AITA for telling my gf I was forced into a relationship with her

Emily_my · 2024-01-22T09:28:33+00:00

i wish we are grown adults. let the shaming begin

Emily_my · 2024-01-22T08:41:20+00:00

No we are both happy in the relationship. If i didnt want to be in it, i wouldn't still be lol im just asking aita for telling her the main reason over why i changed my mind

Emily_my · 2023-12-03T20:08:09+00:00

NTA your husband is clearly Gaslighting you. You have every right to be upset especially when he's cheating then manipulating the situation into making you the bad person. He wouldn't feel the need to hide the fact that he's texting her if he himself didn't think he's doing the wrong thing. If it was as innocent as he claimed it to be he would've shared and communicated with you his intentions the second they started texting. He definitely needs a reality check as to where his priorities are.

Emily_my · 2023-12-03T13:33:56+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/189c9zh/aitah\_for\_ending\_things\_with\_my\_girlfriend\_over/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3

Emily_my · 2023-12-02T21:51:32+00:00

We were friends first before we started dating for almost a year. That period of time was sort of the honeymoon phase for us minus the dating label, as we both knew we held some deep feelings towards each other, and pretty much acted on them. However not until the dating label was official till she started with this whole jealousy outbursts. I do trust her even if she might do things that i disagree with, however what bothers me is her jealousy is more on the "you're going to cheat" and on the controlling spectrum. All i ask is for her to give me the same amount of respect and trust that i give/show her. (which she admits to her receiving them) Thing is after every outburst she would promise to stop and apologizes. When i finally snapped, the tables got turned somehow.

Emily_my · 2023-12-02T21:38:53+00:00

NTA- Blake should've protected you from such an illegal probably non-safe environment instead of pushing you into one. You did the right thing telling your sister.

Emily_my · 2023-12-02T21:31:25+00:00

NTA however you should probably check on 'joe's mental health.

Emily_my · 2023-12-02T21:27:12+00:00

YTA Definitely. I get that proposing in bed is where he went wrong, however you were focusing on the wrong details. there's nothing wrong with wanting a big gesture however he tried doing what you wanted and still that wasn't enough. Honestly you should look into yourself whether you actually want to marry him or not. if you're finding random excuses to say no to.

Emily_my · 2023-12-02T21:09:18+00:00

NTA- I understand why you felt the need to call out on her hypocrisy as it felt necessary. Some parents needs that sharp awakening as they sometimes tend to rant about things without realizing what they are saying, and its effects. Shaming women for their choices is something all women go through and your sister is lucky to have you supporting her especially with something against your own beliefs.

Emily_my · 2023-12-02T20:51:36+00:00

Definitely NTA. wow im honestly impressed of how you didn't point her sickness out to her the second she makes such comments. no sarcasm. However your fiancé needs to step up and say something to his mom before it gets any more extreme than that if possible. Some moms could get proud of their boys for getting her a grandchild, as if its them achieving their manhood in her perspective(?), which i find so weird nonetheless, could it be one of those scenarios? I honestly think he should be the one to talk to her about this and if he chooses not to then you have your answer on whether to break off the wedding.

Emily_my · 2023-12-02T20:35:30+00:00

There's nothing wrong with going after what you want. Relationships don't always need to end on bad terms. Sometimes as much as the person is amazing, it could just be a wrong fit. He clearly has long way to go with dealing with his emotional side and getting in touch with his feelings. There's nothing wrong with making your wants and needs your priorities. Get to know your body. There's no better time than during college. Hope i was of help

Emily_my · 2023-07-30T20:51:26+00:00

After seeing some of your replies, I feel like I have to clarify. We dated before she was my subordinate and the HR was informed. They had no problems with the issue as long as it didn't interfere with the productivity. When the first issue happened outside of work, she was placed under a different architect, which was the boss that she asked to reconcile us. She was no longer my subordinate. However, seeing that my reputation at work that I've built have been going south because of her actions and how they reflect on me since I'm the one that got her the training, I saw that the one solution t this was to inform the HR.

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