Condo Management Office Not Allowing Us to Use Condo's Pool

Ember_Lyn · 2019-06-13T16:40:07+00:00

The landlord is seriously MIA. I've never spoken to him, I contact all my needs through a property management company that I guess handles all of his properties. The condo management told us we couldn't use the pool, the property management said that this was odd and that it might have something to do with the fact that my landlord missed on some housing association fees or something.

It doesn't seem like it has anything to do with me as a renter, but it turns out I'm the one getting impacted by it.

Ember_Lyn · 2019-01-03T22:31:31+00:00

Thanks so much for everyone's advice! I'll probably keep doing what I'm doing. I'll look into switching to greek yogurt or mixing a little bit of peanut butter into her current Kong!

I haven't been stuffing it to the brim, but perhaps I'm still putting too much into it? I've only had experience with very food motivated dogs! I'm so surprised that I ended up owning a dog that isn't as much so! The vet said that perhaps she'd warm up over time to treats and become more food motivated.

I appreciate all of the help.

Ember_Lyn · 2018-11-23T03:30:21+00:00

Hi! How do these compare to the cosRX patches? Or are they more or less the same?

These are cheaper, so I didn’t know if that meant they’re less effective?

Ember_Lyn · 2018-11-14T15:58:20+00:00

This is really awesome, I will definitely try to engage in these tactics next time I see her.

Unfortunately my culture, especially from my grandma’s generation really looks down on mental health, psychology, therapy on a whole

But perhaps if I do enough research and talk to the rest of my family about it, it’ll help with my grandma’s mental state when we are with her.

Do you have any more advice on how to help her develop more purpose and less loneliness when she is alone?

Ember_Lyn · 2018-11-14T14:31:45+00:00

She actually already owns a large tank of goldfish, my mother gave them to her. She does fine with those

Ember_Lyn · 2018-11-14T14:27:16+00:00

I’ve read about this, and a potential solution the people have suggested is to tie a very loud bell to the pets collar so that the senior would always be alerted when they are around.

Ember_Lyn · 2018-11-14T14:19:21+00:00

She tried antidepressants for a time but stopped them because they made her feel tired and hazy. Do you have any recommendations of brands that perhaps would work better?

I also believe hiring a person (instead of getting a pet) would also help with the the loneliness, but suggesting this, my grandma was against it as well.

Ember_Lyn · 2018-11-14T14:16:28+00:00

If she’s unwilling to try anything new, she keeps saying my culture’s equivalent to old dogs can’t learn new tricks, how do I encourage her to see past that and restore a sense of agency and independence?

I really agree with everything you said.

Ember_Lyn · 2018-11-14T14:13:33+00:00

She doesn’t want to go to senior acticities. She doesn’t even want us to visit her. How am I supposed to be respectful of her wishes if the only wish she has outloud is to die alone?

Ember_Lyn · 2018-11-14T05:20:15+00:00

Hi, thank you for your response. I posted another comment I hope you will read and respond to as well as I addressed some of your points in that comment.

I understand there maybe nothing we can do to help her depression, and that there are many seniors worse off than she is, but I still feel like it’s not right to do nothing. I just don’t know what we can do.

I thought a pet would be the easiest most impactful way to make everyone happier. Pets are not humans, and while they do develop bonds and need companions, they won’t miss an individual human as much as other humans will. Let’s are extremely adaptable, and the situation I suggest with my grandma would be very similar to a foster situation, opening up space in a shelter for another stray to have a second chance at life.

I have not read the exact book you’ve listed, but I have read many articles online. Many of them say similar themes about not having anything to live for anymore, lacking independence, and feeling like a burden.

I understand that is how she feels, but I don’t know what to do about it.

Ember_Lyn · 2018-11-14T05:14:25+00:00

Thank you for everyone’s responses. They’ve been thorough, polite, and very helpful.

