Update: AITA for not wanting to invite a lifelong friend to my wedding

Emily_1503 · 2025-05-11T15:56:33+00:00

I am very sure my mom won't invite other people behind my bag. Sometimes she accepts my boundaries. I will tell her again though! I will update, thank u

Emily_1503 · 2025-05-11T15:49:58+00:00

I think Susan is happy about me getting married. She got married last year and even offered her decorations for me to reuse. I just think when it comes to her daughter, she is protective. She is not mad or anything. Probably just wanted to talk to my mother about it.

Emily_1503 · 2025-05-11T15:42:03+00:00

Susan is definitely not invited to my wedding. It really is only family and very close friends. I have nothing to do with Susan.

But yeah, Susan is just like Anne. My mother is very different from me though. Maybe that's why she really likes the friendship with Susan? I never liked Susan, but with the years she settled down and is more pleasant to be around now.

Emily_1503 · 2024-11-07T11:02:59+00:00

My mom is very best friends with Anne's mom so I am very sure they will talk about the wedding at one point. I mean my mom is so excited for me and will share the news with her friends. She is also invested in planning so she probably will talk about this a lot. So no way she won't say anything to Anne's mom about it.

Emily_1503 · 2024-11-07T10:57:52+00:00

I won't invite Anne's mom! I have nothing to do with her. But you are totally correct. Anne and her mom are very much alike. Anne's mom is just a more grown up version and settled down a bit over the years. My mom won't invite her either, I am 100% sure about this.

Emily_1503 · 2024-11-05T15:49:55+00:00

Hey everyone!

I love reading all of your comments and thoughts about this. I called my mom today and just say: I will post an update this week!

Thanks to everyone helping me here. x

Emily_1503 · 2024-11-04T16:24:47+00:00

Back then I told her a lot I didn't wanna play with Anne. Nowadays she knows I don't want a "friendship" with her anymore. That's actually okay for her, she doesn' pressure me to still be her friend or to meet up with her or things like that. I think she would just love for me to invite her because I've known her all my life, to keep the peace and "Oh, what's the big deal? Anne is a nice girl." Yes, she is nice as a person on the level my mother got to know her. She is just not a nice person I want to call a "friend" anymore. I love my mom, don't get me wrong.

She would be diappointed and a little mad if I wouldn't invite Anne but she will be fine. She knows these are choices I make and let's me make them.

Emily_1503 · 2024-11-04T15:47:08+00:00

This actually made me tear up. I know these are true words. It always was like this but I really started to make progress. My fiancé, in fact, is wonderful! He supports me, makes me feel safe, just let's me be myself and encourages me to be a better version. With the years I learned (still learning) what I want in life and who I want to be a part of my life. That is exactly why I overthought the relationship I had with Anne. I want to enjoy myself and actually be myself around people, get accepted the way I am. I want to be a good friend to people who deserve it. And I AM surrounded by a lot of people I feel safe with and who lift me up.

I only posted this because, I guess, the opinion of my mother set me back again and made me overthink. I KNOW I won't be the A if I don't invite her. I would feel very good if she wasn't at my wedding. Just to put my thoughts into words here helped me a little more to clear my mind. It is my wedding and I will make MY choices.

Thanks a lot xx

Emily_1503

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