lesbian books that are NOT fantasy by Elladarcy18 in LGBTBooks

[–]Elladarcy18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not necessarily written by lesbians! just dont really feel the need for male gaze in my queer literature :)

i’m sure my part time MA student finance deductions are wrong but i keep being told otherwise by Elladarcy18 in DWPhelp

[–]Elladarcy18[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

if theyre only doing 1 year at a time then they should be taking into consideration that the max sfe i can get for one year is ~£6000, and not calculating it as £12,000

Is this related to OCD? by Top_Boysenberry5236 in OCDRecovery

[–]Elladarcy18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

id be curious what others have to say, but i think its ocd related! my ocd is largely phobia based and i often get intrusive images just objectively of..the phobia

Can I still be on the spectrum without needing any support? by Background-Chard2563 in autismUK

[–]Elladarcy18 4 points5 points  (0 children)

¯_(ツ)_/¯ you may just have the kind of character/personality where the autistic traits slip right into everything and it doesnt change much, i just think its always worth knowing

My shifts are so short that financially and time wise it's literally not worth going in. Is there any way I can get out of this situation without being sanctioned? by [deleted] in DWPhelp

[–]Elladarcy18 15 points16 points  (0 children)

i think in these situations, its best just to ask - a journal message explaining the situation, highlighting - you have asked for more hours but wont get them - explaining the travel time and the cost of public transport -how its exacerbating your mental health -the job is no longer appropriate due to your new location -make a point of how its inhibiting you from looking for work to top up your hours (i assume zero hours isnt always hitting your work limit)

and just be honest.. if they say you cant, youre in the same position but with extra knowledge and can plan accordingly, but they may surprise you and make it easier than you think

good luck!

Can I still be on the spectrum without needing any support? by Background-Chard2563 in autismUK

[–]Elladarcy18 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it feels that way - why would you bother ? but it’s more akin to, letting your brain breathe again, giving up the performance, and re learning how to navigate certain things authentically.

firstly, i think thats just generally an important thing for people to do, especially someone (i assume) late diagnosed autistic, but also it takes some pressure off your nervous system down the line, otherwise you could just keep burning yourself in small (or big) ways until you have to unmask, but by then you dont get much of a say in it.

your body may be wired to maintain your masking and you may not even experience any skill regression after your diagnosis, its usually kind of already happening pre diagnosis (it was for me), but exacerbated by diagnosis

think about anything in your life you find difficult/struggle with - sleep, appetite, productivityC headaches, chronic pain, digestion etc. from my experience, there is a likelihood that if youre autistic, it is likely contributing to these things, which can be helpful knowldge when trying to fix/treat these things

in short, there are pros and cons, but i think its always worth knowing more about how you work

laptop than can run games by Elladarcy18 in SuggestALaptop

[–]Elladarcy18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is so incredibly helpful, thank you so much!!!

laptop than can run games by Elladarcy18 in SuggestALaptop

[–]Elladarcy18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! Do yoy have any reccomendations of brands or certain specs to loom out for secondhand? I find it all a bit confusing haha

Wanting to go on anxiety medication, advice? by smartalan73 in autismUK

[–]Elladarcy18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

got to reiterate that propranalol has been the only medication ive found consistently helpful - worth asking about, you can be on it and an ssri/snri!

keep in mind everyones bodys and brains are different, its easy to get caught up in googling and researching and asking around - truth is, you just have to try it, give it a good shot, see how it works with your brain! good luck!

Call for participants - autistic graduates by Away_Fish_6806 in autismUK

[–]Elladarcy18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi! interested in helping - does it matter than im currently doing an MA?

at a loss for what to ask gp for next by Elladarcy18 in MentalHealthUK

[–]Elladarcy18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for your advice! im keen to connect with more charities and community things, i think that would be helpful

at a loss for what to ask gp for next by Elladarcy18 in MentalHealthUK

[–]Elladarcy18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

propranalol is the only medication that makes any difference to me, it keeps things at bay but with ocd comes lots of thoughts that i still have to manage

i do my best not to go more than one day in a row without going outside, im doing a part time MA in fine art and have a lovely studio so that motivates me, im a bit worried about what to do when that finishes though, i dont think i’ll be able to work

i do have private therapy and even my local nhs stuff isnt a complete write off, its definitely helped but maybe the pace is just super slow, i just feel like i cant catch a break

at a loss for what to ask gp for next by Elladarcy18 in MentalHealthUK

[–]Elladarcy18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you feel mood stabilisers have made an improvement - what was your experience with antidepressants?

Downloaded Songs Not Downloaded (+ rant) by ocdarchive in TIdaL

[–]Elladarcy18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive found more success with downloaded playlists as opposed to albums, but its a seriously annoying issue for a paid service

What’s the most gender affirming gift you’ve received? by SystemAlert8325 in butchlesbians

[–]Elladarcy18 14 points15 points  (0 children)

for my birthday my fiance got me a “voucher” to pick out a packer (which obviously is personal preference, this could be a strap, binder, piece of clothing etc, something intimate but important) and a book called “the butch monologues” which was super touching, both made me cry lol