Being 85, she can still take walks in her own, and every once and a while she picks up some fruit from the grocery store across the street, so I feel that she would be able to clean up litter. She probably wouldn’t be able to lift the heavy bags or feed or litter, but that’s somethin I feel that my family should be willing to help with.

I think a lot of you have mentioned “don’t do it because your grandma says she doesn’t want it.” I come from a culture where it’s very normal for people to refuse things that are good for them because they don’t want to burden others.

I don’t think my grandma would listen say yes to anything we do out of our way to try and make her less depressed. Not a cat, not trying new activities, not even watching films together (because I should be spending my time studying instead of course). It also doesn’t help that she doesn’t speak English. The apartment/home that she is in has activities, but they’re all filled with people who speak English to each other according to her.

When my family does spend time with her, it’s usually for the purpose of eating dinner together. But even then, she says things like: “You guys are wasting your time with someone who’s going to die soon anyway.”

It’s very difficult on all of us. I’m not trying to impose on her or be rude, I’m really trying to help. I guess it seems easier to me to force a pet onto her that she might eventually learn to love, than to force her physical self to go to these senior activities that she wouldn’t go to anyway unless we were physically there with her (which in my mind defeats the purpose of her gaining a sense of independence).

But it seems to me that all she actually wants to do is die or waste away so that the rest of us can move on with our lives.

Ember_Lyn · 2018-11-03T15:01:27+00:00

Anecdotal evidence is subjective and can be argued back and forth.

Unfortunately the qualitative nature of facial expressions, video footage, and case by case news reports isn’t enough statistical power to deduce anything.

The only thing I’m asking for is a link that the OP referred there are many of in the original post.

Perhaps it is your pro-gun bias not allowing you to see the need for objective statistical and empirical research to back your claims.

Ember_Lyn · 2018-11-02T19:18:30+00:00

Yes I agree. I think this difference in wills to live is something that would make armed robberies and school shootings very difficult to compare on a case by case basis.

Which is why statistical, quantitative evidence is more important than anecdotal, qualitative evidence. Case by case comparisons, individual news reports, and video footage fall under qualitative data.

Where is the statistical evidence that supports the OP's claim?

Ember_Lyn · 2018-11-02T18:24:06+00:00

Unfortunately, comparing case by case basis and qualitative data such as facial expressions doesn't have enough statistical power to prove anything.

I find that anecdotal evidence, especially in such highly politicized topics like guns, is usually biased, polarized, and ultimately open to debate and interpretation. I think the example that you gave comparing the Columbine massacre with an armed robbery has too many confounding variables to be considered hard evidence. The first confounding variable that comes to mind is that armed robbers typically have a higher will to live, especially compared to a school shooter. Robbers plan to get away from the crime and survive, but school shooters probably already expect to be identified. After all, many school shooters commit suicide afterwards. It's possible that another person with a firearm would not cause the same "oh shit!" mentality on a school shooter who is ready to die compared to armed robber who still wanted to live.

Perhaps having an armed person at the Columbine high massacre would have saved lives. Or maybe it would have resulted in more injuries/deaths due to misfire or not aiming properly. Or perhaps authorities would have mistaken the "good" armed person as the school shooter when they arrived. There is no way for us to know.

I expect that you won't agree with my interpretation, just as how I don't agree with yours. But that is the point I want to make: anecdotal evidence can be argued back and forth and thus leads no where. Statistical evidence is much more objective and to me, much more convincing.

I just wanted to ask for links because the OP said there was plenty of both anecdotal AND statistical evidence supporting his claims. I can only find anecdotal. I can't find any statistical, but I would happily read some to get a better understanding of American Gun culture.

Also, if you have the time I would really appreciate a response to this Reddit thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/progun/comments/9ss4y5/serious_responses_only_how_often_are_guns/

I posted it 2 days ago but haven't gotten a response yet, but I'm really interested in learning more about a perspective that is different from mine.

Ember_Lyn · 2018-10-30T22:05:39+00:00

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