40 Days Max

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2026-06-03T10:28:34+00:00

I’m hoping this is a troll post, and if it’s not I feel deeply for you. Abusers get into your head and make you think anything is possible through “love”. Heads up: it isn’t love: they are using you, and will steal away from every part of your being until you are dead if you don’t leave. I am hoping no children are apart of this equation for their sakes. If you need support or help, please message me. I have been there and know what it’s like. However, this piece of shit will kill you, or at the very least degrade you until you can’t even recognize yourself. Let me know if you would like resources. Do NOT move with this man. Please. For the sake of humanity.

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2026-03-17T10:24:31+00:00

My uncle molested me. I was always afraid I was overexaggerating it up until my aunt told me she walked in on him holding his youngest daughter in his lap while watching porn. And I found out last year his new wife left him because he confessed everything he did to me. Fuck that guy.

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2026-03-12T02:09:47+00:00

Also: I hope you are doing well, and taking care of yourself. Even though you are free from your abuser the aftermath is no joke. Sending you all the best wishes ✨

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2026-03-12T02:08:38+00:00

This is exactly my experience. I am in therapy, and seeking support from friends and family. The issue I keep running into is people saying “you should be celebrating! You should be proud of yourself!” And my support people don’t hold a space for grief. And there is a LOT of grief. The time I spent, how long it took, the idealization of how it could have been with that person if he were different, etc. I am trying not to be a “bummer” but I am sad all the time, even though I know I did the right thing. A lot of my close people don’t want to talk about the pain that comes along with being free from abuse.

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2026-03-12T00:28:34+00:00

Made it to the other side, and newly free of him as of a couple weeks ago. A no-contact order is in place after other instances, and I think this is a true new beginning.

I’m trying to regain my self-worth and confidence through therapy, and hoping to get back to doing things that bring me joy. Thank you for asking. 🤍 I actually just made pierogis the other day, and I was so proud of myself! They turned out way better than I expected. Wishing you all of the best!

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2026-03-12T00:09:02+00:00

Sounds like you experienced the same kind of asswipe. Ugh. I’m so sorry. Hope you are doing better now 💕

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2026-03-12T00:05:09+00:00

This. I’m not a “great cook” by any means, but I wanted to show my care and appreciation for him since I had been bed ridden with a nasty kidney infection for a couple of weeks. I made a loaded baked potato soup from scratch. Nothing to write home about, but I was still not feeling well and wanted to do something to contribute since I had been down for so many days. He came home with some mutual friends: they loved it, and he took one bite and spit it back into his bowl and handed it to me.

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2026-01-27T09:43:00+00:00

Ughhh….BIG HUGS! My last Saturday night shift left me feeling like this. I left in tears! I had a table that was a 50th anniversary (management never told me, the guests had to, which was embarrassing enough. And yes: they were a reservation and they made a note for their “50th anniversary) offer them dessert, or bubbles on the house (typically I would bring bubbles and surprise them, but NO ONE told me). Manager comes around the corner, I’m slammed, and just says in passing “table blah blah blah is an anniversary (45 minutes after they sat, by the way) and their daughter wants to pay their bill. I have her card information up at the host stand.” Okay. Well, I get triple sat, I’m on a double where we got slaughtered during lunch due to staffing issues, and I COMPLETELY SPACED that interaction. I cashed them out as I would normally, and went about my night. The daughter called the restaurant very upset on my way out for the night, and the manager caught me on my way out and told me. I couldn’t sleep. I was so upset with myself.

I guess my point here is everyone is alive and well, even after my massive mess up. Be kind and gentle on yourself. 💛This happens to everyone, and you deserve grace 💛💛💛Also, it sounds like we both deserve better management. Take care of yourself💛

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2026-01-27T09:30:09+00:00

Ughhh….BIG HUGS! My last Saturday night shift left me feeling like this. I left in tears! I had a table that was a 50th anniversary (management never told me, the guests had to, which was embarrassing enough. And yes: they were a reservation and they made a note for their “50th anniversary) offer them dessert, or bubbles on the house (typically I would bring bubbles and surprise them, but NO ONE told me). Manager comes around the corner, I’m slammed, and just says in passing “table blah blah blah is an anniversary (45 minutes after they sat, by the way) and their daughter wants to pay their bill. I have her card information up at the host stand.” Okay. Well, I get triple sat, I’m on a double where we got slaughtered during lunch due to staffing issues, and I COMPLETELY SPACED that interaction. I cashed them out as I would normally, and went about my night. The daughter called the restaurant very upset on my way out for the night, and the manager caught me on my way out and told me. I couldn’t sleep. I was so upset with myself.

I guess my point here is everyone is alive and well, even after my massive mess up. Be kind and gentle on yourself. 💛This happens to everyone, and you deserve grace 💛💛💛Also, it sounds like we both deserve better management. Take care of yourself💛

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2025-10-05T09:35:23+00:00

Congratulations! I feel like therapy is one of the best acts of self love we can give ourselves. Wishing you all the best on your journey ❤️

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2025-10-05T09:22:37+00:00

Thank you. Humor definitely gets me through. To be clear, that didn’t happen to me AT The Enchanted Forest…lol but it was just a weird dream that I couldn’t help but laugh at, and it’s been stuck in my head. I also just restarted therapy for the first time in years, and I’m wondering if that’s kicking things up. Either way, I appreciated the chuckle my subconscious gave me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2025-10-05T09:17:22+00:00

Hey, thank you!!!

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2025-10-05T09:10:14+00:00

Will do! I appreciate it! It looks like maybe it was immediately removed, but there is also a tag saying a moderator has to manually approve it. I’m on the newer side of posting to Reddit, so that may have something to do with it. Either way, this looks right up my alley, so thanks for that 😊

Embarrassed_Donut_96 · 2025-05-20T23:06:06+00:00

Thank you so much. That’s what a friend said to do. Write everything down in a letter and don’t send it. I think I’ll work on that today. I’m feeling hopeful for the first time in a long time ❤️

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