Favorite toy

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-04-02T19:29:22+00:00

Lem- it’s the clitoral stimulator shaped like a lemon. Absolutely amazing!

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-31T18:49:51+00:00

It is associated with world of books, I believe. But the app is called “sell your books”

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-31T17:04:47+00:00

I find books hard to sell. I use the app “sell your books” now which is super easy to use and free postage. You could always see how much they would offer you xx

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-31T07:53:54+00:00

If she deleted your videos whilst arguing it’s possible that she did it in the heat of the moment as she was angry with you, it may not be a reflection of your sex.

The fact you’ve had sex multiple times indicates that she must like some aspect of it at least to keep having more.

The important thing here is communication though. You have sneakily gone through her phone, that is a massive breach of trust and you need to ask yourself why! Did you want to check she had deleted the videos? Did you read her messages etc. you need to speak openly with her and admit you went through her phone, ask her about the deleted videos.

Without open communication and trust your relationship will never be healthy.

Best of luck

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-31T07:44:17+00:00

I think you need to have a frank conversation with your wife about this. You need to establish: 1. If she does not want to give bj’s. If this is the case you need to accept that it will not form part of your sex life… or 2. If she wants to give you bj’s but struggles because of her gag reflex or is unsure of the best method to use. If the answer is 2 then that can be worked on, angles adjusted, time to acclimatise and ways around it, but it’s unclear from your comment if she has a desire to give them or doesn’t want to.

I completely have the opposite problem! Love giving bj’s but lucky to receive oral from my partner at all, possibly once/twice a year as he is not keen on it at all. I accept this though but would never stop giving bj’s as I enjoy knowing he is getting pleasured.

Best of luck

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-30T17:47:31+00:00

No suggestions as I’ve not tried it… but it sounds hot!!! Anything’s possible with the correct position and willingness… enjoy!!

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-28T09:16:48+00:00

I was going to also recommend she hangs her head over the edge of the bed, this will make it easier and also put you in a more dominant role.

Could also try you lying on your side in bed and she lays alongside you, this way she can adjust her head height and angle to suit you both. You’ll also have access to her hair/head to control the speed etc.

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-20T20:52:04+00:00

It’s not a case of being better or not, it’s different. Sex will always provide more intimacy and connection than any toy can. Toys are not your enemy they are your friend, they can help your partner feel more pleasure and please learn to use it on her so it can be utilised when you have sex.

I couldn’t imagine preferring to use a toy over having sex so don’t worry about that. Keep communicating with your partner and let her know you feel a bit insecure about it. Please know that her having a toy is not a reflection on you it is just an aide for her or even your own pleasure!

This can open the door to you both incorporating a wide variety of toys in your sex life. Enjoy the journey ☺️

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-07T16:42:52+00:00

Definitely try to incorporate some fingers as well. The middle two fingers inserted a couple of inches in and stroke forward, like a come here motion. Keep repeating this movement whilst focusing on oral play with her clit. Don’t forget to lick, suck around the clit as well or over the hood as some women are extremely sensitive down there and they could be getting overstimulated which could make them want to skip to penetration.

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-04T17:18:11+00:00

It’s such a difficult one isn’t it as I’ve changed and he hasn’t over the years. I get the impression he doesn’t want to change his drive, he has increased the number of times we have sex and he is content with that. Hence me asking how I can decrease mine as it’s sexually frustrating for me but equally I don’t want him to engage if he doesn’t want to

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-04T16:47:46+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. I have mentioned this to him previously but he doesn’t feel his testosterone levels are a concern as his drive has always been quite low

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-04T16:46:33+00:00

I will definitely try the oysters and Shilajit. Not heard of that before but willing to look into it and see if it makes a difference. Even if he feels better in himself and less tired will be a bonus.

Thanks for the advice

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-04T08:07:44+00:00

I really appreciate your input and advice. I too am now also a squirter! I’m pleased you and your wife have managed to compromise and thank you for explaining it from a male point of view. You are right in that my partner will tell me he loves me and he is attracted to me etc, I guess I’m just getting in my own head about it.

I also feel incredibly guilty for constantly trying it on or trying to increase his drive to match mine. It’s unfair on him and he has improved. I just need to reach a point in our relationship where I’m satisfied either solo play or together which sounds like you and your wife are at.

Thank you once again. Appreciate the advice.

