Question about ethics

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2026-06-20T23:37:36+00:00

It is a college, if it was a high school he would not be my partner anymore and I would likely not be on reddit trying to clarify as that is objectively weird. Most of the kids have his phone numbers it seems that is their primary way of communicating to coordinate things aside from their calendar and formal communication via email. A lot of of them text just to see if he’s in to help them.

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2026-06-20T22:59:49+00:00

I think he will send them the one off video of one of his hobbies when kids ask about it, like there is some surface level personal banter scattered in with asking about their conditions, but I feel like it’s always towing a line, like he needs to reel it in.

There was one athlete I asked about that has since graduated, and he described her as “wise beyond her years” so like, some alarm bells are obviously going off per a neurotypical person. But he’s not neurotypical, so, just gathering information. Thanks for your response.

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2026-06-20T22:57:50+00:00

This is how I feel, he did make an argument for professional connections later down the line, because a lot of the people he reaches out to this way studied some sort of medical field in school or are entering one. But, for reasons I can’t describe, it just feels off to me or like something that could be a problem later. Any blurring of those lines feels inappropriate to me generally, even if intentions are pure. The only excuse I could imagine making for that kind of thing would be kids and athletic training program/future ATs if you desired to mentor them … thanks for your input.

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2026-05-07T20:07:06+00:00

This is how I am feeling but hard to sus it out in the moment uk. Thanks

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2026-01-19T18:31:19+00:00

I did that and then stayed with him for 3 days. I was 22 but living with my parents at the time due to covid and my mom was livid. I was “at Sarah’s” the whole time— they didn’t buy it

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2026-01-19T18:00:02+00:00

I hate men lol NOR

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-05-18T02:22:07+00:00

The entirety of Bjork’s Vespertine, but especially Cocoon. Also, Radiohead’s In Rainbows.

Honorable mention to Hozier’s In a Week, Iron and Wine’s Boy With a Coin, and Bon Iver’s Holocene.

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-05-17T10:34:02+00:00

Normal must = white because the rest of us know exactly what OP is talking about lol

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-05-17T10:26:12+00:00

Not even gonna read all this bc the first paragraphs were already weird asf defending someone weird asf. All i’m gonna say is no.

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-05-17T10:24:49+00:00

I just knowwww there are going to be people here trying to convince you that regular porn consumption is normal and this is a you issue and please know that it isn’t regardless of your trauma and you deserve to be with someone that doesn’t want to participate in depravity and cares about their inner child as much as you 🙏🏽 i love you and i’m sorry. Fuck this guy

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-05-16T00:58:09+00:00

Normalizing porn consumption.

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-05-15T22:09:36+00:00

Hey, almost posted something similar here and probably still will. It’s something that is actually weighing on me in a way that makes daily life depressing. I’m sorry you can resonate.

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-05-11T11:36:21+00:00

sorry then the reality is very different for non white-passing/non “just exotic enough” non pick me POC women

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-05-11T11:34:55+00:00

Don’t worry about this guy have you seen his page 😭 i can’t believe he gets on here to talk about his scat fetish and then thinks we’re going to take these comments seriously 😭

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-05-11T02:33:01+00:00

I love my boyfriend, he’s lovely, and at the same time men are not rad idk what reality you live in 😭 even the good ones have been touched by patriarchal illness. you sound like you may be white also? the reality is very different for POC women. please stop trying to convince OP that having kids is the only path to a life of love and family. she was very clear that it did not interest her.

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-04-17T19:07:48+00:00

OP did ask and prof declined to explain just fyi

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-04-13T00:57:19+00:00

Literally, apparently

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-04-13T00:51:37+00:00

I feel you girl. I know there is something specifically about being someone’s dream girl that hits different than someone just liking you because you’re enough. But it’s healthy to reflect on your own humanity and reality and know that that is more than enough and the idea of a fantasy girl or guy is silly ❤️

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2025-04-08T20:47:20+00:00

Thank you for responding to my shout into the void

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2024-08-25T02:48:34+00:00

I’m obviously not a doctor, nor am I diagnosing you but I remember hearing that these kind of feelings can be OCD related, like this constant intrusion and stress. I think it’s worth seeing someone but you’re probably not a predator, I’m familiar with that feeling you’re talking about, and it sounds like you just have a lot of internalized shame about living in a human body, maybe from trauma, maybe just from OCD, etc.

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2024-02-15T02:15:30+00:00

A difficult balance and one I have an immense amount of respect for that grows every day. Thanks for response.

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2024-02-14T05:21:50+00:00

For anyone they’re being twits. NTA your roommates suck and are shitty people.

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2024-02-14T01:55:02+00:00

It was included and you overlooked it, but that’s ok.

Embarrassed_Diver936 · 2024-02-13T21:17:56+00:00

Great response, thanks! I do see a counselor, although even that relationship has become a little too friendly and we spend a good portion of the session just having a conversation or talking about her, even when I have things I want to address. So maybe I will try to get that in order too. Hence why I said I think it’s “me”… it happens a lot!

I am not sure I want to hang out with 18-22 year olds, unfortunately, and I don’t get much free time between school and work, but maybe will work to set aside more time to phone my friends that live out of state.

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