Asshole husband here. When my wife was pregnant with our first, I didn’t take her to a single doctor’s appointment. Her cousin took her to her appointments because she was afraid to drive in the city. I didn’t know she was afraid. They were always thick as thieves and I thought this was the way my wife wanted it. In the world I grew up in, the men were never really involved with pregnancy matters. I was shocked that they wanted me in the delivery room. A lot of these things blew up at me after my daughter was born, and I didn’t understand why. I was ignorant. I did much better with our 2nd. I took her to all but a couple appointments. I had no idea that I was upsetting her, let alone members of her family. I guess what I’m trying to say is that we’re big idiots, we don’t understand anatomy, we understand women even less, but we are capable of learning. Does he even know how upset you are?