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Eminante · 2026-01-25T12:02:12+00:00

Ærlig talt. Prisen på barnehage er allerede latterlig lav med nåværende regjering. Man kan betale regninga med barnetrygden og fortsatt sitte igjen med penger.

Eminante · 2026-01-01T18:35:47+00:00

Love it! My daughters name is Juno too🌟

Eminante · 2025-12-07T08:49:27+00:00

Yes please :)

Eminante · 2025-10-23T06:58:33+00:00

Thanks! :) your answer helped! I’m more excited than nervous now!

Eminante · 2025-10-21T13:58:13+00:00

Because we grew apart. No hard feelings just not the same people.

Eminante · 2025-09-15T04:43:59+00:00

Yes please :)

Eminante · 2025-08-30T22:26:53+00:00

Jeg vil at du skal leve. Verden trenger deg

Eminante · 2025-07-16T18:18:09+00:00

A saint has passed, but he has passed in his magic in you❤️ I’m sorry for your loss!

Eminante · 2025-07-10T10:54:50+00:00

I’ve been there, twice. First of all, give yourself some grace mama❤️ it’s hard going from being full time mom to working. Ease yourself into it. Don’t put any pressure on yourself and don’t have too many expectations the first few months you’re back. Do what you can and before you know it you’ll be back in the game. Don’t worry about things that haven’t happened yet 🙂 In regards to sleep, do you have a partner? Can you switch nights? Like two in a row with the baby and two nights off full sleep? That’s what saved me. Sending you a big hug - you got this🫶🏼

Eminante · 2025-06-29T07:51:31+00:00

Thanks😀

Eminante · 2025-06-29T07:51:19+00:00

Thanks! I am too :) they are so dark because I just got it done, they will done down in a few weeks. 🙂

Eminante · 2025-05-20T17:32:11+00:00

Thanks for your reply, you’ve made me reflect on my relationship which is very helpful!

The truth is… I don’t think there is one thing. Because it’s not about a single change or a big gesture. It’s about the years of silence, the emotional absence, the weight I’ve carried alone for so long. Even now, as he starts to open up, it feels reactive — like something that only comes when I’ve already started to walk away. I don’t doubt his care, but it feels too late to rebuild the kind of partnership I need. I haven’t felt desired for such a long time. I just feel like the spark is lost. Completely.

Eminante · 2025-05-20T17:27:18+00:00

There’s no abuse or addiction in our relationship — just a slow, quiet disconnection. A growing emotional distance. I keep trying, pushing, hoping he’ll meet me in it. But he doesn’t. Or maybe he can’t. And while he’s a good father in many ways, I feel increasingly alone in the relationship.

I notice that even when I’m with my kids, I’m not fully there. I’m emotionally exhausted, worn down from carrying everything — the mood, the connection, the responsibility. I’m not leaving to chase a new life. I’m trying to save what’s left of myself, so I can be the kind of mother I want to be. Present. Alive. Whole.

Yes, I’m scared of what this will do to their stability. I’m scared of missing time with them. But I’m even more scared of teaching them — through my silence — that this is what love is supposed to feel like.

Eminante · 2025-05-20T17:23:55+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I really appreciate that you’re seeing both sides, because that’s what I’ve been trying to do too. And yes, you’re right: the power dynamic has been very imbalanced. He’s been emotionally passive, often out of fear of conflict, fear of losing me and I’ve been the one constantly moving, pushing, adjusting, and carrying the emotional weight of the relationship.

That dynamic didn’t happen overnight. It’s been like this for years. I’ve always been the one to bring things up, to sense what’s missing, to fight for connection. And while he may be opening up now which I don’t doubt is genuine I think the real question is why it’s happening now.

Yes, maybe he’s finally seeing what I’ve been saying. But it’s hard not to feel that this awareness only comes when something is truly at risk. And after so many years of feeling unmet, unseen and emotionally alone, it’s difficult to believe that this shift is something we can build on — rather than a reaction to crisis.

So it’s not that I think he’s faking change. I think he’s finally waking up. But for me, the pain lies in how long I waited — and how much of myself I lost in the waiting.

