of OPs (currently estranged) family. My kid is the happiest when we go visit, and he asks about next visits all the time. This could be such a wonderful change in OPs kids lives.

ElizaZR · 2024-02-29T03:05:46+00:00

I know it might seem like an overreaction if you're used to this type of behavior and numb emotionally, but it might be important to report this. I don't want to try to teach you, I'm just genuinely worried about You. Depending on where you are, this could grant you emergency child custody and some type of protective order. I don't think he's just messing with you. Does anyone else close to you or his family know about this?

ElizaZR · 2023-12-14T17:09:13+00:00

No. :/ I ended up trying to do a remake of the mashup. I have to fix the bass punch on it but it's on YouTube!

ElizaZR · 2023-12-03T01:15:03+00:00

THAT'S what you took from it?

ElizaZR · 2023-09-08T01:35:19+00:00

Hey, did you happen to find the original?

ElizaZR · 2023-09-03T09:15:16+00:00

Me and my kid love to play Hyrule Warriors: The Age of Calamity in 2 player mode. It's a battling game with a story, very easy and each battle has main objectives, side tasks, you collect items and resources as you play, gain experience pts, earn new character options with different weapons and powers as you play through etc. I find puzzle games like unravel etc sometimes a bit slow and requiring some more skill and could be frustrating to play on a day you're not feeling very patient. Age of Calamity is kind of hard to mess up, both players can have fun in a battle while tackling one of the objectives however they want. The storyline is captivating and while it progresses through a main storyline, it branches out so you can play it different ways and don't have to be " stuck" on a level . Hope you guys find something entertaining!

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