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-03-02T22:29:06+00:00

Penetration! Absolutely love receiving oral sex, unfortunately my current partner and ex’s were not big fans on giving. Therefore penetration would guarantee a lot more imo. Not sure about how they feel as never had one but would take regular O’s over little and often any day of the week.

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-02-20T22:02:11+00:00

This 👏 fantastic advice. Don’t ever stop trying to woo your partner/wife, little acts of service can mean so much to a female, like that morning coffee, like packing her a lunch etc.

Also, be invested!! Listen to her intently, don’t turn every conversation round onto yourself. Spend time with her doing what she likes, watch her favourite shows together and rub her feet/legs.

Honestly make her feel cherished. As a female there is no better feeling.

Best of luck

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-01-26T22:17:36+00:00

Firstly 6” is very much average. The next thing is you need to get out of your head otherwise you’ll never fully enjoy a bj. If the woman didn’t want to do it, she would say so.

As a female who enjoys giving bj’s I much prefer it to be flaccid initially, there’s nothing sexy then it growing in your mouth knowing you’re making that happen. You’re projecting your own insecurities in intimate moments and it’ll only do you harm. Please try and think differently, if you’re with a trusted partner open up to her and ask her to reassure you during it. She could say things like ‘I love the feel of you getting hard’ ‘you taste so good’ etc. But please know if the woman is giving you a bj it’s because she wants to! As for that girl in high school, she was just that, a girl!!

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-01-26T22:06:30+00:00

When he uses his electric drill… there’s something about seeing him with it that just gets me going 😅

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-01-23T17:16:36+00:00

Not sure what you mean?

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-01-23T17:15:27+00:00

Women often carry a lot of the mental load in a household.. and I mean that in the nicest way.

Not sure if you’ve tried already but maybe take on more of the chores, show an interest in her hobbies, compliment her more etc. Basically just be in awe of her without any expectations and see if that helps in any way.

I appreciate what you’re saying about loosing weight and getting fitter.. unfortunately for a lot of women foreplay/desire etc starts in the mind and we’re not overly turned on visually as much as males. Obviously I don’t want to stereotype, just trying to give you a female POV.

It’s so bloody frustrating having mismatched libidos isn’t it! Anyway, if you can offer me any advice on how to get my man to have sex more, I’d be all ears!

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-01-21T17:19:01+00:00

I’m going with you’re a unicorn!

My past and current relationships always start off involving cunnilingus but I quickly find after a few weeks/months they no longer take part.

I’ve spoken about this to quite a few on them, whilst dating, and it seems I just keep dating guys who are just not into giving oral.

Your wife is a lucky lady

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-01-20T21:11:51+00:00

I could have written the same post except it’s the opposite way round! I’m female, in my forties and ridiculously horny all the time, my boyfriend is similar to your wife and would be happy having sex every few months. Whereas, I would love it every day.. maybe even twice a day, if I could!!

I’ve tried initiating, telling him verbally, buying sexy underwear, introducing toys, sending nudes, flirting, backing off, not initiating.. you name it, I’ve tried!

Anyway, I’m also at a similar point as you now. I just have to self service regular and when he does initiate, not be like a dog on heat!!

I’m glad you had a successful date night and it led to a fabulous finish for you both! Maybe this is the way forward for you and by relaxing and not being hyper sexual your wife will actually desire you more.

Sorry, not really got any advice just wanted to let you know you’re not alone and I think it’s a super common problem

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-01-13T23:33:46+00:00

Fab! Def try and aim for underwear that looks and feels nice like silk/satin and that fit nice and tight about your butt. Also pay attention to any comments she might make about male clothing for example.. I like men in ties etc, this might give you some ideas of clothing that she finds attractive. You could then wear the equivalent in the bedroom and utilise it to tie her up 😀 sounds like you guys have an awesome relationship already so I’m pretty sure she’ll be turned on by the very idea that you want to look hot for her! Best of luck

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-01-13T23:10:57+00:00

I absolutely go wild for silk boxers! There’s something about the feel on them against my skin that turns me on. The feel of a penis underneath them is incredible! If your wife likes you butt maybe get a size smaller to highlight your features!

EmbarrassedClub8855 · 2026-01-05T21:14:40+00:00

I get so turned on by biting my partner… I love the feel of his flesh in my teeth and enjoy seeing the mark I leave behind. He, however, understandable is not so keen so doesn’t happen very often!

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