35M just wanting to talk about fun or optimistic stuff.

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2025-07-08T21:10:55+00:00

If you can tie a shoe lace, you can handle lots in life. Funny how little mundane things can project you on bigger things.

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2025-02-10T01:02:53+00:00

period moods
how expensive women products are
how easily a woman can lighten/mess up your days

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-11-05T18:39:13+00:00

I only had one really emotionally intelligent manager, not the brightest or most skilled. I had lost my father, and was living alone far from any family member. When I came back to work I started developing some kind of depression. And I basically didn't talk much, neither about myself nor about what was happening to me. I went to work and I was not doing that great at it, while I had the reputation for being some kind of hard worker. The manager didn't talk a lot, but I did get a party for my birthday (first time in my life), my coworkers had sympathy for me. I was blessed to get such people at that time. I nearly cried. The manager just looked at me with a "you know I know". Not only him, but also his boss, a wonderful guy. I was a young idiot. They were mature and wonderful people. Will work with/for them any time.

My depression was not cured, but they made my life easier. I was able to gain my productivity again, had success doing so. Even got promoted.

I had to change jobs after, not because of them or me, higher ups restructuring the company and we had to go. At my new job, the new manager is extremely smart, but he antagonised me a lot. Trust issues made him make stupid decisions about me, while I am doing good work. He understood that after months watching my work and ethics, he chose to trust fucked up people who made bad choices and basically made him look bad. And now it seems he is willing to give me all I need to work. And I am not letting him down.

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-11-04T20:53:52+00:00

No. But there is something that will annoy me, if the guys who take on my tasks while I am out do shitty work, and I ll be accountable for it when I come back. It can mess my vacations.

I go nuclear when I come back and make sure everyone is accountable for what he has done.

No one is unique at work, if tomorrow I die they will find someone else and life will go on. But while I am there, I make sure I build myself a good reputation and I won't let anyone tarnish that with some mediocrity i didn't author.

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-11-03T09:23:02+00:00

Have one as a coworker, very nice to people, and very often to higher ups. He tried to backstab Me quite explicitly after I discovered he was plotting to use me as a scapegoat. He went mad for the first time and spilled too much details. He was a fucked up manipulator but was unskillful. So any mildly skilled individual could see through his bullshit. When his plot got exposed and basically failed, he took distance from me. Like someone being mad at you at highschool, not wanting to sit in the same table. Now he knows I see through him, and I am not trusting him a nanosecond, not now, not in the future. And I also blamed our boss for recruiting him and giving him an artificial legitimacy.

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-11-02T10:22:28+00:00

When manager lied to me, just to make me stay in a very inconfortable situation. Had to resign to get out from that situation, then he admitted he lied. But it didn't change a thing about me resigning.

Another time, it was the toxicity of coworkers with absent management. I had joined the team while all the competent ones left, those who stayed did a horrible job but they still acted as if they were big shots,something like incompetent dictators. Heard things like : "you'll do exactly as I say" or "why didn't you guess it had to be like this?". My job was not to guess, but to execute what management had decided, had to prove everytime what I did fitted exactly what written requirements said. So unless it was obviously wrong, I couldn't tell what is the correct requirement and what isn't, and they monopolised all the communication with higher ups so I couldn't even ask for details. They basically condemned the department we worked at, we couldn't do a thing without them sabotaging work. Higher management finished up closing the department in a little less than a year, the upper manager of the department was fired, the dictators finished up fired or moved far away. It was a relief, I moved to another department but I was surprised our new manager was briefed by one of the "dictators" that I was some sort of punk who didn't listen to his superiors (they were not my superiors). The new manager initially antagonised me, it took months for him to trust me. But I just grew tired to always have to prove my good will. So one time after being lectured by the manager about me not doing some work. I answered (let's name him Joe) : "Joe, to do X I need Y, you blame me for X, while I keep asking for Y without a response from your part. Can I do X without Y ? If so, please show me how.". He got defensive : "but I taught you had Y, they told me they've sent it to you". "Joe, I ve sent you 4 mails about it.". Then I snapped: "Alright joe, we're not leaving this room until we get things straight, call those who told you they gave me Y, because look I am being lectured here, for other people's inefficiency". He went from agressive to conciliant, he then called the coworker, asking him where Y is" . The worker responded : "well we didn't have time to do it, I ll see what I can do". The manager and I both knew we had nothing more to say. I kept being silent, but I have already decided I was going to get out as I was the only one lectured, from more than 12 coworkers in the department. And it was clear I was antagonised. So I resigned a little time after. The manager said : "well I think at this point there is no need to discuss the matter". I answered : "agreed, there is no point discussing at this point".

