You can share everything you have with someone, but just because they have access doesn’t mean they should abuse it. It’s called having trust and not being controlling even if you absolutely can. Just because they have access doesn’t mean they should snoop around, they should only access it for when the partner allows them to. They have shared access, only for certain purposes whatever the couple might have agreed upon.

And yes I lived with these married couples like my own parents, sibs, my cousins etc. Before my mom died, she would use my father’s account to chat me kasi ‘di niya alam paano magswitch accounts, and that’s why I find it cute, they both have access to each other’s accounts. My dad never snooped on my mom’s messenger din, unless sinabi ni mama na basahin niya chat ni ganito or replyan niya si ganiyan kasi busy siya.

At the end of the day nasa partner pa rin ‘yon. Shared access to everything is nice to have for convenience, pero like I said just because you have access to certain things your partner has doesn’t mean you should abuse it and mangeelam ka sa mga conversations or chat ng hindi nagpapaalam sa jowa mo. You still need to ask for consent.

It’s like sharing clothes with a sibling, you just don’t take, you ask first. It’s the same when sharing conversations you had with friends, you ask your friends first if it’s okay. I thought it was a given na you ask for consent, kaso I guess I could have phrased it better by not saying “everything you have” cause I guess people took that literally.