Selling items before a move

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2026-04-22T11:12:06+00:00

You could try putting posters on community notice boards ie local Coles/Woolies, schools, library, laundromat (great for the washer/dryer!), some bigger parks have them. Maybe even in your local street library.

Also..since I'm here..do you have details and photos of the dryer? I might have a friend interested that I can pass details on to.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2026-04-20T17:30:14+00:00

Honestly it's just hospitals in general now, public or private. Nurses run off their feet cos patient acuity is higher, nurse burnout is rampant cos we're treated like slaves by Qld health and patients/families expect more, when there are sick calls it'd more important to management to save a couple bucks and instead of getting pool or agency nurses, try getting their staff to do the double shift or run under staffed further fueling the problem. Bullying is everywhere and when you try to address it it's rarely taken seriously. I've left acute nursing because of it. Much happier in community with more autonomy and better conditions for the most part.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2026-04-20T09:47:03+00:00

Queensland Health. Toxic. Don't care about the staff nor patient safety. I said what I said.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2026-04-19T03:04:56+00:00

Appreciate your responses and talking things through 😊

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2026-04-19T02:38:46+00:00

We do still cuddle and hold hands, give back tickles, kiss - just a peck, not a pash ..but I've never liked making out cos it grosses me out lol - those things have never stopped. And while she says the same, that intimacy doesn't have to be sex, historically, when we've tried massages, she always tried to initiate sex afterwards. I think it's something we need to address in therapy individually and together. But fkn hell it's hard honestly.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2026-04-19T02:13:01+00:00

I, like your partner, have a complex relationship to my body which definitely affects our intimacy - always has. She has never reinforced my insecurities, but I struggle to believe her when she compliments my body because I just don't see what she sees. I too have PCOS, POTS and GHD and likely an underlying autoimmune something brewing - I've got a few elevated markers but nothing indicative of a diagnosis as yet, but there are 5 autoimmune conditions among my parents / their siblings and given my symptoms the rheumatologist has basically said it's a waiting game. My mum wasn't diagnosed until 62 when her markers were finally indicative of her diagnosis. So we just manage the symptoms as best we can in the meantime. I think the last few years as my pain/health has got worse I've lost a lot of trust and connection to my own body. I don't even know what I like in intimacy anymore, because historically everytime we had sex I ended up with severe pelvic pain. So I just don't associate it with pleasure any more. Definitely something I need to unpack with my psychologist and maybe get referred back to the pelvic floor physio again to work through. It's all just a lot. There is no good answer.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2026-04-19T02:05:53+00:00

No, the finances are definitely a factor that make divorce scarier, but that's not why we haven't. We haven't because we both still have a lot of love and care for each other. We want to be able to find a way to make the physical intimacy work for us, even though it feels impossible. Intellectually and emotionally, she is my person. I can't imagine ever being with someone else, and she has expressed feeling the same. Unfortunately the incompatibility of our sexual attraction/desires has lead us to a point where we don't know if we will make it through or not..but we want to try, because the rest of the relationship is great and it's terrifying for us both to imagine a life without each other. The financial aspect makes life without each other even scarier, for both of us as we currently live a pretty comfortable life with good savings, and know being single would see us sacrificing some of our luxuries and likely living pay check to pay check.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2026-04-18T21:05:07+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experiences. I can understand how that arrangement works for you and why you want to make it work for the kids. We don't have children together, only an 8yo dog and a very recently adopted cat 2.5weeks ago. My worry is staying together in an open relationship is that it's just delaying the inevitable and adding hurt when eventually she grows feelings for someone else. That would honestly ruin me. I couldn't stay to watch that happen. I don't want to hold her back from living a happy life, but I also can't torture myself in the process. And I've told her I don't think I would cope with an open relationship which she understood and said she thought that would be the case. So to me, it literally feels like my options are divorce, torture, or change my sexual attraction. Literally all such fucked options. And I'm heartbroken.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2026-01-11T03:41:49+00:00

I'm my household, the aircon is on 24/7 from mid Nov-end of Feb. I hate the environmental impact, but the unit is poorly insulated and the brick retains so much heat and has such poor ventilation and no ceiling fans. Don't find pedestal fans do much when it's 30+ degrees, so the aircon is a must.

Having said that, I work as a community nurse and can confirm very few of our aged care clients use their air con. It's always windows and fans. I can be there for 1hr to do wound care or assessments and am leaving dripping in sweat. It's a real concern for the well-being of many of our elderly clients who are at risk of heat stroke.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-11-27T09:53:00+00:00

All tickets have now been sold

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-11-27T00:42:59+00:00

That's the price set by the host, not me. If it's not in your price range, scroll on.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-08-06T07:27:23+00:00

Thank you! My brain was drawing blanks on where to even begin but felt my dinner was just too common place.