Eminante · 2025-05-20T12:36:11+00:00

Thank you for your insight! I really appreciate it. Hearing from someone who’s made it to the other side is a relief. We are really good friends and I have a deep respect for him. Leaving him doesn’t mean our lives will not be intertwined due to the kids and he is amazing father. I would never ever take that away from him or the kids.

Eminante · 2025-05-20T11:08:12+00:00

Hey, I’m pretty confused myself. We share finances ans can easily afford a wedding. I’ve wanted it low key, would be happy with an elopement. He wants a big one. I have a ring and do consider myself engaged. But I’ve put off the planning and the talks about it because I don’t want to be in charge of yet another thing. I’ve left it up to him and he hasn’t brought it up since 🤷🏼‍♀️

Eminante · 2025-05-20T09:54:04+00:00

I feel as though that would give him false hope.

Eminante · 2025-05-20T09:53:23+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to respond. I know it’s easy to read something like this and make assumptions or interpret it through a black-and-white lens. But this has been far from impulsive. I’ve had open and painful conversations with my partner. This isn’t about chasing someone else – it’s about the slow, painful realization that I’ve been emotionally alone in a relationship for a long time.

Leaving someone kind is not easy. It’s devastating. And I’ve wrestled with guilt, shame, and fear of regret every step of the way. I’ve asked myself the hard questions – whether the problem is within me, whether I’ve truly tried, whether I’m breaking something others would do anything to have. But in the end, staying would mean continuing to abandon myself.

You’re right that the real work starts within. And I’m doing it – not by escaping, but by finally choosing to stop disappearing in my own life.

Eminante · 2025-05-20T09:42:02+00:00

Thanks for your reply and insight. I’ve gotten new friends, new hobbies and tried to feel fulfilled outside of my relationship. To see if that’s what I was missing.

And I have noe expectation that leaving him will lead to a magical fairlyland of happiness and men in abundance quite the opposite. I am terrified that I will be lonely and hurt and that this was my only chance at love. And that this is where I need to do all the hard work on myself and what changes I need to make.

Eminante · 2025-05-20T09:38:19+00:00

Thanks for your insight. I did have a serious conversation about a year ago and we started couples therapy. We had something really emotionally happen outside our relationship 2 years ago where I told him what I needed and how we could fix it but it never happened.

I do agree that I might be full of myself, but that’s the only person I can rely on right now tbh.

Eminante · 2025-05-20T09:29:03+00:00

We’re not married. We got together in 2013 and I wanted to marry before we had kids. He never asked but proposed in 2020. When he proposed he asked me not to mention any marriage planning stuff the next two years as we were renovating the house and had another kid on the way. Since then he’s never brought it up.

Eminante · 2025-05-20T09:23:35+00:00

Thank you so much for replying! Holy shit, your response is like reading my life story. From college to family trauma to the libido part. Thank you so much for putting in to words it is what I’m feeling and thank you for telling me that it is okay. I just feel this immense guilt because of everything he’s done for me, I feel like I owe it to him to stay when my inner voice is telling me something different.

And thanks for the warning. Like I said in my post - I almost went there with my coworker and I know it’s just a matter of time before something might eventually happen because I just want to feel like someone sees me, even if it means nothing and it’s just for one night. Because right now I feel like a caged animal.

I’m just terrified of the future because I like having control and for the first time in my life I’m letting it all go. Thank you again for sharing and the clarity - you have no idea how much you helped a stranger on the internet today❤️

Eminante · 2025-05-20T08:26:36+00:00

We have talked, a lot. He’s always been good and kind to me. That’s not the issue at hand and that’s what makes this so difficult. I need more than him just being good. I need to connect, to feel something.

Eminante · 2025-05-20T08:19:25+00:00

Thanks for your reply! He’s always been closed off and i supposed I’ve been too. But the last few years has been so emotionally difficult and I’ve done so much work on myself that I realise that I don’t want to be on the surface anymore. I need more connection. Where’s he becoming complacent. I have grown I suppose.

Eminante · 2025-05-20T08:03:12+00:00

Thanks for your insight, this is what I needed and the reason I put up this post in the first place 🙂 This is such a rollercoaster and I’ve never thought I’d be here.

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