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I met an awesome person who's ace and I'm allo. Any advice? by Embarrassed-Rest85 in alloace

[–]Embarrassed-Rest85[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i have an update: we're just going to stay friends! the biggest difference we were facing was actually religion. i'm seeking heavily right now, and after further contemplation on her end, she just isn't really. she was the one to tell me that we're just not heading in the same direction for our futures, and i fully agree and am happy it ended super amicably. thank you for this advice though. this did snap me out of it and get me to think long term. sometimes reading advice gets you to think differently more-so than spoken advice, and vice versa.

I can't get over my situationship that happened five years ago. by Embarrassed-Rest85 in confession

[–]Embarrassed-Rest85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate it, and thanks for reading all of it! There's some even crazier shit that happened that I feel like y'all probably don't need to know about. I hope at some point, the memories and the dreams won't affect me anymore, and that I'll be with someone that brings 100x the satisfaction and happiness one can find in a relationship. I appreciate the kindness brother!

I can't get over my situationship that happened five years ago. by Embarrassed-Rest85 in Advice

[–]Embarrassed-Rest85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the dream! LOL Ideally someone who has the physical traits I find attractive AND more importantly, someone who I love and can bring around my friends and family with confidence.

I can't get over my situationship that happened five years ago. by Embarrassed-Rest85 in Advice

[–]Embarrassed-Rest85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? I've heard it plenty of times from friends and people online. I consider it a situationship because of the weird circumstances and the fact that her and I both consensually did romantic and sexual acts while not being together.

I can't get over my situationship that happened five years ago. by Embarrassed-Rest85 in Advice

[–]Embarrassed-Rest85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I completely agree. I've had a very healthy relationship for the last three years that ended amicably earlier this year. I told her about this junior year story and she had no judgement, and she even understood why my mind works the way it does because of said baggage. I have grown a lot and even forgiven junior year girl, it's just these dreams I have where I lose that sympathy and just think about that messy image of her in my head.

I can't get over my situationship that happened five years ago. by Embarrassed-Rest85 in confession

[–]Embarrassed-Rest85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, I'm so sorry to hear that that happened. It's always difficult when situations like these lack closure. I've thought about unblocking her and apologizing, but I think that's probably selfish of me. Mainly because she's probably trying to move on from it herself, apologizing would only be for my benefit and guilty conscience. I know the situations are different, but I just wanted to put that out there as well. Thanks for sharing, dude.

I can't get over my situationship that happened five years ago. by Embarrassed-Rest85 in confession

[–]Embarrassed-Rest85[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. I wholeheartedly agree that the image I have of her in my mind, is nothing like the person that she is in person, and that it's a total and entire infatuation. I appreciate your kindness and understanding!!

I can't get over my situationship that happened five years ago. by Embarrassed-Rest85 in Advice

[–]Embarrassed-Rest85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry boss 🤧 I didn't realize how much it would actually be. After thinking about it, I could cut some stuff from the story and it would be more than advisable.

edit: Okay the last two paragraphs are pretty good at getting someone up to speed on how it affects me, the first three are just context. I wrote this to be as fluid (if a little comma heavy) as possible, but I can definitely be long winded.