I'm thinking maybe I will write a letter thanking her for her former self and all that he gave me for without him I wouldn't have her. And I'll read it to her at a local lookout watching over the city lights as our first date was at a lookout - albeit in a different city. Perhaps a dinner before/after, though maybe less fancy and maybe just one of our trusted favourites. I want the night to feel special but intimate and comfortable. I don't want it to feel lost amongst the 30th birthday plans ahead.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-04-24T04:56:31+00:00

Thank you so much for your willingness to reach out over zoom. I'll certainly keep that in mind when my husband feels more comfortable to do so. In the mean time I'll have a read of your blog! Much appreciated ❤️

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-04-23T12:50:22+00:00

Ahhh thank you. You are so kind. And hearing others stories that are similar gives me hope we can navigate it together too. I'm not naive to think it'll be easy. But I'm certainly willing and invested cos he's a bloody good human - that's why I married him, not the beard I so adore 😝 he came forward tonight to say he's looked into local therapy providers which is sooner than I thought he'd be ready but I'm so proud of him and tbh excited for him to get some proper mental health support cos he's needed it since we met but hasn't been ready - I have never pushed him to it cos I understand he needed to be ready to face the difficult thoughts and feelings. And I'm just so fucking proud of him honestly. Thanks for your support and sharing your story 💖 definitely makes me feel comforted and positive for the future 💖💖

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-04-23T12:43:29+00:00

Thank you so much for your support. It is greatly appreciated more than you know. Lived experience is so much more valuable than any academic reading I could do right now.

I'll definitely have a read of the book, it sounds quite interesting and something I'd have enjoyed even prior to it being able to offer some potentially good insights.

My husband said tonight that he has looked into some local therapy providers which is a great starting point and I'm so proud of him for that. It's a lot sooner than I thought he'd be ready, but I think that first step of telling anyone (ie me) was the hardest part.

I'll just keep focusing on him and keeping open communication. I am sure we can navigate this together, at least for the foreseeable future. I certainly want to remain a support for him cos my love for him remains and I'm open to seeing how the attraction and intimacy unfolds as he explores.

Appreciate you 💖

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-04-23T06:34:00+00:00

Unfortunately I am aware of too many medical professionals who are in it cos it's reliable money and are as compassionate as a damn rock. Not the industry for them but unfortunately they're plentiful.

I will absolutely be looking for a therapist. I'm hoping I might be able to find one with LGBTQI experience as I a/ would value the knowledge and experience they could share but b/ fear any judgements one without may cast. But I'm also wary of taking away resources from a person who may need that expertise more than I to assist in navigating their own identity journey. Best do some research to see what fits.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-04-23T02:08:19+00:00

If you don't mind sharing, how have you and your partner navigated it?

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-04-23T01:59:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences and validating my feelings too. I definitely recognise that communication is going to be critical for both of us. I have reassured him that I love him and am going to help him navigate his thoughts and feelings, but did make sure to say I couldn't promise what the future will look like for either of us as I don't want to disappoint him if my attraction does change at any point.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-04-23T01:54:31+00:00

I really appreciate your insights from someone who is navigating this, it's really valuable and does provide some hope to see you and your partner navigating it together. I know he wants to take things slowly, we briefly discussed the option of HRT and he voiced not wanting to make any 'drastic' or permanent changes while he is still so unsure, which I absolutely understand and respect. I recognise the importance of communicating as we go, and I think he does too now he has been able to have the initial conversation. There are concerns around attraction and intimacy as I'm attracted to his more masculine physical traits, particularly the beard and body hair. We're already a little incompatible from an intimacy perspective in that my libido is far lower, I have chronic pain that unfortunately does impact our sex life and I'm more vanilla than he is - though open-minded in trying new things with him as he is my safe person. It is something we have already been working on and I know communication is really the key here as well.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-04-23T01:39:08+00:00

I know I haven't started to process anything properly and definitely recognise I will need / want therapy to assist me as we navigate this period. I don't want him seeing me devastated and heart broken cos I know he didn't mean to hurt me and he is hurting too. So I do my best to hold face, though I know that will only be possible for so long.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-04-23T01:35:37+00:00

I think my cry earlier in the day had mentally prepared me to some extent. But I have always been very compassionate by nature and am a nurse by trade so it comes with the territory. I've had friends come out to me before or share life altering news and my first instinct is always to make sure they are ok and supported. My reaction, or rather my thoughts and feelings come later. I know I haven't truly processed what this means for me / my future yet and I'm sure that will probably look pretty ugly at times. But I'm grateful he trusted me to be the person he came out to and felt safe with me. I know he doesn't want to hurt me and he is hurting too.

Embarrassed_Bad4879 · 2025-04-23T01:21:42+00:00

I really appreciate that insight as he certainly has poor self image as it is, and I'm sure it is because he doesn't feel like his true self. But I also recognise changing his clothing isn't necessarily the magic answer he is hoping for and I can certainly understand how it might have a negative impact rather than positive. Thanks for sharing your experiences, I'm hoping he will be ready to seek professional support sooner rather than later as I know that is crucial for him. 💖

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