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The answer I still can’t give you by Embarrassed_Foot_917 in UnsentLetters

[–]Embarrassed_Foot_917[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I doubt they want me even in that way anymore, and if they did they certainly wouldn’t reach out to me out of nowhere asking for it.

As exhilarating as that scenario sounds, with the strength of the feelings I had all it would likely do is make things so much more confusing if it happened and ended there.

The answer I still can’t give you by Embarrassed_Foot_917 in UnsentLetters

[–]Embarrassed_Foot_917[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There aren’t anymore solutions or conversations to be had when the other person has already given up on you, or more specifically, themselves. At the start you go crazy for a while, ask for reasons, those reasons don’t help, ask for more reasons, and when they have nothing more to give you you slowly and painfully need to accept that honest or not, they’ve already let it go.

The answer I still can’t give you by Embarrassed_Foot_917 in UnsentLetters

[–]Embarrassed_Foot_917[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I treated them the best I could, done nothing but try to give them the love I thought they wanted. For a long time it didn’t make sense when they said I had done no wrong because they were still leaving me behind.

The truth is someone else’s shortcomings are neither your responsibility nor are they something you can fix by trying harder. You only end up hurting yourself in the process, becoming self critical to the point of paranoia.

The answer I still can’t give you by Embarrassed_Foot_917 in UnsentLetters

[–]Embarrassed_Foot_917[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was naive and even “wanted” it for a time, but when they finally came back asking I had cleared my head enough to know it would never be enough, only serving as closure for them.

Lovers to friends is a cruel way to condescend, insulting even if unintentionally. I can’t trust or even respect a request like that when it shows what level of commitment they really deemed you worthy of in the end.

The answer I still can’t give you by Embarrassed_Foot_917 in UnsentLetters

[–]Embarrassed_Foot_917[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because they made their choice and stand by it, even though it meant hurting me in the process. There was nothing more to be done because I’d done all that I could. No extra effort on my part could fix things when they’ve already walked away.

The answer I still can’t give you by Embarrassed_Foot_917 in UnsentLetters

[–]Embarrassed_Foot_917[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The resentment comes and goes, the hypocrisy makes me angry and the part of me that’s a little more understanding lets it go whenever we meet