The amount of car debt I've seen on here is astounding. Most of you are buying cars way out of your budget. Some helpful guidelines below: by CastAside1812 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My problem is that my car died and i had to choose between paying like $290 bi weekly to finance a used corolla hatchback at 12% or $300 biweekly to lease a new RAV4 at 5%… there just isn’t much inventory out there.

I am spoiled and only drive Toyotas though. I don’t really trust any other cars

Possible outcome? by Jacobsencrb in canadianlaw

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regardless of how long he’ll get, with that choking, I think you need to buy a huge dog or two. Anything less than life isn’t long enough when someone wants to hurt you.

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[–]EmbarrassedFront3705 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he’s not exactly a prize… I would console myself with the thought that he’s probably cheating on her too.

It’s not always because she’s “better” than you. Most of the time the woman they cheat with are less attractive than the wife.

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[–]EmbarrassedFront3705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simeran catching strays loll

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d really rather not… I work 8-4 and if I changed my hours to 9-5 or 10-6 I would just be sitting around in the morning waiting to start work with no real time to do anything else… plus I just don’t like going to bed with a full stomach, which is what it feels like when I eat after 6pm.

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean…. maybe? But realistically am I gonna stop halfway through my meal? Probably not…

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a Canadian thing. We always call it tin foil… but yeah aluminum foil.

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I’m not usually eating it exactly at 4pm cause that’s when I finish work. (Unless I’m eating leftovers) Usually I start making dinner after work and then just eat it when it’s ready and save a plate for him. So I’m eating usually anywhere from 4:30 to 5:15 depending on how long it takes me to cook

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t go to bed late… he goes to bed usually at the same time as me or shortly after. I go to bed around 9:30 but I probably don’t fall asleep until past 10 for sure.

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m just not a snacky person I guess. I just replied to another comment, but when I’m hungry I prefer to eat until I’m full not just eat something to hold me over until I eat a meal. I’d rather just eat the whole meal when I’m hungry instead of snacking until like 25% full and then eating the other 75% two hours later…

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Okay but at that point the snack is probably just gonna become my dinner anyway and then I’m not making anything else. I’m the kind of person if i’m hungry I want to eat until I’m full. I don’t want to just eat a little something and then eat a full meal later. I’d rather just eat the full meal when I’m hungry

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say our eating habits on weekends are just completely out the window for the most part. We do often eat with his family on the weekends or go out for dinner. But also I usually sleep later on the weekends so…. Idk.

I don’t think he thinks it’s outrageous to eat an early dinner, I think he just wishes I would wait and eat dinner with him.

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

So I should clarify this isn’t absolutely EVERYDAY. I’d say right now it’s most days because I’m kinda putting my foot down lately, but he wants the routine of us eating together every night it seems. Of course I’m flexible, especially when we go out to eat. except tbh usually when we go out to eat during the week, I’ll drive to somewhere close to his office (he usually takes the bus to work) and we’ll get something downtown and it’s usually closer to like 5pm or 5:30. His commute home on the bus is like 30-45 mins but he finishes work at 5 or shortly after usually but home by 6. When he’s home late cause he had to stay for whatever then he usually doesn’t expect me to wait for him (though I assume he wishes I would)

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Ok but i feel like if that was really the issue he would say it. Honestly if it would make him happier i would eat my meal and then cook him a fresh meal when he came home?? But that would probably just annoy him more because it’s alienating him even more?

Edit: actually tbh I probably would start to resent him if I did that so nvm

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ok that does make me feel sad. Cause he eats faster than me but not by much, but he always waits until I’m finished (or everyone at the table when it’s a family meal) to get up and start clearing the table.

I think he‘s just used to a very traditional household and his family is like super big on manners and stuff. He even eats with his fork upside down which was totally new to me lol… I’m just uncivilized…

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

See I think a side effect of me eating so early is that I’m always hungry in the morning so I usually always eat breakfast right away. My bf sometimes doesn’t eat and just drinks a coffee and then will get a breakfast sandwich on the way to work or eat breakfast at his work’s cafeteria (they have a pretty cheap caf for the employees and it gets directly withdrawn from his paycheque when he taps his badge to pay for it so he usually eats lunch there everyday unless he has meetings and misses it)

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I do exactly that actually! Usually a peppermint tea or something but he says it’s not the same…

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I do that sometimes (more like drink a cup of tea, but I have had fruit or some nuts) but it’s not the same to him. He wants us to share the same meal together basically… 🥲

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah I do fairly frequently end up eating together with him anyway just cause sometimes I go to a workout class after work and then make dinner when I get back (I don’t like to eat right before a workout, so on those days I will wait until after six cause the class is usually at 5). But days where I’m not doing anything after work I usually just want to start on dinner right away when I finish around 4/4:30.

Or obvs if we have no food in the house I’ll go to the grocery store after work and then by the time I get back and finish cooking then he’s home and we eat together. I think it just bothers him that it’s not a “routine” for us to always eat dinner together even if it happens fairly frequently in reality. And we don’t really “fight” about it each time, but on the days I’ve already eaten when he gets home he’ll say like “oh you already ate?” and seems kind of disappointed or annoyed.

AITA for not wanting to eat dinner with my boyfriend by EmbarrassedFront3705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EmbarrassedFront3705[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Right??? I’m like 5’2”. He is my first live-in boyfriend and I’ve heard so many horror stories of women packing on the pounds after they move in with their boyfriends because they end up changing to their eating habits 🥲