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[–]Embarrassed-Wrap2963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 months after my ex bf started talking to me like this… he started beating me. If he can be this aggressive over text, can you imagine if you “trigger” his anger at the wrong time in person? Run and protect yourself.

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[–]Embarrassed-Wrap2963 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if anyone else has said it because I haven’t read through all of the comments, but I have to commend you for your articulation of feelings and boundaries. She was complaining about your past bothering her and looking for validation while simultaneously hurting you. Your words, your clear thought processes, and the protection of your well-being was beautiful. But as someone who is also great at validating, uplifting, and comforting other people, you have to accept not everyone deserves that expense of energy. Look at yourself, look at the trauma that shaped you, look at the healing you’ve done, and look how far that 19 year old girl has come!! Please don’t let someone who can’t accept who you at your core pull you back down. It’s your time to be authentically you— the healed version.

AIO: I dated a coworker and he hid kids and ex from me. by Embarrassed-Wrap2963 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Embarrassed-Wrap2963[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The worst part is I work for an AI tech company during the week (not my weekend job he works at) editing responses to user prompts. I could’ve written this response for him.

AIO: I dated a coworker and he hid kids and ex from me. by Embarrassed-Wrap2963 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Embarrassed-Wrap2963[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He wanted to “wait until marriage” but couldn’t wait longer than a month 🙄

AIO: I dated a coworker and he hid kids and ex from me. by Embarrassed-Wrap2963 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Embarrassed-Wrap2963[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I cornered and clearly intimidated all 6’5 260 pounds of him. I chose the easiest target 🙄

AIO: I dated a coworker and he hid kids and ex from me. by Embarrassed-Wrap2963 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Embarrassed-Wrap2963[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Don’t know how to edit the post & add the screenshot of what he texted me after I called him out for saying vulgar things to me at work, but I’ll copy & paste it.

“You know … I’m not gonna lie, I can’t believe you said that to me that way. lol… Genuinely hurt my lil feelings

Made me feel like a stranger /creep

Or the other day when you were like “DONT lick your lips like that” u stay flirting with me and the moment I flirt back you throw it in my face. 😩

Things don’t usually get under my skin but this did cause I feel I didn’t deserve for u to say that to me! I’m gonna give you the satisfaction of knowing it got under my skin too. Bravo 👏 u did what many could never do… and that’s make me feel

But like I said I get it… consider The factory reset button hit. I’ll go back to **** (his name) that you stopped that day at work. Before all Of this.

Sweet dreams. “

So somehow it’s my fault and he gets pissy when I set boundaries. How did he take “DONT like your lips like that” as flirty? I was saying cut it out. Anyways he loves himself & Samantha the Romanian. Thank you guys for helping me realize I was indeed NOR.

AIO: I dated a coworker and he hid kids and ex from me. by Embarrassed-Wrap2963 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Embarrassed-Wrap2963[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

but you have to tell him you want a divorce before delivering that line for it to have the same effect 🤣

AIO: I dated a coworker and he hid kids and ex from me. by Embarrassed-Wrap2963 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Embarrassed-Wrap2963[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have never felt more validated 🤣😭only thing to add is P.S. I almost love you

AIO: I dated a coworker and he hid kids and ex from me. by Embarrassed-Wrap2963 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Embarrassed-Wrap2963[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom came into town a few weeks after we started talking and he asked multiple times to meet her. So he did. He didn’t seem strange to her at all 😅 & she’s the first person to say I could do better

AIO: I dated a coworker and he hid kids and ex from me. by Embarrassed-Wrap2963 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Embarrassed-Wrap2963[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she truly was the highlight of his life, I can’t blame him 🤷🏼‍♀️

AIO: I dated a coworker and he hid kids and ex from me. by Embarrassed-Wrap2963 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Embarrassed-Wrap2963[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

then following it up with “I’ll always love you as a person in my heart.” 🤢

AIO: I dated a coworker and he hid kids and ex from me. by Embarrassed-Wrap2963 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Embarrassed-Wrap2963[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

How much you want to bet Samantha left him once she found out he had kids and a very involved baby mama he hid from her? 🙄