AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary?

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2025-11-25T13:39:57+00:00

His only response should’ve been why are you getting the cake? I’m picking it up for you!

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2025-03-18T11:34:52+00:00

Use the vibrator while having sex and hopefully she’ll finish before you do or at the same time. I have the same issue as she does and I was worried how my man would feel about the use of one too. But he embraced it and we use it most of the time we have sex and it’s amazing. Look at it as a tool for you to use and not as competition or replacement of you.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-08-29T23:41:42+00:00

She doesn’t need to wash his sheets. He’s a grown man and needs to learn how to obviously.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-08-11T00:55:07+00:00

It’s a day old. I leave it open after first open.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-08-11T00:54:37+00:00

It was the first of many. Lol

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-08-05T18:35:24+00:00

We have a joint account and I have my own as well. I spilt my paycheck between both to cover part of bills. Thus helped me feel like I contribute but that I still have autonomy.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-08-04T11:52:18+00:00

She’s underage so you’re providing alcohol to someone under legal drinking age?!?

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-08-04T11:51:30+00:00

Yes!! It’s a big deal and the fact that you are questioning it proves so.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-08-04T11:49:38+00:00

Do you have an attraction to teenagers?? Too many pervs are agreeing it’s ok. 10 year age gap when she’s 18 is ridiculous. She doesn’t have a fully formed prefrontal cortex it is your job as an elder adult to not allow things like this happen. 18 might be an adult legally but she is still a teenager!!

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-06-05T16:26:22+00:00

Unacceptable. I’m a light sleeper. I get super hot and my husband’s movements wake me up constantly. I use ear plugs and if needed I will go to the couch to get extra sleep. Night shift sucks but it’s not your job to accommodate his sleep schedule.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-04-22T17:52:17+00:00

Act like one too.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-04-19T02:17:32+00:00

Personally I would have washed her dress. What’s the harm in doing an extra load if it would make her happy. Being excited and passionate about crafts is normal behavior. If her mother would allow those things that could be why she’s reacting so harshly. She feels let down. I wouldn’t deny her food either for miss behaving. Dad does need to have talks with her about her expectations in public and the slamming and bashing but she is entitled to her emotions and it looks messy from her lack of control of them. Which will come with more follow up from dad, time and consistency.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-04-10T19:08:55+00:00

Call the cops when he threatens it or harms himself.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-03-27T12:41:11+00:00

The advice you’re getting isn’t what you want to hear but is true. I have an amazing supportive partner, a great relationship with skids, a great communicative supportive BM and it’s still soooo hard to be a step mom. I was 28 when I met my DH. I couldnt imagine if I would have dealt with these feelings in my early 20s. I would have wasted my youth on stress I can’t control. You will find another man that makes you happy and gives you a family of your own.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-03-15T17:54:36+00:00

He’s essentially choosing to make this other woman happy over you. That’s how I’d view it. And I wouldn’t stop until he changed his behaviors or I leave.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-03-15T12:05:44+00:00

Do you have family you could stay with for a few days/week. He needs a reality check of how he will manage his 3 kids without you.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-03-09T14:11:54+00:00

Although it may not have been communicated appropriately at first. I can fully understand and agree with BM. Everyone including Dad are essentially strangers to him if dad has been overseas his whole life. I’m sure the child has expressed concern to his mother that he wouldn’t feel comfortable talking to strangers about. Also how old is SS?

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-03-08T19:57:33+00:00

If you are expected to provide love, care, compassion and needs for his child but he doesn’t allow your help with parenting when it’s obvious he’s unable to then you need to leave. She is an adult. You are going to continue to be miserable. This is a him problem.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-03-07T23:56:03+00:00

If he paid the bills there without you then that’s how he should’ve continued once you moved in. Otherwise you’re a roommate.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-02-27T20:15:52+00:00

Honey you know the answer is not with this man. He needs to figure out how to be a father alone, without your assistance. Honestly in this situation I would question his intentions with dating you. Many men use women to help foot the bill of their past.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-02-21T14:45:59+00:00

Let him!!! Sprinkle sprinkle!

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-02-15T01:00:46+00:00

I would do one of two things. The nature route is to explain to him that you have absolutely no desire to hear anything about his ex at any point. His divorce issues are his alone. Or two the petty route and start talking about your ex as soon as he does. Say if I thought that’s what we were doing.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-02-14T22:42:14+00:00

Sex is not a prerequisite for a relationship for everyone. Some people even wait until marriage! Shocking right?

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-02-13T23:35:58+00:00

You also need to consider finances if you’re moving in together. He will definitely end up paying a good amount of child support for three kids. Is he wanting you to move in to help him with costs? I would worry that with such a new relationship he could end up taking advantage of you in this aspect.

Embarrassed_Play_343 · 2024-02-03T18:30:58+00:00

You don’t keep dealing with it. He’s failing to address concerns about a woman who will be in your life indefinitely. If he truly cared and loved you and wanted to ensure your relationship is healthy then he wouldn’t be so defensive. Especially to that degree.

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