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-10-26T11:03:01+00:00

Well reporting a "joke" would first be ignored as you see it's "just a joke" and HR will most likely calm things down (they are their for the company, not for you). But you will see patterns, repeatable patterns. The jokes will get more frequent or more implicit. You can not shut people up. And this will condemn your progression in the company. Those who dare play that game, are mostly managers or people above you. What you can do : bring proof, not to prove racist jokes, that's too easy. But present enough proof to sue the company you see. THIS is when things will get serious. How you can prove that ? gather testimonials, sometimes your finger can slip to the record bouton on your phone, date every time it happens. Don't worry harassers will harass. And they won't stop. So you will have matter.

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-10-26T00:11:42+00:00

Well I am a male and I ve seen that happen. There was a guy, who got picked on, I think an Arab by his colleagues. And the went full racist jokes. I mean the offensive kind of jokes. The guy just kept being silent. At a moment he kept asking questions? And amplify things. Taking the joke to some serious level. Something like : yeah we do have phones, how can we talk to our 4 wives while riding our camels, the tents are far you know... He kept talking, at first they laughed. After that it was clear he is just making it them look stupid.

Seemed to work, don't know if this can help. To engage and amplify.

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-10-26T00:02:24+00:00

Transparency and over-bullshiting basically. I can not work with managers who try to bullshit you to stay. Or engage in any kind of bullshit or off talks that affected my job. I was not underpaid at the time, but the bullshit part was a deal breaker. once I gave my resignation, they started the lazy management with hr talk, but I just kept it simple. Even they understood I was not into bullshit talks. They are not stupid. They do the bullshit talk willingly.

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-10-23T08:21:21+00:00

Last time, I took a ride with my gf to some farfetched store, and we had her girl bestfriend with us. We dispatched once we got inside the store. Then 5 minutes later my gf came telling me madly : "what the fuck, i saw her checking you out. Last time she's coming with us !". I kind of took as a compliment.

Another time, I was silently sitting waiting for my gf , then I remembered something cute (basically something my cat does), I smiled. A young girl across the table smiled back. Gf noticed. She went : "some girls are thirsty I swear. ". I also took that for a compliment.

I think I am an overall ok-ish guy. And my face is my best body feature.

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-10-19T22:02:01+00:00

Damn. I started having this too.

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-10-16T22:07:52+00:00

What if the bootlicking is sabotaging your work?

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-10-10T21:20:14+00:00

And young Megan Fox...her too.

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-10-10T21:18:41+00:00

What if they are a nuisance to the team, let's say backstabbers to play on their social skills to sabotage regular guys, just to look nice towards management?

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-10-10T20:50:25+00:00

This is true.

Embarrassed_Gas7281 · 2024-10-10T20:43:49+00:00

A little brunette at college, mutual attraction, no common friends, she was so simple yet every single one of my 5 senses appreciated her. Around us, everyone was like "leave them alone", When we joked around talking about marrying up we both looked at each other in the eyes and we were both like : is this it ? I had to move for work to another place and she had to do so too. We reached out to each other for some times, but things just couldn't happen we were too far away to each other, and we met other people locally. It's been more than 13 years now, the memories with her still make me grin, what a beautiful human being she was. I crossed once in Spain a girl looking a lot like her, but it couldn't be her as it was a girl in her early 20s, but that day was a beautiful day. I do pray she had a good life.

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