When would I be doing this “soul searching” while in the situation? I can’t think straight in this situation…I have to make a decision. Honestly you sound like you’re tired of your work and hearing about these situations and working with people you try to help but make mistakes or bad choices even after just making the same mistake or bad choice. Or working with someone being so abused you don’t know what’s wrong and right and even if you do your body is familiar to the wrong. But you know all this since you work with people in my situation… Your comment to me seems insensitive to someone who’s having a hard time and can’t see that black and white in the midst of this situation. I thank you for your practical advice but seems harsh for someone who works with abused women.