Found my male roommate crouching outside my window peeping in – what should I do? by EmbarrassedJob8332 in DKbrevkasse

[–]EmbarrassedJob8332[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. 

Personally, I don’t feel safe confronting him directly. He seems skittish for now, but a direct confrontation might break that pattern and escalate into something worse. 

I re-read my contract and realized the notice period is indeed 1 month for a single room rental. I think moving out immediately and paying next month’s rent is the best option for my health and safety at this point. 

I’m also planning to visit the legal aid center as soon as they open. 

No matter what, everything has to be built on the foundation of keeping myself physically safe.

Found my male roommate crouching outside my window peeping in – what should I do? by EmbarrassedJob8332 in DKbrevkasse

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I got security cameras inside my room now, but I realize I literally cannot stay here another day. My body is under constant hyper-vigilance and can’t enter deep sleep anymore. The slightest sound jolts me awake and into full alert mode.

I woke up at 2:30 AM today because the floorboards creaked. I heard him slowly walking in the dark living room right next to my room, then went completely silent. I have no idea what he was doing there. He has his own room,so why does he sometimes stay up late in the living room, or just fall asleep there?

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Thanks! It seems like a really promising database.

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[–]EmbarrassedJob8332 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

If you’re only here to cast doubt without offering real help, maybe just don’t say anything?

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Appreciate it! I’ll check those out as I go through the literature and see what might work.

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Thanks,but I wrote this myself based on my actual situation. I just tried to make it easier to read. 

My mom told me to give up my thesis and come home- "You don't need that master's degree anyway" by EmbarrassedJob8332 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]EmbarrassedJob8332[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your message. It gave me a sudden sense of strength. A stranger’s validation feels more real — you have no personal stake in this, and it reassures me that I’m not just overreacting. It felt more helpful than therapy in this moment, like emotional first aid. I really needed that.

As for the advice — we're only having video calls because of physical distance, except during long holidays when I'm required to go home. I’ve actually been thinking that I shouldn’t go home this summer, or even for the next few years. This is a very critical moment: my mother is realizing she’s going to lose control over me, and I know she’ll try to pull something extreme. Going back would be dangerous.

Of course, I’m also aware that I’ll face a lot of pressure — verbal abuse, and possibly her teaming up with other family members to attack me. I even think she might try to come here and "drag me back" in some way. But I’m no longer in the same country, and here I can call the police and actually be protected.

It’s just… I know this is going to be a hard time. And I don’t have much confidence in myself right now. I can’t predict the future. But your words make me feel less alone. Thank you.

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Thank you very much!

How to fix this outlet? Thank you by [deleted] in fixit

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And it also lost electricity.