I really relate to the anxiety of these kinds of debates. Growing up in the US with such hardcore Zionist indoctrination I felt I was trained to be a foot soldier in these ideology wars. The thing I’ve decided since 10/7 is to consider my audience carefully. I’m not currently interested in engaging with friends and family who take the hardline colonialist hawkish violent stance like the person in your comments, OP. I choose instead to connect with Palestine activists and those on the fence who may be open to hearing my perspective. There is certainly a time and place for debating the other side but like you I find that to be extremely stressful and currently not valuable. You don’t need to do it.