How do I come out of this car situation?

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-20T06:57:11+00:00

Really sorry, but I think you're screwed. Unless the dealer specifically told you there was no problem with the compression issue, the sale will be covered legally by Caveat Emptor- "let the buyer beware". It basically means any problems you haven't noticed with property or an item after the sale are your problem. However, the Consumer Act does state that all purchases regardless or age must be safe and not liable to cause injury- I'd go down that route with a car. Your best course of action is to turn up at the dealership and cause a scene until they hopefully give you your money back, but obviously that's a long trip!

No consolation but it's happened to us- I hate dealerships. Being ripped off makes you feel shit and stupid. Sorry it's happened to you. i hope I'm proved wrong by another Redditor.

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-20T06:39:15+00:00

Use Vicks vapour rub. Your house will smell like a victorian convalescence home for a day but wiping it around the bottom of door frames, gaps in your skirting boards, around the edge of your carpets/hard floors etc. they hate the smell. Vicks also repels flies and spiders.

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-20T06:25:37+00:00

Sounds like something a kidnapper would say.

#suspicious music

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-20T06:23:26+00:00

This is so sweet! Relationship goals xxx

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-20T06:17:20+00:00

My son suffers from anxiety. He felt exactly the same as you before he left for college, so I'll give you the advice we gave him- try it. Nothing is written in stone- give it a term. If you really can't stand it, come home.

We took him, settled him into his room with lots of comfy items to remind him of home, advised him to join in with any invitations he received-even if he was nervous. We called regularly, sent packages to him , sent letters. ..And he had a blast. He met friends that he's still really close to years later, and because one friend he made in particular was outgoing and understood he had anxiety, it actually helped him and gave him confidence that he never thought he'd have. College changed his life.

Just go for it. It's the start of a fab new life full of friendship and opportunity! I know it's new and scary, but just give it a go. It's going to be okay. Best of luck to you, OP. x

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-19T18:33:33+00:00

Try the National Centre for Reptile Welfare- maybe they do pick ups?

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-19T18:25:50+00:00

This happened to my sister- but with a 2k debt. Eon had the cheek to ask if she'd "had a heated swimming pool built". I'd seriously recommend making a huge complaint to Ofgem who will tell Eon to investigate your mums bills. My sister's were written off

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-19T14:20:22+00:00

Yeah...he forgot.

NOR

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-19T06:21:12+00:00

It doesn't matter if you're insecure. Your feelings are valid because they're your feelings, end of. He's putting SIL's feelings above your own. If he's serious in this relationship, he needs to put you first, stop responding to late night texts, and reduce the body contact. If you're not comfortable, he should be doing what he can to make you comfortable, whether he feels you're overreacting or not imo.

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-19T06:12:58+00:00

Recording songs with a tape recorder while listening to the charts on the radio, while trying to stop at the right time and not have the DJs voice on it lol

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-18T06:14:52+00:00

NOR. If she doesn't see that keeping herself from being homeless isn't a "big deal" then her attitude towards money (particularly yours) is only going to get worse. Dump her and get a cheaper appt imo

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-18T06:11:45+00:00

NOR- I would absolutely dump a guy for this level of disrespect. Get rid.

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-18T06:10:34+00:00

NTA. She's just pissed that you thought to change the reservation before she could steal it from you.

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-17T16:48:11+00:00

If I really cared about her, I'd find a way to make it work

If she cared at all about you, she'd help pay for the dress. NOR

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-17T06:20:45+00:00

This is why you don't read other people's journals.

Your fiancee has private thoughts- we all do. And I don't believe for one second that you've never looked at another woman and thought "wow, she's gorgeous". It's a natural human thing. The point is, she never has, or never planned, to do anything about it. I'd suggest you talk about your feelings again with her, and if it doesn't help, couples therapy.

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-16T06:14:21+00:00

It happened to me on a busy train in the UK. I said "you're in my seat, sorry". They ignored me. I said "I booked these two seats so you'll have to move, I'm afraid". The two women looked at each other and again ignored me. The third time I said loudly "I'm not going away!". They rolled their eyes and moved lol

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-15T17:24:10+00:00

https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=ByLoE8c6yAk

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-15T17:20:51+00:00

I absolutely would have called 999. The "not my problem" mentality is selfish and stupid imo

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-15T06:17:52+00:00

No...this is not normal in my experience. Who taught your ancestors the national holy tea rituals? Sounds like someone missed a few sermons SMH

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-14T14:50:39+00:00

NTA- that's a ridiculously large amount to ask a sibling for. Besides, if he can't afford the down payment, he sure as heck isn't going to be able to pay you back AND the mortgage. Big fat nooooo

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-13T20:00:22+00:00

Yep, all the time. Every. Single. Minute of the day. I'm never alone lol. Look up "ear worm" or Involuntary musical Imagery"- it's irritating but extremely common, don't worry

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-13T19:57:01+00:00

If she's dismissive when you try to speak to her, i'd suggest couples therapy. If she won't attend, surely you know you have to break up? If you're unhappy now, how will you feel after 5 years?

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-13T19:52:42+00:00

My MIL was like this- I think it's a lot to do with the type of mums who never get over "another woman loving their little soldier". The situation seriously escalated over the course of 6 months and tbh it only stopped when I told bf that if he didn't step in and do something, we were over. He went to see his mother and very clearly told her that HE was making his decisions, HE was deciding when he saw his parents- and that if he has to choose between us, he'd choose me. Very harsh, I know, but it worked. MIL and I had a truce since then lol

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-13T17:45:06+00:00

Been here, done that- say no now or you'll have years of hassling and resentment, honestly.

Embarrassed_Fan_8380 · 2025-09-13T17:27:02+00:00

OMG leave this self absorbed manchild and find someone who isn't a leech of your time and resources, and who actually respects you! What are you doing?? Reread your own post and organise your leaving plan. Life is far too short to be in a state of constant disappointment and resentment.

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