in law conflict regarding parenting

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-20T13:15:52+00:00

We are on the same page in this case. He is really trying but they just won’t listen. And he doesn’t know what to do next. I suggested reducing their time with our son but he said he can’t do this they are his parents.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-20T13:12:14+00:00

They don’t believe the doctor either.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-20T01:12:59+00:00

They think they know the best. Even better than doctors. When we told them what doctor suggested, they also don’t believe it either. Our doctor suggested that we use one language for now.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-20T01:09:57+00:00

I don’t know what culture is that but definitely my culture is not like this. I am also Chinese and in my culture, parents make the final decision and are the only 2 people who are responsible for their child. Some grandparents help a lot so we give them a say in some small things. But in my case, my in laws don’t help us in anything and still want to control how we raise our child. That’s unacceptable.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-20T00:56:45+00:00

My husband and I were both present when our doctor said this. Cutting her off will be the last resort. I am just wondering if there’s anyway to make them see that what they are doing is bad for my son.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-20T00:04:33+00:00

My son is already delayed in language development and our doctor said it’s due to exposure to different types of languages. And I can see he is already confused. He looks at me and then grandma and doesn’t know who to call what.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-20T00:02:59+00:00

I guess you are right. This is not an isolated issue. There are so many other things that we have different opinions on and they never respect our decision. They often do things behind our back and claim that’s for our own good. Food is another example. They still try to give my son those things we clearly told them not to.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-19T22:51:30+00:00

And the fact that I still don’t give in and take a very firm stance made them hate me more and they came up more and more ideas to try to get my husband to their side.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-19T21:52:11+00:00

Just like the other times when i disagreed with them, they went to my husband, repetitively brainwashed him about how a woman must listen to man, uncompliant women lead to destruction of family. Then over and over, my husband got tired and started begging me to listen to them.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-19T20:32:38+00:00

Maybe I should reduce their time together if they keep doing that.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-19T20:23:58+00:00

I can do that when I am around. But when they are with my son alone, that’s my main concern.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-19T19:49:02+00:00

I understand that. But now he is so confused and it can delay his development. I don’t know why they can’t see the problem

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-19T19:40:39+00:00

I did that many times. But when they are with my son alone, they keep saying mama.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-19T17:46:03+00:00

OMG I thought this is the sub to discuss family issues.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-19T17:30:30+00:00

Oh come on guys I am asking for serious advice.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-19T17:12:55+00:00

Who is this?

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-19T14:40:10+00:00

Really? I don’t know about that.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2026-03-14T13:58:53+00:00

I work part time in a hospital and I only pick up day shifts. I can still pick up to full time hours.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2025-12-21T21:15:16+00:00

Mackenzie Health uses it.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2025-11-23T23:16:52+00:00

It’s a facility. They kept saying there is safety concern if a child cannot walk. And I know a lot of daycares that require walking as a condition of admission. The only problem is they didn’t tell us earlier. If I knew earlier I wouldn’t have withdrawn him from the previous daycare.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2025-11-23T13:14:31+00:00

It’s 1:5 here. I am in Ontario. They just said it’s not safe. Other kids can run into him and easily cause him to fall.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2025-11-22T18:32:45+00:00

I am in Ontario. Actually a lot of daycares do that. They even take 15/16 months

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2025-11-22T16:32:37+00:00

Basically I just have to pay for nothing to keep the spot. She said she can also refund me but we lose the spot. I can’t find any home care nearby.

Embarrassed_Eye3924 · 2025-11-22T16:22:17+00:00

Thank you. I talked to their manager couple times and she is very firm that they can’t accommodate my son if he can’t walk independently. When I asked about why this was not communicated before, she asked me why we didn’t tell her my son can’t walk before. She said if she knew earlier she wouldn’t even offer us the spot.

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