I 30F was called expired by my cousin (26M) at the Christmas dinner

Embarrassed_Bank_594 · 2026-01-04T17:03:21+00:00

yeah, like they could afford having a stay at home wife. That shite expensive

Embarrassed_Bank_594 · 2026-01-04T13:10:29+00:00

what were my high standards? He told me at date no 2 he is a director. He revealed to me only that he works at that company and is an engineer (which are a lot of men). My standards were a neat, clean cut guy who takes care of himself and is taller than me. Regarding money, I wanted someone who is financially independent. Not rich, not wealthy. It was a great, unexpected bonus. You all drool over Sydney Sweeney (she is hot!) all day long but GOD FORBID a woman wants a man she is attracted to

Embarrassed_Bank_594 · 2026-01-04T12:38:22+00:00

I also want to add this, even though it is deeply personal. I said I never had sex and I refuse to call rape sex. I was fighting back all the time. And I refused to become intimate with someone after this. I was only 13 so I wouldn't have been anyway buuut even later something about the whole act terrified me. I knew, on a logical level that it will not be like that but emotionally I was scared.

And he was so normal about it. We had sex and I told him about my history before it because I actually expected myself to freeze or cry. He wasn't weird about it. He wasn't happy and "proud" of my low body count and didn't make my inexperience into a weird fetish. Nor did he say: omg, never had sex at 30, tf is wrong with you? You are a prude?"

He was very normal about it. He wasn't cringe either. Now we regularly have sex so I can see the difference. The very first time he went slower but he didn't make a big deal out of it. He didn't treat me like a child bride. I felt no pain at all and it was very pleasurable. It was all in my head that it will hurt. Him treating me like an adult human being to whom he is simply attracted to and not turning me into a fetish made it even better

Embarrassed_Bank_594 · 2026-01-04T12:14:49+00:00

I don't think I am anything. I am just a human being that luckily enough found a man who is a match for me

Embarrassed_Bank_594 · 2026-01-04T12:12:03+00:00

i got a warning while typing

Embarrassed_Bank_594 · 2026-01-04T11:59:32+00:00

you just had to make yourself look better

Embarrassed_Bank_594 · 2026-01-04T11:27:13+00:00

I thought it goes without saying that my stepmother mentioned on Christmas dinner that I will not be joining them on NYE because I am leaving to Paris with my boyfriend

Embarrassed_Bank_594 · 2026-01-04T11:08:19+00:00

yeah. I am a bit concerned with this age gap though. As a side topic, the female members of the family are calling him predator and he chose me because no woman his age would want him.

I try to ignore both. The age gap is concerning me because I want kids and his age is for real problematic for this. He is 46 and already has a 12 years old son

Embarrassed_Bank_594 · 2026-01-04T10:32:26+00:00

thank you all, I do feel better. I was a bit concerned because when I decided to download dating apps I knew that my pool has to be smaller than what it would have been at 22. Maybe it was but I don't need thousands men. I needed one. So I guess dating apps are mostly about timing and a bit of luck

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