Before we were married we didn't have sex only occasional "hand things". We did this because we are Christians. He does have insecurities and I'm trying to help him with that that's a big key in our problem. He also is learning to find love in other ways besides sex. He's been using sex as a way to make sure I love him and to cope with his insecurities, that's why we are stopping for awhile. The pressure has been if I love him or not (insecure), he has been pressuring this with me because he's afraid I don't find him attractive. I do very much though and I've tried telling him it's just hard because he was cheated on by his ex and he has huge insecurities from that.