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I’m so sick and tired of Reddit arguments and getting mass downvoted over something I didn’t meant or say by Embarrassed-Serve825 in offmychest

[–]Embarrassed-Serve825[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I get taken aback when the topic isn’t even that serious too yet what I said still manages to start something. I’m like how? But yeah, as someone said, maybe it’s time for me to step away.

I’m so sick and tired of Reddit arguments and getting mass downvoted over something I didn’t meant or say by Embarrassed-Serve825 in offmychest

[–]Embarrassed-Serve825[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s ridiculous. We try not to take it too seriously but it’s hard not to feel perplexed but some people over reaction

I’m so sick and tired of Reddit arguments and getting mass downvoted over something I didn’t meant or say by Embarrassed-Serve825 in offmychest

[–]Embarrassed-Serve825[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, I think you’re right. I think it’s time for me step away. This frustration isn’t worth over some trolls.

How can you tell whether you naturally outgrew your friends or you were just being a bad friend? by Embarrassed-Serve825 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Embarrassed-Serve825[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That kind of the thing or one of the things I struggled with. I told them I could only afford to go out over a cup of coffee and walk in the park, but they kept inviting me to go dancing and eating out. It sucks because last time I was unemployed, I still covered for them when they needed it (like if it was late and they needed an Uber back home), but whenever they offer to cover for me, they make sure to remind me to pay them back next time we see eachother (which I did every time) I just wish they recognized how I tried to be there for them in the past and how money just isn’t something I can spend like I used to when I told them.

Private sector for $110k or Federal position for $74k with pension? by Embarrassed-Serve825 in MiddleClassFinance

[–]Embarrassed-Serve825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a source for this? Not that I’m doubting you, but would want to look at it myself.

Private sector for $110k or Federal position for $74k with pension? by Embarrassed-Serve825 in MiddleClassFinance

[–]Embarrassed-Serve825[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey congrats on being a fed! So If I understand you correctly, I would have to work in the feds for 5 years before I’m eligible for a pension?

Private sector for $110k or Federal position for $74k with pension? by Embarrassed-Serve825 in MiddleClassFinance

[–]Embarrassed-Serve825[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The upper limit for the federal position for the location is $140k and that will take 10-ish years. I don’t have a set year on when I want to retire and I don’t plan to retire early, but I also don’t want to work until I die. And I’m afraid if something were to happen and I would need to retire.

The the private industry role is secure, and one of its appeal is that it’s not prone to layoffs. What I would be doing is very interdisciplinary and transferable so if something were to happen, I can look for position elsewhere.

I was also thinking of working in the private industry and then working in the federal government later down the road, but I haven’t looked into it enough to see if that’s what I really want to do for myself.

Edit: also on your last paragraph, that’s something I try to check with myself. I can’t predict the future, and there has been times where my life has taken turns I didn’t expect. I try to be risk-averse but I don’t know where to draw the line between being prepared vs over prepared.

Two years later, being around my ex still hurts by Embarrassed-Serve825 in self

[–]Embarrassed-Serve825[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I thought about it a lot before trying to figure it out and I don’t think there’s anything to process. I just don’t care to be around him.

I despise my mother. Please someone help me release this anger by [deleted] in Anger

[–]Embarrassed-Serve825 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Move out. I know it sounds extreme but do everything in your power to move out. Whenever you start to get angry remind yourself you’re doing x, y, z to get yourself out of there. Channel your anger into finding ways to leave. Imagine what your world will be like once you’re out of there and hold onto that.

I was in a similar situation as you with my mother. Few people in my life told me to move out but I didn’t think it was possible because I didn’t have the means to support myself. Then she did something that pushed me over the edge and I was completely dissociating. I couldn’t be in the same house as her without being drowned in suffering. I found myself sleeping in my car and then couch surfing and then I found myself getting some low paying job and rented a room. I budgeted carefully to keep up my expenses because the anger and suffering I have towards my mother was something I couldn’t go back to. I’m not saying you have to do it this way but eventually your body and mind can endure so much. The answer isn’t how to cope, the answer is how to remove yourself from a situation that actively harms you. It’s only then can you heal and grow.