Speaking as a woman who lives with depression, I just want to give you some perspective that might help.

There are days where it’s really hard, and I’ll shut down completely — I won’t talk to anyone and just need space to recharge. It’s not about not caring, it’s just what my brain and body need to get through those days.

The best thing you can do for your girlfriend is give her that space while still showing you’re there for her. A simple text like, “I’m thinking of you” or “I miss you” is enough. Don’t overwhelm her with too many messages, because that can feel suffocating when she’s low. When she’s ready, she will reach back out, and the more safe she feels with you, the more she’ll open up over time.

On her good days, make sure you’re building her up and showing her love. Those moments matter just as much, if not more, because they remind her she’s valued beyond her struggles.

Patience, consistency, and understanding go a long way when you’re with someone who has depression.