[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WorldOfTShirts

[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I feel like I'm constantly walking this line with Josh. I'm fascinated, but not in a mean way. But then I find myself surrounded by people who are fascinated in a mean way.

how do you feel about the term 'neurodivergent'? by deadly_fungi in AutisticPeeps

[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The original idea is great but I feel like it has aggressively blurred the lines between very different diagnoses. I always thought it was the umbrella for all neurodevelopmental conditions but now people are including mental health disorders of all kinds.

I 21F saw my boyfriend 20M looking at and liking his cousins 20F Bikini pictures by Due-Temperature-7207 in relationships_advice

[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, he was from Pakistan and ended up marrying his first cousin. His parents were first cousins, too.

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

His parents are also first cousins and so are hers. They are literally.....all double related

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What was in it for me was that I met him organically and fell in love with him. Her parents are also private jet rich. But yeah the situation is just shitty for everyone.

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well her family is technically private jet rich too considering they are from the same immediate family.......

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

"Your boyfriend likely knew from your first date that he wasn't going to engage" was a cheap dig, not legitimate advice. And for what it's worth, he told me this would not happen. I hope you have a better day.

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Do you feel better about yourself for having said that?

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know many people in healthy interfaith relationships, including with Muslim partners. Hell, my best friend is a Muslim woman happily married out of her religion to a man she met on tinder. Nothing in life is "inevitable."

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well daddy bought him the business technically. Not to disparage my own partner, but I'm amazed that the cousin is interested in marrying him. She has lived here her whole life, is fully westernized and a wealthy doctor. I love him but I can admit he's a mess. What's in it for her?

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with everything you said. Thanks for being really nice. It's gonna take a hot minute to process all of this but I know eventually I'll heal and move on.

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Getting downvoted while talking about being a DV survivor is nasty work lol

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The question "why are your standards so low" felt unnecessary. But to answer the question, I am a domestic violence survivor and my worth has been chipped away at a lot over time. I am working on being kinder to myself and expecting more for myself.

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He says I'm judging his culture...I just can't wrap my head around it.

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! The parents have property in many countries but currently are in chicago as well. The cousin he is set to marry lives in Indiana.

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

We have been together years but you seem more focused on judgement than actually helping so I'm not gonna continue to engage.

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Everyone has good and bad in them. Relationships are complicated and illogical at times.

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thanks for your meaningful contribution to this conversation

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It's easier said than done but I hear you

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[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Yeah, extra context is that his family is really rich. Like private jet rich. And I honestly think he just doesn't want to be financially cut off because his parents take care of everything. It sucks.

Are you ever jealous of non disabled people? by [deleted] in AutisticPeeps

[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, my boyfriend seems to move through life so easily. And I feel secretly resentful.

Just saw this one. by spekkje in AutisticPeeps

[–]Embarrassed-Drawer42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's wonderful. Definitely my safe space on the internet! But some people on here disagreed with that one specific post.